You are the mom. Setting her up for success isn't mean. Waking her uup is pretty foundational for a 7 yr old. I think it is unfair to expect her to parent herself in the morning because you sound unwilling to do that. Letting her be a child means getting her to school on time so she isn't teased by her peers or missing out on learning. That is the kinder way to parent her thru this. That, or commit to not being part of the institutional schooling system.
BUT isnt society always harping on success. why does a 7 year old have to hear that at every moment. she does not give me a hard time about going to school even though she doesnt want to go on some days. of course i am unwillingly to wake up a soundly sleeping child. the point is she is NOT MISSING anything.
why cant the institutional system have a heart? i guess that is where my cruz lies.
It doesn't sound like you are needing to do much more then just get yourself out of bed on time so you can wake her up on time. It is your issue, not hers. That is unfair & 'mean' (using your term) to make her late because you have an issue with getting up on time. Are you the square peg or her?
so waking her up when she is sound asleep and even half an hour really makes a difference - isnt that going against her body's rhythm AT SEVEN. this is a seven year old. NOT a teenager. it is not having an effect on anything except school rules. so what is the right parenting decision here?!!! it is not spoiling her. or me for that matter. gosh it would be good if i could get enough sleep at night.
i think its also developmental. for her. its a phase and i know it will pass. so she needs all the support she can right now.
anyways i think this issue has come to an end. and its starting to get argumentative. so i will bow out now.