s/o - Do you lie about STTN? - Page 2

[Flower of Bliss]

I tend to answer all of the sleeping, nursing, routine, etc questions with "She sleeps when she sleeps, and she nurses when she nurses." If I'm really asked if she sttn, I honestly respond that I'd wake up terrified if she did. I want her to eat at night.

[Shanny2032]

After I stop laughing when they ask if my 14 month old sleeps through the night I tell them "no". It never occured to me to lie about this!

[Maluhia]

To a degree, in that I said "yes" when we were all comfortable sleeping and people were asking with the intention to tell me when she "should" and I had no intention of sharing. If I had time to share I always lead in with "well, I wake up about twice a night to move the covers or use the restroom so neither of us are STTN either

[odoole]

Originally Posted by jammomma

My son does sttn, but we don't tell anyone that we bed-share. If he didn't sleep with me, he wouldn't sttn.

And by sttn, I mean he sleeps without fully waking up, he stills nurses a few times during the night, but he doesn't really completely wake up to do it, and neither do I.

Oh, does this count as sttn??? In that case, my son has been doing it for months!!

[sunshynbaby]

My doc doesn't ask about sleeping.

My prepared answer for anyone is, "He sleeps like a baby."

[leigh09]

i have been asked this question starting with my children being only a few **weeks** old. seriously???
my responses vary on who is asking. if it is another sleep deprived mom, i'm quite honest. my 4 month old never does and i quite frankly don't expect him to for quite a while. i would be stunned beyond belief if he slept through the night now.

if my mom asks, i skirt around the question because she is set in her belief that i'm a crazy parent and should convert to her style of parenting ... he is WAY too old to be night-waking. basically, i tell her he sleeps fine. which he does.
if my doctor asks, i tell him i have no concerns with my baby's sleep habits. (my doctor is pro-scheduling, cio, etc.)

i became a bit of an expert at skirting around the question since my dd took over 2 years to sleep through the night. there was a point i didn't tell people anymore she woke up because the universal response was to just leave her be to cio at night, which i didn't need to hear.

my children's sleep habits aren't everyone's business.

[Honey693]

Originally Posted by odoole

Oh, does this count as sttn??? In that case, my son has been doing it for months!!

See, to most medical professionals it doesn't. I don't count it as sttn either.

[jildez]

i'm don't lie, but i don't make a big deal out of what we do- i tell people who ask that he doesn't sleep through the night. If they ask, i tell them his crib is in our room, or even that its side-carred, but i rarely tell people we co-sleep. It seems like its easier to let them imagine what they want, if they are like minded, they usually ask me more pointed questions. With my old ped, i told her my son woke several times to eat and at the time i was a student and it was very necessary for him to eat at night and she never asked about sleeping arrangements, so i didn't volunteer. Next week, we go to our new ped (b/c we moved in december, and i now sah) and i am going to go slow, volunteer as much or as little as seems appropriate.

[Punchy Kaby]

I work with a lot of other moms with young kids, I don't lie because I want them to know that each child is different some do STTN and some dont. My 4 yo DS was an amazing sleeper (still is, and still loves his nap.) My DD wakes often and is difficult to settle. I also want other mommies to know that it IS different to be nursing (many moms stop nursing early on here). I also want to set an example to the many new moms at work and lying about STTN will only put pressure on them to get their LO's to do it and make them feel badly if they don't do it.

I think lying will only propagate bad feelings and bad ideas.

[Bebegim]

Okay, I thought this was about not telling that your baby WAS sleeping through the night.

My daughter and I slept together until she kicked me out at about 8 months. She was and is still a 12 hour sleeper, you know, in general. If shes sick she wakes up. When we travel then the jet lag messes with her. But I'd say 95% of her life, shes slept through the night. This is extremely unusual though. I havent heard of anyone else with a 12 hour sleeper. The next one will be different Im sure. And hopefully stay longer with us. 8 months was too short!!!

[major_mama11]

I pick and choose which parts of the truth I tell, depending on who I'm talking to.

I know that my dr's definition of sttn equals six hours straight, so I tell her, "Yes, he sometimes sleeps through the night", which is true (though rare). I know from experience that if I tell her the nitty gritty, she will give me a long speil about how I need to do this or that to make him sleep better.

Now, to fellow moms, I tell the entire truth, which is that he still wakes several times per night at 9 mos. I am also honest with other moms about my 4-yr-old's night owl tendencies.

[GoBecGo]

I ticked other.

I didn't outright lie, but i said "yes" to "does she sttn?" from when she was making a 5-hour-stretch overnight, because to ME that IS sttn (i have been in phases as an adult when i was working a lot and i only slept 5 hours).

I was actually honest in terms of how many hours she slept until my XMIL told me that sttn meant 12 hours unbroken sleep! I was like "by that standard *I* don't sleep through the night yet!". After that i would just say yes and not get into a discussion. My doctor tended to say "are you all getting enough sleep?" which is a far more pertinent question to me.

[MaddieMay]

It depends who I'm talking to. If it's a fellow parent and we're friendly, I'll tell the truth. If it's someone who is just going to lecture me on CIO (a doc, family member, etc.) I just say, "He's sleeping great!"

I very rarely tell people we are cosleeping. But people don't ask that either.

[sapphire_chan]

No, I tell them she probably stirs in the night because she's a baby, but since I never have to wake more than 5 seconds to help her find the new breast, I don't care.