End of EC? :-(

[Moonchild77]

Well, it is nog going so well...

I posted about pooping behind chairs and not telling me , only afterwards, now he poops like 4 times a day??????? (he is 14 months) and in his diaper or trainer or underwear.

Our EC here is me cleaning up after him, be it a diaper or the floor..... :-(

sometimes he does tell me "bah"and points to the ground or takes his diaper off, but non-EC friends babies of 1 y do that too...

We were no where near stage 2, sometimes a day or so but I am a bit busy with ds1, who is almost 4 and I find myself putting diapers on ds2 a lot.

I do not know about wet diaper pails, but need one, since I have pull and pocket diapers and they cannot be soaked?? Or not in soap???

Sigh, I always said, I would not have started using cloth if I was not ECing with ds2... well the time has come I REALLY understand what I was saying then!!!!

Where do I go from here????

His night are by the way filled with nursing and peeing, never dry!

[JMJ]

mamma

You've gotta do what is best for everybody. There's nothing wrong with taking a break from EC until you feel like your son is more ready for PLing. Good luck to you. If you want to continue with cloth diapers, I'd post in the CDing forum. There's a lot of good hints there for keeping it simple.

[Moonchild77]

no, I really do not want to stop ECing, but how??

Should I go with timing now?
Or keep the diapers off and undies on?

Any one with a same thing happening???
or in the past?

[isabchi]

I been there with my two EC children. For many children diaper is vicious cycle, so I took it off diaper day and night. I prepare my DH for lots of misses for a few days. We focus during that days in lots of timing and communication. I show the pee they just made, flush the toilet and say bye to their waste. They like a lot when we wave bye bye...So cute!. If we had a misses...don't make such a good deal about it!.. We say loudly that an accident happened and I asked them to help me to clean up. I hope this can help you a little bit.

[zoebird]

first, be assured that you are doing everything right. you are.

second, i would go with timing. every hour (or every half hour), go to the potty. Take both children, do the younger one first and the elder one second. Explain to the elder child (away from the younger one) that he is going to help his younger sibling learn to use the potty, that he's going to help mommy. Then, he will be enlisted as a helper--and you know how LOs love to help!

Third, on the issue of diapers, that is entirely up to you. We discovered that since putting DS in trainers pretty much full time right now (because we are staying with friends and he mentioned that he was, for whatever reason, uncomfortable with diaper free time, so i limit that to a few hours in the morning when both of them are at work), that he is signaling more clearly and effectively than he has been in a number of weeks.

now, that may be due to not wanting to have wet trainers, or it may be due to the fact that his teeth have come through or due to the fact that he's sort of "settled" into this home and rhythm after two weeks (we are in a state of great change, which can be hard on LOs).

But, whatever it is, right now, trainers are working.

So you have to decide what you want to do about diapers/trainers and what have you. Either way, you are choosing the right thing, ok?

And even if that means going with diapers for a month or more--lots of misses and taking yourself off the emotional hook--then that is *fine*. You are still doing great and the lessons that come from EC are still there for you and your DS. you've already experienced them, are experiencing them.

ok?

you're doing everything right, no matter what you decide.

[hrsmom]

Good advice here! We were pretty much the same around 14 months. I agree, diapers can be a vicious cycle, but we mostly did diapers any way. Our "potty strike" lasted for a very long time, though! I know what you mean about CD'ing and EC- in the beginning it was easy to CD and I pretty much became a full time CD'er for awhile there. We might have had one or two catches a day, but lots of misses of both kinds!

My LO is 21 months old now and became a "stage 1" at about 17 months. She went back to not even a stage one for awhile there, and now is back there, but stage 2 seems far away at this point! (This is OK, she's my only one and it's nice that she stays dry, even if I do have to remind her each time.)

It is totally ok to take a little break, or to just offer at a few predictable times. I'm pretty sure that for our long stretch of misses, the only catches were (maybe) right after a nap and when first waking up.

It seems to me the rules or approach to EC kind of changes after they turn 1. Some kids choose to pee/poop other than in the potty, and some don't really seem to care if they're wet or messy. That would be my kid! (She does care now.)

When my LO was 15 months old I was aware of a couple of non-EC'd kids who seemed to not want to poop in their diapers, and I was wondering why the heck my babe (who didn't mess her pants even one time from 8-10 months of age) didn't seem to care. I finally realized that I had to stop thinking about "other kids" EC'd or otherwise, and to stop comparing her current behavior with what she'd done before. (Why is she pooping like this when she didn't before? That kind of thing!)

Even though our strke lasted a long time, at around 17 months, she just seemed to get it, and it was such a natural and wonderful transition. Totally worth having done EC, even though I did a ton of laundry. Now we're having fun with panties and going potty together, and STAYING DRY! and the strike is but a distant memory!