We've coslept since DD was born. It's been fine, in general, and we have no particular desire to move her out (plus, no bed, so!).
The thing is, we want her to go to bed before we do. We go to bed late, 11-12ish, and DH is sick of having no time with me alone. Usually we watch a movie or something for the last hour or two we're up, and DD falls asleep draped across me or hanging precariously off the couch. We didn't always do this - she used to be put down by DH (when she was old enough she didn't absolutely have to nurse to sleep) and then he could creep away for an hour or so before we all went to bed.
But recently it seems she's become hypersensitive to noise while she sleeps or something, and absolutely will NOT fall asleep unless a) I'm nursing her or b) DH is sitting on the bed beside her on his laptop. The moment he sneaks away she wakes up and cries, like she used to do when she was three months old - but she's nearly two!
So I know we've obviously slipped into bad habits here, but how do we get back into good ones? I don't want her to go to sleep at 7PM and sleep through the night or anything; I just want her to go to bed with DH at nine or so, let him leave once she's fallen asleep, and give us a few hours alone!
We've tried having DH comfort her if she wakes up alone, rather than me; but it doesn't work. She just gets hysterical to the point where she throws up... which is particularly annoying as she doesn't eat much to begin with, and then gets hungry again (but too upset to eat solid foods) and breastfeeds all night.
Aarrrgh.
Ideas?
The thing is, we want her to go to bed before we do. We go to bed late, 11-12ish, and DH is sick of having no time with me alone. Usually we watch a movie or something for the last hour or two we're up, and DD falls asleep draped across me or hanging precariously off the couch. We didn't always do this - she used to be put down by DH (when she was old enough she didn't absolutely have to nurse to sleep) and then he could creep away for an hour or so before we all went to bed.
But recently it seems she's become hypersensitive to noise while she sleeps or something, and absolutely will NOT fall asleep unless a) I'm nursing her or b) DH is sitting on the bed beside her on his laptop. The moment he sneaks away she wakes up and cries, like she used to do when she was three months old - but she's nearly two!
So I know we've obviously slipped into bad habits here, but how do we get back into good ones? I don't want her to go to sleep at 7PM and sleep through the night or anything; I just want her to go to bed with DH at nine or so, let him leave once she's fallen asleep, and give us a few hours alone!
We've tried having DH comfort her if she wakes up alone, rather than me; but it doesn't work. She just gets hysterical to the point where she throws up... which is particularly annoying as she doesn't eat much to begin with, and then gets hungry again (but too upset to eat solid foods) and breastfeeds all night.
Aarrrgh.
Ideas?
or read. Sometimes DH will come up and we'll watch a DVD or watch an episode of House on Hulu with headphones on. (Not exactly great-quality Hubby/Wife time, I know.) Since DS still wakes in the night to nurse, I have to stay close. Our only other bedroom is downstairs, and it's too far to run for DS's little slurp slurps.
