These are NOT helpful potty learning/training comments.

[Harmony96]

So I am trying to help my DD PL. She can go #1 in the potty if I remind her every so often. And she has gone #2 in the potty several times, too, more than once, but none of those have been very recent. The past 3 days, I've put her in Gerber trainers, and the past 3 days, she's pooped only in those trainers. So that is where we are.

Every so often, on my Facebook, I'll post the latest update or stress or whatever in this journey, and then I get such "helpful" comments as:

"Don't worry, she'll eventually get it. She won't be going to college in diapers."

"I don't know any kindergartener who's still in diapers."

"She'll be out of diapers by the time she gets married/is a teenager/(insert any random "old" age here)."

Or I'll get comments from people who have NOT been there or done that, in that they have children who 1) potty trained easily or 2) are younger than DD or 3) both of the above.

Receiving these comments really makes me want to pull my hair out even more so than the actual potty learning process.

[APToddlerMama]

It sounds like people in a lot of those circumstance are really trying to be supportive. If it bugged me, I wouldn't keep posting on facebook about it. Good luck regardless! I know kids are challenging.

[ErinYay]

I don't mean to be snarky, but as a rule of thumb, if I don't want comments, even the "just trying to help!" ones, on a certain topic, I don't post about it online, especially if the topic is a sore spot to begin with.

I'm sorry you're struggling with PL and not getting the support or advice that you want.

[Harmony96]

Oh I know they're trying to be supportive, but it just baffles me how they think that mentioning a years-in-the-future event helps my current day to day struggles, lol.

[sparklett]

Perhaps they're just trying to give you some encouragement along the lines of "this too will pass". I've said stuff like that before to other moms- it's meant in the spirit that every child does his/her own thing and in their own time. So many moms stress out over potty training when in reality, all kids eventually figure it out. I think a lot of us who have BTDT realize that there really is no point in stressing over it.

[Ruthie's momma]

Originally Posted by sparklett

Perhaps they're just trying to give you some encouragement along the lines of "this too will pass". I've said stuff like that before to other moms- it's meant in the spirit that every child does his/her own thing and in their own time. So many moms stress out over potty training when in reality, all kids eventually figure it out. I think a lot of us who have BTDT realize that there really is no point in stressing over it.

Well said...

[tbone_kneegrabber]

The comments may not be helpful to *you* *right now* but they might be helpful to someone, in fact the person saying it might have found the same comment helpful when they were going through the same thing. I do in fact find those kind of comments helpful, it helps me relax about stuff.

like when i was pregnant and a friend "confided" in me that her kid slept in her bed until she was *gasp* 18 months old! and I felt like, well I know you are awesome, your kid is awesome and very "independant" so this is in fact something I don't have to worry about (i.e cosleeping). (btw ds is almost 2 1/2 and sleeps in my bed)

[Baby_Cakes]

I think you're reading too much into those comments. They aren't attacking you or your DD, or your parenting. They are trying to get you out of the moment. PL'ing is tough and they know you're stressed about it, and are trying to lighten it up by letting you know that some day it will be over. You guys will get through this!

[Swandira]

OP, what kind of comments were you hoping for, exactly? What is it that bothers you about the ones you quoted?

Oh, and great name, btw. I have a Lydia too.

Nealy
mama to T, 12/02; L, 2/06; and O, 12/08

[Harmony96]

Originally Posted by Swandira

OP, what kind of comments were you hoping for, exactly? What is it that bothers you about the ones you quoted?

Oh, and great name, btw. I have a Lydia too.

Nealy
mama to T, 12/02; L, 2/06; and O, 12/08

Yep 2006 seemed to be the "Year of the Lydia" b/c I have noticed quite a few little girls online born in that year w/ that name.

As for what comments was I hoping for... something constructive that I could actually DO to move forward with this, instead of a "this too shall pass" type of attitude. Because she and I have been working at this, off and on, for nearly a year and a half and she's more than capable of doing it and I'm more than ready to be done.