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post #101 of 141
Joining this thread now that I feel like I'm halfway back into "real life" and I can usually find the 5 minutes a day to get on the computer.

I have the night sweats also! I don't remember this from my first. It's crazy. However, if it's helping weight loss then I'm willing to suffer. :smile I'm 13 days PP and have lost 28 of the 44 pounds I gained. It helps giving birth to a 10 1/2 pounder. LOL

Breastfeeding is going pretty well for us. This is my first time BF, my DD was formula fed from day 1. However, my left nipple is so completely sore. It is cracked and has bled a few times. It's weird because my right side feels fine and is starting to not even been tender or sore anymore. I've been putting breastmilk on the nipple to protect from any type of infection and applying lanolin after each feeding but it continues to be really sore. Once that nipple is healed and stops being sore, I will enjoy BF much more. My DS is a very slow eater. He takes about 30 - 40 minutes to do a feeding and I don't believe he even completely empties the breast. He falls asleep all the time while eating.
post #102 of 141
PaytonPlace, the baby's latch may not be as good on the left side. My DD had this problem -- a preferred boobie!! -- so be careful and watch his latch and hopefully the cracking/pain will improve. If it doesn't, I'd get a LLL or LC to check it and help you out -- bleeding is no fun!!

As for breasts not feeling empty/slow feeders -- a few comforting thoughts:

1. Your breasts never REALLY empty, they are continually making milk.
2. Early on when your supply is hormone driven, feeling fuller is normal. Mymary, be careful pumping because you can perpetuate/create an oversupply problem. Believe me, in a few weeks/months when your supply regulates, you'll be panicking because your breasts always feel SOFT!
3. Slow nurser doesn't mean bad nurser! My DD was a slow nurser but after a few weeks, the full feeling went away, and I never had a supply problem. She gained wonderfully, she just took her sweet time.

My (unsolicited/totally personal opinion) is to not pump to relieve pressure unless you're dealing with serious engorgement/pain. I'd let the baby nurse as he/she nurses so your breasts are only getting input from the baby and can regulate themselves appropriately. Remember, your boobs are learning too! It's great to hear about everyone's experiences breastfeeding.

As for me and Holly, she nurses wonderfully and is gaining well. At 1 week she was already over her birth weight, and I can tell now (at 2 weeks exactly!) she's starting to pudge up and hit a few growth spurts. She's got a fat little face. I can't believe she's ALREADY GROWING UP!!

In other news... I don't know, I'm still lamenting the whole clothing thing I don't know what I will wear! Also, I'm crazy horny!! Anyone else?? I didn't feel like having sex with my first pregnancy for WEEKS, but this time I'm like LET'S GO, which is insane!!
post #103 of 141
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My (unsolicited/totally personal opinion) is to not pump to relieve pressure unless you're dealing with serious engorgement/pain. I'd let the baby nurse as he/she nurses so your breasts are only getting input from the baby and can regulate themselves appropriately. Remember, your boobs are learning too!
I totally agree with this. YOur body will make as much milk as it's told to based on feeding and pumping so if you're feeding your LO and pumping then it will take longer for your body to suss out how much milk to make and will overproduce. Which will leave you feeling engorged longer. If you are super uncomfortable with the fullness.. pump to comfort, not to empty. And that's my unsolicited/personal opinion! lol

I too am having night sweats, never had them before. I wake up and my neck/scalp and breasts are sopping wet in sweat. So attractive!

And ditto on the wanting sex already. I'm nowhere near physically ready (and the thought of actually doing it scares me as my bits are still sore) but hormonally... HECK YA!

Also.. I'm super freezing this time around. I remember always being cold for the first few days after having ds but I'm always cold to the point that I have goose bumps on my skin when everyone else is warm. What's up with that?

In Sophie news.... she's starting to get a bit fussy in the mornings and has a hard time sleeping. She spends most of the morning crying and it just breaks my heart. DS has really bad colic and reflux that started at 2 weeks so I'm a bit worried that Sophie may be starting that too. Poor babe.
post #104 of 141
I agree about not pumping, too. When my milk came in and my breasts were engorged and hard, I got a little scared, but it really only lasted a day or two. Sometimes they get a little hard if he's been sleeping too long, but then they are fine within a few hours.

