Who are you, other than a mom? - Page 3

[Stephenie]

This is hard for me. I have two very young kids, one with special needs, one who is high needs, both with a TON of energy...I've been pregnant or nursing (or both) for more than four years and I've just... well not had a lot of time for me. I still don't have the time, but I would like to make it, because I have kind of lost myself a bit. Though I've changed so much since having kids that I am a totally different person than before. So a lot of evaluation needs to be done and I really need to find myself a bit and find a way to let myself have an identity separate from my kids.

[provocativa]

I am right there with Peony. I have almost completely lost myself. I can still feel me in there, but I just have no time to do the work to bring me back out. When I am finally divorced I plan on beginning that work, but right now there is too much going on in the physical world to get down to work in the metaphysical or psychological.

[lab]

Thanks so much for this question! I LOVE IT!

Let's see.......

I am a confident, smart leader. I am engaging and fun to be around. I don't mess around and can have a mean streak in me a mile long if necessary. But mostly, I want to do the right thing and have people go away from me smiling. I am polite and kind. I try constantly to be empathetic.

I am fit. I am a runner. I look great in a bikini at 40 with a ripped six pack! I qualify to run cross country and track on the girls junior varsity team! I can do a mile in less than 6 minutes!

I am short, small and petite. I love to dress up and go out with my hubby. I love shoes, dishes and purses to distraction!!!! I have a dishes problem!!!!


i love this thread!!!!

[marimara]

Loving this thread!

I'm an artist (painting, sketching), portraits, abstract

gardener (currently patio gardening)

an INTP

avid bookreader

yogi

relentless researcher

cook (specialties: asian)

Nature's child

treehugger

environmental and feminist activist

Big sister to my sister and brother, keeper of the memories (since Mom passed)

wife to my husband

dirty hippie (as I am known by my "normal" friends)

witch (as other "normal" friends call me, even though I am not Wiccan)

Healer of ailments, friends and family from far and wide often call me w/their ailments and ills and ask me what herb/vitamin/mineral/food/etc would heal them. Often this corresponds with the above "witch", with them asking me if I have a witches brew for XYZ ailment.

ex-massage therapist who is often asked to "fix" people

ex-real estate agent who is often asked for real estate advice

[PoetryLover]

I am a wife/partner.
I am a Quaker.
I am a poet and writer. I love to journal, write essays, letters, etc.
I am a health food enthusiast.
I am a vegetarian/aspiring vegan.
I am a pacifist.
I am a lover of nature.
I am a good friend.
I am a lover of physical fitness.
I am energetic and inspiring.

[HappilyEvrAfter]

After all this time since my first response to this thread I don't have a WHOLE lot to add, but I think I finally at least have one thing I can call myself (with confidence) other than "mother": I'm a runner and a future marathoner.

[meemee]

till dd started school i wont say i lost myself as a person. i was happily and v. contently giving my all to motherhood. i had a blast inspite of high needs.

dd went back to school and i started school. had an epiphany and boom!!!

so today i am a

budding indigenous rights activist
fulltime student
docent
volunteer cook
volunteer weeder
volunteer salesperson

i am having a BALL. i love my life and what all that i have to do.

[Harmony08]

Great thread

Once upon a time I was a great dancer...now I am a dancer. I am just getting back.

I am a seeker, a thinker

I am a good friend to some women who are awesome friends to me

I am a reader

I am smart in some interesting ways

I am dippy in other ways

I once was young and crazy and sexy, I'd like to think I'm still one of those three

I am fun and funny and goofy and silly and impulsive

I have become more patient, more kind, less selfish, more generous, more calm since my baby and I am all that too

I am also creative and artistic though I do not use it

[marybethorama]

art historian, writer, now a college instructor

music fan (though I haven't been able to afford concert tickets in ages

reader (I never stopped)

[sunanthem]

I love the ages my kids are now, and how it has afforded me a bit more me time back each of the past few years.

I see alot of crafters are in this thread!

I am a crafter, and I make waldorf toys for friends and also for etsy.

I am a full time college student, working towards a degree in design.

I am a wife.

I volunteer/have a work-study situation at my son's school where I help kids with reading, or help in the library.

I am a last minute or planned ahead babysitter for a few families and friends.

I am also a doula in training who will be attending her first birth soon!

I am an ex massage student who still gives massages occasionally.

I like to make and do things with my hands.

I like to be frugal and thrifty and find fun free things to do and also revamp old items, etc.

I am an extrovert and I need to socialize to recharge, so I am very involved in several local mom's groups.

Things I do just for me; last week I went to my college's salon where the students give treatments and I got a new hair cut and color, and got my eyebrows waxed. (I havent done that in a very, very long time)
I felt great! And pampered.

I just ended a weekend where my dh and I got to leave the kids with their granma and we got to go check out the university we want to go to after community college. It was great to get away from the kids and house and spend some time researching our future together.

I do alot for family and friends, too, when I can, and that makes me feel good.