Ugh, my family is acting like jerks!

[akat]

I'm so frustrated. Basically my 5 yo is very spirited and needs a lot of handling [we're working hard with him], and both my husband and my mom [who will be watching him while we're in the hospital] have decided that they are just going to fight with him [husband] or feel 'rejected' by him [mom ] instead of acting like adult caregivers.

I'm so pissed, b/c hello? I need to feel safe to give birth to and care for a newborn baby here and not be the only person capable of taking care of my difficult 5 yo w/o acting like a 5yo too! Gah.

Is this *my* hormonal breakdown signaling impending labor? What part of the giant watermelon in my middle area does *not* indicate that *I* am the one who gets to be irrational right now, not *everyone else*?!!

/vent.

[Usually Curious]

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain!

Feel safe. It will all work out okay. Besides, it's only a temporary separation and I'm sure your mom will pull through with flying colors. She has to, right? Most people will step up to the plate when called upon, I believe.

[*bejeweled*]

[akat]

Thanks guys. I told [yelled at] my husband he needs to get over being pissed at our 5yo and be the other adult around here. My mom, well, she'll probably never really change, I just wish she didn't decide to act up at the very most inconvenient times. My husband will step up - he is truly great and generally does a fantastic job of taking care of me emotionally when I need it [for which I am consciously grateful all the time].

[AfricanQueen99]

They told you that? Seriously?!? You're right, but "jerks" might to too kind.

[akat]

See, totally hormonal! Trying to be pissed at my husband and then getting all teary-eyed about how wonderful he is.

[akat]

Originally Posted by AfricanQueen99

They told you that? Seriously?!? You're right, but "jerks" might to too kind.

Well, they didn't say "I decided I'm going to just fight with him"...my husband just keeps barking at him instead of just giving him his time out in a neutral voice. "Go to your room!!" [which provokes a bad reaction] instead of "You need to take a time out, please."

My mom, well, it's just too long of a story. He's going through a phase where he doesn't want to hug her goodbye so she called me and said she doesn't want to have him come over anymore. She has since gotten over it [sort of], after many many conversations, but I'm still feeling a little traumatized over it and then having my husband being kinda jerky on top of it is making me feel like no one is gonna step up and take care of things while I have this baby.

[AfricanQueen99]

Ohhh, thank god. But it's still bad. Adults need to act like, well, adults.

My grandmother gets ticked if my daughter won't give her a hello/good-bye kiss and pretends to cry. Seriously? You're trying to guilt a three year old? Blah.

[akat]

Originally Posted by AfricanQueen99

My grandmother gets ticked if my daughter won't give her a hello/good-bye kiss and pretends to cry. Seriously? You're trying to guilt a three year old? Blah.

Yeah, it's been so frustrating. He's not there to make us feel loved or happy [although of course it's great when he does, which is often because he's also very sweet], we're there to care for him and raise him. Fer cryin' out loud. When he's rude to me, I require him to be courteous, but he deserves his space as much as anyone else.