Parents of kindergarteners do your kids have major ups & downs lately ?

[MommytoB]

My son is in kindergarten and it's almost like he's having those terrible two's but at age 5 instead .

He is so moody lately, having fits, throwing things again, saying angry stuff, fighting ,saying he wants help, he doesn't want help even though he asked for help , then a few minutes later he's calmer, then he is moody again , then he calms down as if he forgot about his previous episodes.

Any advice or reason why he is acting like this ?

[Chalex]

YES! But, I don't remember him really having a terrible two's!
Not sure if it's just my DS's personality (sensitive type) or the transition into doing alot without help (be it zipping up his coat or whatever). It's quite hard to figure it all out...especially when he seems to be doing well at school.

[mkloz]

Yes- my daughter is doing the same thing! I don't really think it's the adjustment to kindergarten since she loves it. And same thing- she is a perfect angel at school and doing great according to her teacher. It's good to know she's not the only one and maybe it's just a phase. I was beginning to question my parenting strategy and really blaming myself (although I do still take responsibility).
Would be curious to hear of others who went through it and how long it lasted....

[nolansmummy]

This is my son too.
I've talked to his teacher and he does really well in school. No meltdowns, relatively calm. I think that all day he just holds everything in, and then when he's home it all comes flooding out! I also think part of it is that the teacher gives snacks every day, and since the parents provide them they are mostly junk type foods. Certain foods really affect ds' behavior.

[MommytoB]

Thanks. It's great to know that I'm not the only mom dealing with this .

[gmvh]

I'm so glad (but sorry, too) to hear that others are dealing with this as well! I keep hearing folks say how wonderful five is but we've had a horrid time. My daughter is mostly okay but my son (they're twins)? Oh dear. Difficult and disagreeable doesn't begin to describe him!

[staceychev]

My daughter's not 5 until July, but what you've described is what we're going through right now, too. I had been attributing it to being bored in preschool and the impending new sibling, but I'm wondering if it's developmental.

[MommytoB]

Stacey , Your new baby is going to be here soon ! Boy or girl ? Yep, I do wonder if it's a developmental phase .

I thought maybe it was with me being a single mom and brendan was fighting of not listening as in pushing me away to get his independence but then he wants closeness .

But with it showing that even kids go through this when both parents are around maybe it is a developmental thing and I wonder how long it will last ?

[staceychev]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

Stacey , Your new baby is going to be here soon ! Boy or girl ?

Girl! (Or, as my DH says... "Ugh. More princess stuff.")

[meemee]

very typical for 5 year olds.

i mean just imagine. their brains are doing a leap of development. they are questioning things. they are noticing things more. and most important they start school. so its a whole new world for them.

they are also dealing with growing up into little persons and leaving babyhood behind.

dd i describe as being extremely hormonal.

also i am not sure if you noticed it or not, but the first few months in both K and first grade are hard times for our kids. almost all the kids in my dd's class went thru a period of adjusting. they were afraid of what lay ahead. they were sooooo tired. and exhausted after school. not so much in second grade. so i definitely think there is more of a developmental thing going on during 5 and 6 which we dont really talk about and so are unaware.

my dd is 7. i have been told 10 is also another big hard age for them.

i have come to the conclusion that teenager, terrible twos, threes are all myths. or rather they are not the only time. no one talks about 5 year olds who have even a bigger problem than teenagers. most of us forget our struggles as a 5 year old but many remember nad say that life as a 5 year old was much harder than as a teenager.

if you have a sensitive child then forget it. as a parent you have to deal with morality questions from them that are hard to answer.

at 5 my dd told me - it was as if someone was inside her making her do it. part of her didnt want to behave that way - yet the other part couldnt stop the other part. and i thought 'oh boy how i can relate to that'.

[MommytoB]

I bet 10 would be a hard age because that's an age when puberty hormones start in kids who knows in 4-5 yrs we will be having kids hormones be more increasing and that will be a new scary change for them to go through .

Yeah and when kids were not in school they played all day long, then preschool was more playing than sitting now they are forced to be sitting down for so long when they more likely want to get up and play .

[cowboyjunki]

My 5 yo DS is sooooooooo like this right now. He is home with me this year and will start K next year. Some days are better than others, but today it felt like all he did was argue with me and give me reasons why he couldn't/wouldn't do something that I asked of him. It is exhausting!

[Surfacing]

[MommytoB]

Totally, I even have a litterer at times sometimes he will put his stuff in the garbage but other than that Plop it goes on the floor ! I'm geez louise !

Then I say put your gloves,coat, mittens, boots here and he's like kicking them off leaving the coat on the floor the boots somewhere scattered etc

I have to push him to get ready for school the No tv task won't work because he can reach it, he knows how to change the channels to his channels . So he will be staring at the tv as in right in front of it not even getting ready . Half the time I'm thinking of getting tv chid door locks so he can get himself ready .

I get the talk of I don't like it here or I don't want to live here. He is really greedy too and then he is like I hate it you didn't get me anything today .

He has a habbit of callings things stupid even the cat !

I'm like geez louise what's with that behavior !