Last night DS STTN

[Louisep]

I'm still in shock. This is the child who has woken every 1-2 hours since 5 months old and only the night before was awake for 3 hours in the middle of the night.

What did we do? I left the room and my DH slept with DS. He didn't cry once. He went to bed at 7pm and slept until 1am (that's the "STTN" part! ). He woke, my DH got him back down quickly with no crying and he slept until 3am, woke, went back down, then woke again at 4:30am. At this point he came and got me and we switched. I nursed DS and he fell asleep until 7am.

We had been partially night-weaned for a few weeks and so I guess what we've done won't be right for most people on here. So, this is just one night and it might not be repeated, but if it is, I have to conclude that my son wakes because of me.

I'll be very sad to stop cosleeping. Perhaps after awhile I can move back in. But for now, I'm just so glad my son had a good night of sleep (oh yeah, I didn't - I still woke every 1-2 hours!).

A ray of hope?

[2boyzmama]

This is exactly what happened with my second son. We stopped cosleeping around his first birthday because he was waking SO often, and even when he was "sleeping" he wanted to be latched on to me, which meant I couldn't even roll over! It was driving me batty!!

But we tried a night of him with daddy, and he slept just fine. After a few nights I tried coming back to bed, and he was awake all night again. So we transitioned him to his own bed, and he slept really well from that point on. In his own bed.

I'm okay with it. Our whole family got better sleep with him in his own bed. Cosleeping is wonderful because you usually get more sleep that way, but we found that we all got more sleep if we didn't cosleep. So in a way, it was "baby led sleeping".

A similar thing is happening with my third son. When he sleeps in bed with us, he wakes every 2-3 hours. When he sleeps in his bassinet next to our bed, he sleeps for much longer periods. Last night he slept for...SEVEN HOURS!!! That was extreme, he's never gone that long, 4-5 is usually the longest.

So I don't know what it is. I don't know why they wake more when they're with me, but they do. Of course I still respond to their needs even with them in their own bed, I don't leave them there to cry or be scared. And when they're sick or having a bad night they're back in my bed.

[Maluhia]

I had that happen twice (the first time being a one-timer at 3 months) while DD still slept with me, I think it happening once in a while is not uncommon. That being said I think if sleeping with DH keeps your DC asleep longer and he's onld enough not to need food in the night then it's awesome. Maybe you can all be back together in a week or two once the baby's clock resets to less wakeups?

[atlantafemme]

WOOHOO! Yay for you guys! Gives me hope!

[penstamon]

That's wonderful news! I agree that I wouldn't want to be "left out" of co-sleeping, but whether or not everyone is sleeping is what matters most. Hopefully you will be able to get some sleep soon too!

[Shanny2032]

On one hand I want to borrow one of you DH's to see if it would work for us (SMBC) and on the other hand I think I would DIE if she wasn't sleeping next to me. Good for you I hope it continues!

[bodhitree]

This is exactly what's been happening at our house too. My DD has STTN three times in a row now! Last night she went to sleep at 7:45, woke once at 10:00, then slept until 7:30am! I'm not going to count on having it continue, but I sure hope it does! She sleeps horribly with me almost every time, but somehow when Daddy is with her, it's a lot easier to sleep well.

And now, since it's been a few nights, I'm starting to make my peace with it and not wake up every 1-2 hours worrying that she stopped breathing.