things aren't totally working for us right now and i need ideas...i'm finding it more and more difficult to AP another babe at night who is going through a reeeeeeeally crappy and long sleep phase! i'm starting to feel like it's something i'm reinforcing too since DD2 put herself to sleep and back to sleep from birth (look up my "a little hope" thread!) but not any more. we're right where we were with DD1: night waking, nap skipping, will stay up for hours in the middle of the night, sleep fighting etc. etc. i am tired and have no patience to do this again!
the current situation:
DD1 (31/2) always goes down in her own bed
DD2 (11 mos) gets nursed/rocked and put down to sleep on our bed
i then get to enjoy anywhere from 1/2 hour to 3 hours to myself with DP depending on that days naps and how much DD2 decides she wants to wake up that particular night! lately this has been a ton and has been super annoying but i'm trying to get through it with the knowledge that this too shall pass.
when i go to bed i go get DD1 and put her in the sidecarred crib and climb into to our king size with DD2 in the middle of DP and I. i know this is ridiculous for a few reasons
1) DD1 would probably sleep most of the night in her own bed if it weren't for my anxiety about her being in the other room and laziness about going to her if she ever woke up. it's so much easier to just roll over, cover her back up and not wake the baby by getting out of bed.
2) it's silly to put her in the sc'ed crib since she's so big and NEVER spent one night of her life in it when she was a baby, not even when we sc'ed it
3)why would i move my DD when she's sleeping peacefully in her own bed and it took me years to get there? can't help it, i kind of miss her when we're all sleeping together and she's alone in the other room and i feel guilty for snuggling new babe!
DP is probably nearing the end of his rope with this routine since there have been nights lately where DD2 wakes up and is up for hours and it would be so much better to be able to scoot her into the crib, give her some toys and go kind of back to sleep instead of driving myself crazy by trying to get her back to sleep.
ideally (for DP)i would get over my anxiety and leave DD1 in her room and move DD2 into the crib when i came to bed and allow DD1 to come into our bed whenever she woke up, if at all. ideally (for me) i would put a full size mattress next to ours with both girls in it eventually and have some snuggle time with DP again!
sorry for the ramble but that made me feel a little better, any suggestions are appreciated!
the current situation:
DD1 (31/2) always goes down in her own bed
DD2 (11 mos) gets nursed/rocked and put down to sleep on our bed
i then get to enjoy anywhere from 1/2 hour to 3 hours to myself with DP depending on that days naps and how much DD2 decides she wants to wake up that particular night! lately this has been a ton and has been super annoying but i'm trying to get through it with the knowledge that this too shall pass.
when i go to bed i go get DD1 and put her in the sidecarred crib and climb into to our king size with DD2 in the middle of DP and I. i know this is ridiculous for a few reasons
1) DD1 would probably sleep most of the night in her own bed if it weren't for my anxiety about her being in the other room and laziness about going to her if she ever woke up. it's so much easier to just roll over, cover her back up and not wake the baby by getting out of bed.
2) it's silly to put her in the sc'ed crib since she's so big and NEVER spent one night of her life in it when she was a baby, not even when we sc'ed it
3)why would i move my DD when she's sleeping peacefully in her own bed and it took me years to get there? can't help it, i kind of miss her when we're all sleeping together and she's alone in the other room and i feel guilty for snuggling new babe!
DP is probably nearing the end of his rope with this routine since there have been nights lately where DD2 wakes up and is up for hours and it would be so much better to be able to scoot her into the crib, give her some toys and go kind of back to sleep instead of driving myself crazy by trying to get her back to sleep.
ideally (for DP)i would get over my anxiety and leave DD1 in her room and move DD2 into the crib when i came to bed and allow DD1 to come into our bed whenever she woke up, if at all. ideally (for me) i would put a full size mattress next to ours with both girls in it eventually and have some snuggle time with DP again!
sorry for the ramble but that made me feel a little better, any suggestions are appreciated!
It sometimes seems very hard to be an AP family, especially at night. But, it's soo so worth it.
