Adelynn Ruby is here!
Hey ladies! I am back from the hospital (finally!!) and have so much to update, the baby is sleeping and I just wolfed down some lunch so hopefully I can do this before the baby needs to nurse again. (It's almost constant! haha). DH and I took almost a day to choose her name and it has been decided she is Adelynn Ruby from the German word "Adel" meaning Noble Truth and honoring my mother Lynn and grandmother Ruby- the two most influential women in my life.
Well, my water had broken and I got to the hospital around 3:00 pm. Checked me, and much to my disbelief I am actually 3 CM dilated. Doc says that she does not expect the baby to be born tonight, more like tomorrow morning so I should go rest up until contractions really start. So I get a room, and weight for the contractions to begin. Around 5:30 I decide I am starving so DH and I go and I get some soup and brotchen rolls, some ham salad, etc (weird in my opinion, but that is what they serve with at dinner in Germany). The contractions start to pick up while eating so I go from STARVING to very uncomfortable need to stop to catch my breath and focus on relieving the pain back to OMG I am so starving I need to eat. So we finish dinner and then I am back in my room and realize I am not laughing anymore and all I want to do is curl in a cacoon and lay and focus, and run to the bathroom. DH crawls into bed, massaging my back when the contractions start, talking me through them, etc. Nurse comes in around 7:45 and says the doctor needs to monitor the babies heart rate for 20 minutes. I am 5 CM dilated at this point. So I go over there and she hooks me up to a machine. At this point the contractions are VERY unbearable. Doctor looks at the printout of the contractions and says they are not picking them up on the machine so I start freaking out in my head thinking OMG this is ridiculous that I can feel the worst contractions of my life and they are ALL IN MY HEAD!!! Like they are not real and I can't do this until tomorrow if these are not real contractions! Needless to say the machine sensor was not tight to my belly and I had misunderstood the doctors english and she DID see the contractions but I can't grasp that so I really freak out. Then she tells me I need to get an antibiotic (zythromyacin) bc my water had been broken for over 24 hours. I tell her NO NO NO, etc but eventually just do it, not sure why. She had compelling reasons at the time and it made sense. LOL. So around this time I am hooked to a walking IV of antibiotics, decide I want to maybe take a bath but first I have to poop, so I walk back and forth between the birthing rooms to the bathroom to poop, throw up and generally yell at DH to stop bothering me while i am pooping. The only place that felt good was sitting on the birthing stool or toilet. It really released the tension in my back. I get back to the room and tell them I can't do this another 10 hours (it is STILL in my head that I am not having "real" contractions and that the worst is yet to come--- BAD mindset during a natural birht, let me say) so I am telling DH and the midwife that I NEED painkillers, I need an epidural, I want a C-section, LOL whatever just get it out of me now, I can't do it any more I am miserable and 10 more hours I will die. Well, DH is calm and tells the Midwives I do not really want these things, etc, so of course I am screaming "IT DOES NOT MAKE ME A BAD PERSON TO GET AN EPIDURAL!!!" haha Well, I am freaking out on the midwife and DH and somehow we decide to do a MILD painkiller to see if it will help take an edge off so I can get back to my zen state of earlier before I thought I was having imaginary contractions
. As the nurse is flushing my line with water I scream I NEED TO PUSH. She stops the IV completely, tells me not to until she checks how far I am since I was only 5 cm an hour or so ago. Well, I am 9cm and can PUSH!! Hello, this is why the contractions were so friggin bad, they were efficient. All my contractions seem to stop and I get to push and it is the most AMAZING feeling in the world, I loved every minute of it. The midwife calls the Doctor and the head OB in to supervise the birth and she is just amazing, working with my contractions, I tell her when I want to push and she instructs me on how to hold my breath, release, where I should concentrate my energy, release my neck, etc etc. We push and push and the babies head just will not come out. The doctor suggests episiotomy and I say I want to keep trying, so we continue to push, they massage the perinieum, etc but eventually he tells me that the way the baby is coming through it will likely rip down to my butt. We try 20 more minutes of pushing to see if we can do it without a cut and I decide I trust the man, he is not a cut happy doctor in my opinion, the cut rate is VERY low in Germany where I gave birth. They are all amazed too that an American is doing a unmedicated birth, LOL which makes me feel amazing as I am pushing. haha So I say to do the pressure episiotomy and as the baby is trying to crown, he cuts, I don't feel a thing and out she comes and she is just amazing! The doctor scoops her up and puts her immedietly on my chest, DH gets to cut the cord, etc and as he stictches me up I just sit there holding her and loving her and just feeling amazing. I AM soooooooooo happy that I did not use the painkillers and so happy for my DH that he really stuck by me and was an amazing coach.
So she was born at 10:40 PM after about 6 hours of ridiculously strong contractions, IMO! haha She weighs 7 lbs 12 oz and 20.5 inches long. She is breastfeeding quite well but nightimes are definitely more difficult then the day for some reason. My milk came in yesterday but I am not leaking, her merconium is gone and she had gained all the weight she had lost the first day after being born so I am assuming the feeding is working!! It's definitely more painful then I thought, especially at first but I think it's all transitional pain- the midwives said the latch was good but nipples are a little beaten up... we are hoping to improve
She LOVES to eat though, she eats a TON and often so I am trying to research that as much as I can to see what is "normal". My MIL is here helping but does not believe in breastfeeding over bottle feeding so her suggestions are "don't feed her too much, give her a pacifier, etc"
she means well
haha OK well that is way longer then it needs to be!