Originally Posted by BarnMomma
OP here again
Well, I'm going to go, but I'm going to ask DH if we can go just for the game and skip the meal. MIL wants everyone there at 1 to eat, I guess the game starts at 3. Just too long of a day and I have some things I want to do.
I'll feed DS before we go so that he's not hungry and I'll bring snacks.
I didn't know the season was ending so soon Just shows how in touch with football I am. I can put up with this for another week or two.
Just as a side note, DS will not be ignored by anyone, but there's just so much a toddler can do in one room for 5 hours. MIL's house is not large so there's really nowhere else TO go w/ DS. But I was thinking of picking up a few new toys and letting him have them when we get there.
I'm just concerned becasue DS LOVES his aunts, uncles, grandparents etc. which of course makes me thrilled, but as such he also imitates them with such determiniation. Screaming at a TV screen is not one of the things I'd like him to pick up. And DS has a memory like a steel trap and he forgets nothing.
I just think football brings out the worst in fans. Yelling, screaming, getting so upset when someone doesn't score. I don't see people acting this way during the world series or golf or whatever else. (Certainly no one does that at horse shows! lol)
But it's family so we'll go. I just wish MIL would have SOMETHING that DS could eat. SO many of you have mentioned costco carries organic items, well then she could pick up a few without havign to make a trip to Whole Foods. Crackers, cheese, something...
If you're putting in an appearance to show family spirit, I'd do the reverse... go for the meal, but skip the football so you and your son won't be bored. I wouldn't be so concerned about the food. I eat a healthy, vegetarian diet, but even I can usually find something during gatherings. If your son has a healthy diet most of the time, I promise he will not be damaged by Costco crackers.
I hate and despise football too. My ex constantly watches it around our son, and as we are divorced and I have no control over what goes on over there, I've had to let a lot of things go. That "letting go" has been a process as my son gets older, and I still have my moments, naturally. But seriously, you will drive yourself insane if you try to control it all. At the end of the day, if my child is healthy, cheerful, curious about the world and still loves me, that's what matters most. (Let's just not get into the the fact that my ex wanted to sign our son up to PLAY football at age 8.... which did not happen... but comparatively, just watching it seems mild.)
Also, you said, "And FYI, DH agrees with me that DS should not watch TV, he just tries to sneak it when he thinks DS is not watching." The having to "sneak" it part is concerning.... Honestly, if another adult told me what I may or may not watch, I would not be happy with that person. I don't really get the "live TV" restriction, but it seems like you both are not truly on board with the rules. And commercials... I get that they're gross and manipulative - and we mostly watch PBS - they're out there. Ads are on billboards, in magazines... there's no way to avoid it. I think it's more constructive to deal
with it differently, simply explain to your child how that stuff works, than to just avoid it, because I promise you that in life, even in childhood away from you, your child will be seeing it all the time
. If you are not a materialistic household, that will make a far deeper impression on him than being exposed to commercials.
I don't know. As someone with no family within hundreds of miles, I would just say that if overall you love your in-laws and they're good people, then you are very
blessed and that cracker ingredients are not worth a second thought. If you don't like the football, and I get that, PLUS the fact that your son is too little anyway, then you'll simply have to stand up for yourself and say, "Less often!"