i hate cosleeping - how can i stop?

[preciousstone]

my lo is only 1mth. but i already can tell that both dh and I will not be the cosleeping types. i've read all the benefits to cosleeping but my baby sleeps longest in our bed at night but i sleep nervously and dh and i just hate it. ds will sleep in his bassinet for no more than an hour or so, but at least 3hrs in our bed. i start out the night with him in the bassinet but it is always short lived. when he wakes i try soothing him in the bassinet, but he only responds really to being in the bed. when ds is in our bed he sleeps on his side right up next to me. so to put him on his back in the bassinet, he rejects it totally. pls help. how can I get him out of our bed.

[Maluhia]

What about a hammock like an Amby in your room?

[wytchywoman]

Are you currently using a sidecar? Would you be open to trying one? That might give him the feel of sleeping in your bed while giving you the feeling that you are maintaining a seperate sleeping space for him.

[LionessMom]

http://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/

how to sidecar a crib.

if he is not sleeping anywhere but with you then i really doubt that you would get him to sleep in another room. just my 2 cents. also, none of my kids would sleep anywhere else until at least 8 wks old. then they would spend at least 5 hours on their own in the side carred crib. my DH used to hate co sleeping but now he misses the ones that grew up and into their own bed.

also it is good that you are a nervous sleeper. you are acclimating yourself to your sleeping child. as your child gets older you will be able to get more sleep while remaining alert to the baby. your body is adjusting to it all.

[Louisep]

I second using a baby hammock, although the Amby that we used has been recalled. A hammock was the only place, other than right next to me, where DS would sleep AND he slept amazing in the hammock, only waking once or twice (then he started turning over in it and we stopped using it).

[blessedwithboys]

give it time, mama, and you'll get used to it.

[isabchi]

What size of bed you have?..Do you have a very soft mattress?

[rzberrymom]

Things I've found REALLY helpful with helping my newborn sleep longer:

- white noise maker
- swaddling blanket (I love our Miracle Blanket and Kiddopatomus)
- having a warm mist humidifier running whenever we have the central heating going (tiny babies don't sleep well in dry air).

These things made my newborn go from sleeping 60 hour stretches to sleeping 5-7 hour stretches. Seriously. It was unbelievable!

The book Happiest Baby on the Block is a huge help with newborns too.

[LadyCatherine185]

Originally Posted by LionessMom

also it is good that you are a nervous sleeper. you are acclimating yourself to your sleeping child. as your child gets older you will be able to get more sleep while remaining alert to the baby. your body is adjusting to it all.

I used to be a really nervous sleeper too, but I got used to it over time. Making sure I was very comfortable helped a TON. We got a memory foam mattress topper that helped me stay comfortable even in the same position most of the night. Blackout curtains and white noise help too.

I also like the sidecar crib idea. I think we will try that with our next child.

[Maluhia]

Aloha all,

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