how many single mom's here have ex's that remain clueless of why you left ?

[MommytoB]

My ex first assumed I left him because of a 2bdrm apartment but that wasn't a reason and he said people who were supposed to be in love were not supposed to leave .

What he doesn't realize he left me along time ago in the emotional department because why would I continue to stay with someone who got me pregnant and didn't attend any doctor appts,u/s or false l&d alarms or parenting classes. Plus we didn't even share a bed for 9 months when I was pregnant with brendan . Then even after Brendan was born still sleeping without him I shared the bed with my son and guinea pigs than I ever did with my ex .

So how come he says he's been severely depressed since we left is it because he was depressed before but just pointing out to blame me for his depression.

Because I no longer love my ex because when he left me on my own even though he was there it made me numb feeling like as if i was shot with a bunch of numbing shots . It's been nearly 4 1/2 yrs since I left him and I'm tired of explaining that I didn't leave him because he didn't get a 2 bdrm apartment it was because he wasn't there for me.

Now he's talking of how he may commit sucide because he is in a depressive mode blaming it on me , he lost his job , had a 2nd car wreck.

[wytchywoman]

I have 2 actually. Neither one have ever taken any responsibility for the failure of our relationship. I let it go a long time ago. It would drive me absolutely certifiably insane if I didn't.

[MomofMusa]

My former marriage was a quickie.. I met him in August 2007, married and became pregnant November 2007 - He was everything I thought was for me... I had a house, he still had an apartment 75 miles away. He still is a wonderful person.. I just didn't get to know him and ask enough questions. From what I understand from his sister who introduced us, and I've been knowing her for years. (my hair dresser) He's manic depressant.. I met him on his high, and that was the best ride of my life. When I told him I was pregnant .. Blank. I think he was starting on his low by then, and it was a sad case after that.. My hormones didn't help.. I wasn't evil or cry baby.. For some reason, I couldn't stomach him.. I never told him this, I just kept refusing his help, so he stayed 75 miles away until I gave birth.. During my pregnancy we divorced.

He does not participate in our son's life. Perhaps when he's pre teen, his father stated once. I had asked if he felt I was to blame for the marriage not working.. He said, no...

I pray my son is a foregiving person as his father is and that I'll explained the truth to the best of my ability why we divorced.

I made a good decision to divorce...

[lilyka]

my ex had been in a 6 year relationship with another woman and he still doesn't really get why I made him leave.

[La Sombra]

I made a lot of mistakes in my marriage that are tough to admit in a forum like this (read: infidelity). But my STBX took that as his free ride to not admit ANY culpability whatsoever. He was an alcoholic since we met, a not-terribly-involved parent, emotionally distant, moody, depressive man and our marriage was sexless. Of course there were/are good things about him, too, but my point is that he doesn't acknowledge in any way his contribution to the failure of our marriage and while I would never place all the blame on him, of COURSE not, I do get tired of being blamed for every single thing when I feel like I put up with him and his antics for YEARS.

Okay, I'm just ranting now. In short, yes, OP! I relate!