Ok, I WANT to listen to the little voice I've had all along about wanting to UC but I'm still holding back a little. I've been seeing a CPM, I've seen her 4 times and I'm 37 1/2 weeks with dd2... it took me a long time to find her. My husband has come SO FAR during the course of this pregnancy from saying he didn't want to be there if I didn't have an epidural to now feeling like he'd rather we UC than anything else.
Neither of us are very comfortable with the midwife or her 2 assistants. They are very experienced and I have several friends using her as well but we are just not meshing on a personal level... none of us. I feel very awkward and my husband even more so. Every question I've asked her she has lined up just how I wanted for philosophy but there's just something missing.
She doesn't want to be paid until the birth so we've been paying for prenatals but that's all to this point. She charges $1500 and has 7 other moms due in February... I have another appt this week, how do I bring up the option of just having her be a backup if needed? (I also have a very supportive back up OB who lives 2 hrs closer if something really came up). I know that usually even if a midwife doesn't make it to a birth it is still etiquette to pay her but she has quite a few other moms and if we still use her for prenatal visits until birth and postpartum care do you think its fair to ask for a discounted rate if we decide on a UC instead? I know it is late at 37 weeks but I haven't been with her very long either....
How do you know that you are ready for a UC? I feel like I've done my research, I can answer any question I can think of, I've worked hard on educating my husband and he's done a lot of research on his own. I feel like the only things holding me back are guilt about how to talk about it to my midwife and not feeling like I'm screwing her over and how to talk about it to family/friends after the birth.... I'm thinking I'll probably just say it was an ooops...
I need help sorting out my feelings on this... I've had a totally uncomplicated easy peasy pregnancy and feel like my head and others reactions are the only thing holding me back... words of wisdom/advice??
Neither of us are very comfortable with the midwife or her 2 assistants. They are very experienced and I have several friends using her as well but we are just not meshing on a personal level... none of us. I feel very awkward and my husband even more so. Every question I've asked her she has lined up just how I wanted for philosophy but there's just something missing.
She doesn't want to be paid until the birth so we've been paying for prenatals but that's all to this point. She charges $1500 and has 7 other moms due in February... I have another appt this week, how do I bring up the option of just having her be a backup if needed? (I also have a very supportive back up OB who lives 2 hrs closer if something really came up). I know that usually even if a midwife doesn't make it to a birth it is still etiquette to pay her but she has quite a few other moms and if we still use her for prenatal visits until birth and postpartum care do you think its fair to ask for a discounted rate if we decide on a UC instead? I know it is late at 37 weeks but I haven't been with her very long either....
How do you know that you are ready for a UC? I feel like I've done my research, I can answer any question I can think of, I've worked hard on educating my husband and he's done a lot of research on his own. I feel like the only things holding me back are guilt about how to talk about it to my midwife and not feeling like I'm screwing her over and how to talk about it to family/friends after the birth.... I'm thinking I'll probably just say it was an ooops...
I need help sorting out my feelings on this... I've had a totally uncomplicated easy peasy pregnancy and feel like my head and others reactions are the only thing holding me back... words of wisdom/advice??
]), only I was much earlier on.
