s/o - Do you lie about STTN?

[Honey693]

Do you lie to anyone about your child sttn?

[katiesk]

what??? why would i lie about this, of all things?

[tykys]

What is sttn?

[mamazee]

I have a miraculous baby who does STTN, so there's no reason to lie.

BUT with my older child, who didn't sleep until like 2, yes I did eventually lie to those who would start conversations about it. I just don't feel a need to discuss it with people who have different parenting beliefs, and I feel no obligation to be truthful with intrusive questions.

[ErinYay]

Originally Posted by mamazee

I have a miraculous baby who does STTN

As do I. I don't outright LIE about my 6-week-old sleeping from midnight to 730am, but I downplay it by replying, "Oh, she's a wonderful sleeper," when asked by those with much older babies/toddlers who are still up 2+ times a night.

[donna-nb]

why is sleeping thru the nite the first question people ask? i don't even keep track of it anymore. my son started sleeping six hours when he was 2 mos old when he slept in the cosleeper bassinet (we are lucky, we know). st 5 mos he started sleeping with is more often. he wakes up a little bit more frequently now that he is 8.5 mo, i think, but i'm not sure b/c as soon as i sense him waking up, i just stick a boob in his mouth and we both go back to sleep. i have no problem telling people this long version.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by mamazee

I have a miraculous baby who does STTN, so there's no reason to lie.

This. Although, like the PP, I usually don't talk much about her sleeping habits, because we do co-sleep most of the time... I just say "we've been lucky, she sleeps really well" and then move on to the next subject.

[Mrsboyko]

My DD is 3. While she may have the stray odd day where she does STTN, it is not the norm. Telling people that she doesn't STTN usually validates MY normal more so than making me feel like something is wrong. Many, many kids DO NOT sleep. I am not stressed about it any more, it is just how she is, but to deny that is to lie about our life. Plus I don't want to be one who puts pressure on others (unintentional as it may be) to make their kids STTN by way of CIO or other extreme measures. I'd rather let people open up to me and ask how we deal with it.

[ann_of_loxley]

No. People need to know what reality is. That its normal for a baby to not be sleeping through the night! ...and its also a great way to bring up gentle ways to encourage more sleep (instead of CIO or something just as harmful).

[tykys]

Ohhh, sleeping through the night....

Yah, no. I don't lie. I stopped caring what people think a long time ago.

[_ktg_]

why?? If I'm a wreck at work - people should know that I'm operating on less than optimal sleep vs. me just biting their heads off for fun

[AmyKT]

Originally Posted by _ktg_

why?? If I'm a wreck at work - people should know that I'm operating on less than optimal sleep vs. me just biting their heads off for fun

This, exactly! I talk openly and often about DD's sleep troubles. Maybe I'm a pity junkie.

ETA: Actually, after looking at the actual poll, I do stretch the truth with docs. I don't want to hear their suggestions anymore.

[Honey693]

Originally Posted by katiesk

what??? why would i lie about this, of all things?

So you don't have to listen to ppl telling you to CIO. That's why I lie. Otherwise I get into it with my family. It's easier just to lie.

[Kelly1101]

I wouldn't lie for that reason. I would be happy to tell someone, in detail, why it is wrong, inhumane, neglectful, and abusive to CIO.

[mamazee]

I'm not good at confrontation, and these conversations always feel confrontational to me. I wish I could handle it better, and I'm glad for those of you who do.

I do say, even though my babe sleeps through the night, that she does BUT my older one didn't STTN for AGES, and that's just how she was.

[lizzylou]

I don't lie. Depending on who I am talking to, I either tell them the truth or I just avoid the topic.

[2lilsweetfoxes]

No, I pretty much tell the truth that she still gets up (9 1/2 months) several times a night. I accept it as "normal". Maybe if people realized what a wide range of "normal" there is, they wouldn't be so insecure or whatever and feel the pressure to CIO to get the baby to STTN.

ETA: I still don't STTN, and I'm 32.

[Everrgreen]

No I don't lie. Although sometimes I will say that yes, he is pretty much sttn because he only wakes and needs a quick nurse back to sleep, so I don't really count that as waking. But usually I just say 'no' as though it's no big deal, and tell whoever asked about how cosleeping and breastfeeding make night wakings seem like no big deal!

[One_Girl]

I never lied about this.

[jammomma]

My son does sttn, but we don't tell anyone that we bed-share. If he didn't sleep with me, he wouldn't sttn.

And by sttn, I mean he sleeps without fully waking up, he stills nurses a few times during the night, but he doesn't really completely wake up to do it, and neither do I.

But I wake up several times a night and sometimes lay awake for quite some time, so I don't sttn.

And I guess maybe I have lied about sttn when my ds was a newborn. As early as a week after giving birth, all my IL's kept asking "is he sttn the night yet" almost with glee, almost as if they were hoping we weren't getting any sleep. And just to shut them up, we told me them yes every time they asked.