Will it traumatize non-potty trained 4 yo if I bring him to school in regular underwear? (update... - Page 2

[JL83]

Originally Posted by mommyshoppinghabit

I've tried but DS begs me to put a diaper on him.

My DD begs me for alot of things which I say no to.

I'd do it in steps. Just like with stopping things like soothers or bottles, I'd tell him when he can have a diaper and when he can't. We had to take DD's soother away during the day (compromise with her dentist to let her keep it for sleeping because her teeth were starting to be affected). She begged for it and we just held to the fact that she could have it for nap time and bedtime.

We had a rough few days, including her spending 1 morning "napping" because that was the way for her to get her soother. We let her "game" the rules but we didn't give in. So if she was happy to lay on her bed reading a book for an hour so that she could have her soother, we let her. But the moment she was done napping she had to give it back to us.

[LynnS6]

Originally Posted by mommyshoppinghabit

I mean, with doing #2, it has to be ready to come out and I can't get him to sit down. Did anyone else w/a boy potty train pee-pee and poo at different times?

yep, both my kids (boy and girl) trained earlier for pee than poo. For the first couple of months, I told ds that if he needed to poop and didn't want to use the potty chair, he should tell me, and we'd put a pull-up on.

Then we transitioned to -- you can use a pull-up, but you have to put it on. Then I bribed him majorly!

It's important for pooping that the child have something to push their feet against, so either a potty chair on the floor or a stool underneath their feet on the real potty.

[flitters]

Ds learned to poop on the potty by climbing up onto it and squatting (he was really tiny at the time - potty learned early because he hated diapers). He still climbs up and squats on the potty to poop and he's now 5. He figured out the squat for himself (wouldn't sit down) and it's just more comfortable for him that way. It may be something else to suggest, and perhaps to echo what Lynn said about having something to put his feet on.

[mommyshoppinghabit]

I have the Contoured Step Up Potty Chair and and ds looks very comfy sitting on it, but he still has no motiviation to poop on it. He hasn't pooped since yesterday morning. It is now 36 hours later. Should I be worried?

[flapjack]

IMO, I'd get concerned. I'd push fluids and offer him the foods you know are likely to make him "go" and if that doesn't work within the next day or two then I'd consider movicol.

The reason I'm saying this is that DD was dry from an early age- 18 months or so- so we put her in pants. She refused to poo in the potty and would hold her poos for 10 days or more. We put her back in pullups for everything, she pooed in them daily quite happily. Pants- 10 days. Pull-ups- daily. And so on for two and a half years. It was hell.

This first poo in the toilet/potty is probably going to be frightening for him, but anything you can do to make sure that it isn't painful as a result of withholding will make the process easier. Also, talk about his feelings. Everybody poops is a great book, too.