How can I get DH to *get it*

[Jezzy]

Hi . Dd is almost 2 and dh kerps asking me how Long are you going to keep this up. He has told me in more than one occasion to wean. Even my own Mother has Said "Shame on you" for still nursing.

What my mom or others think about my nursing don't really bother me. But how do I get dh to understand how good it is for her. I would get a book for him to read but he wouldnt read it.

Any ideas on how I can help him understand?

Tia

[OTMomma]

Leave short articles in the bathroom- kellymom probably has one. :-)

Obviously you know all the reasons you are nursing- I'm betting you've shared your reasons. Sometimes you just have to say "My boobs, my baby, my business" even to your husband. I wish I had more good ideas.

[Jezzy]

Thanks!

[ktmeyer]

Maybe tell him about famous people that nursed that long? Starting with Moses
Seriously, my husband was impressed when he found out Shaquille Oneil (however you spell it, the basketball player) was nursed for something like 4 years. Knowing that other people did it and they turned out ok helps a lot. Also, making sure he knows the average worldwide is 4 years may help.

[Kerimommyof2]

Well i BF my dd 3 yrs and my son is going to be 3 next week and i honestly dont see him weaning for probally another year..

I am fortunate that my hubby doesnt mind..i mean why should he care the time my boobs should be of his concern is when we are together romanticly kwim..and then i would think he would like the extra volume my milk gives my boobs and he has also said he likes the sweet taiste of my boobs
~if he refuses to be supportive i would just tell him to keep his thoughts to himself...your child is more important them him...that goes with other ppl has well...my grandpas girlfriend litterly started gaging as if to throw up when she heard i bf my dd 3 yrs..i was so offended! but some people are just rude and thoughtless..ignore them...and i would have said shame on you mom for saying such a remark when i am doing such a selfless wonderful thing for my child...and if she didnt nurse you i say shame on you for depriving me of such a gift..JMO

[Jezzy]

Thanks Keri!!
Your smiley is how we are nursing right now. In bed totally comfy. Why would i want to Miss out on Moments like this? My mom didn't Nurse. She let me latch on once and Found it "disgusting".
My copy of mothering your nursing toddler should arrive today. Can't wait to Read it!

[DevaMajka]

Well, one thing that might help:
They (Doctors and such) say that kids should drink full fat milk until at least age two for proper brain development. Why would you *stop* giving them people milk and *start* giving them cow milk?

That might be a good starting point for you, maybe? Just give him another way to think about it. It sort of normalizes people milk when you say it like that, kwim?

Have you told him the WHO recommendation that babies be nursed until age 2 and beyond? Health Canada has the same recommendation, just in case he thinks that the WHO rec. only applies to "underdeveloped" countries.

If all else fails, it's your body, your choice. But it would definitely be nice if he were supportive of that.

I hope you find something that helps him understand, or at least be able to support you in what you want to do.