Yeah, I had a sex dream about my husband the night before last! But...no way in reality, I had a c-section 10 days ago. No. way. My sex drive was pretty dampened the whole time I was nursing my older one...wonder if it will be the same way this time.
post #105 of 141
crazy as this sounds, and as hard as Margaret is right now, I can't believe that she is the last one.

If I wasn't so old (OK, 38), I would definitely be thinking about when to expand our family again.

....must be the hormones!
post #106 of 141
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In other news... I don't know, I'm still lamenting the whole clothing thing I don't know what I will wear! Also, I'm crazy horny!! Anyone else?? I didn't feel like having sex with my first pregnancy for WEEKS, but this time I'm like LET'S GO, which is insane!!

Yes this! We have already resumed *cough* activities. I thought it would be awhile since we have three now, but nope. And after being hot pretty much the ENTIRE pregnancy, I am freeeeezzzzzing! I don't even think it's all that cold here in general, but I haven't felt cold in what seems like years.
post #107 of 141
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Also, I'm crazy horny!! Anyone else?? I didn't feel like having sex with my first pregnancy for WEEKS, but this time I'm like LET'S GO, which is insane!!
Yeah, this is totally me. Ela is my first and I was expecting to have no libido for a while after her birth but my mind and body are like VA-VA-VA-VOOM when it comes to sex (my vagina, on the other hand, is not so gung-ho.)

I'm 9 days postpartum and the bleeding has already slowed to a trickle. I could probably go with a light pantyliner, but I'm not convinced that it won't surprise me and come back unexpectedly, so I'm still waiting. I had one stitch for a high labial "scratch," which is healing really well but now I've started to get this really strange, intermittant clitoral pain and I'm wondering if it's related at all? I also have intermittent pelvic pain both in front and in back. I had some pelvic pain issues while I was working, but I was on my feet 5-8 hours a day so it was expected. As soon as I started maternity leave (at 36 weeks) and got off my feet I noticed a huge improvement. In fact, it pretty much went away by the time I gave birth, so I'm really surprised to have it back now.

I've only lost 15 lbs. I guess that's not bad for being a little over a week pp, but I was really hoping that I'd be one of those women who dropped 20-25lbs immediately after birth. Tough cookies, I guess (hmm... now that I mention it, cookies could be to blame for my failure to drop more weight. I ate so well during the pregnancy and now I've been kind of, erm, indulgent. So maybe that should stop, or at least slow down. Which might be tough, considering I just made a batch of chocolate no-bake cookies... but they have oatmeal in em!) I gained 35 lbs total and I'd really like to get down to 5-10 above pre-pregnancy weight. I started doing really light abdominal exercises a few days after the birth and I've also started belly binding with an abdominal brace and I think it's helping.

As for Ela, she's a complete doll and I'm totally head over heels for her. DH is proving to be an amazing father--he's really attentive and doting on both Ela and me. He's the burp-master and has probably changed just as many (if not more) dirty diapers than I have. Ela had her days and nights totally mixed up at first and was doing a lot of cluster feeding and fussing in the wee hours of the morning and DH was right there with me every step of the way, even taking her and letting me sleep until she was actually hungry again instead of just fussy. It didn't always work because I just couldn't sleep when I knew she was crying/fussy, but he tried. But the last two nights have shown a huge improvement in her scheduling. She only gets up 3 times a night to feed and has a pretty easy time going back down. I've found that getting her back to sleep is a lot easier when I just lie her in bed with us instead of in the portable co-sleeper or in the Arm's Reach. She doesn't necessarily have to be in my arms, either. Just being between us seems to calm her down for sleep more quickly. I'm hoping she keeps improving on the night/day thing and keeps sleeping like she has been!

Other than that breastfeeding has been great and pretty easy for us, for which I'm really really grateful. So many of my friends have had horrible bf issues that eventually led to them giving up and going for formula, so I'm happy that it's not the case with us. Formula is expensive!

My mom has been staying with us to help out with the baby and I think that has made a HUGE difference. We have enough hands/arms that I never feel as if Ela is being neglected, and yet I've had time to read for pleasure and take long epsom-salt baths, which I totally wasn't expecting. My mom was also a huge help during the first few nights when Ela would be up all night and then start getting fussy and screaming around 3-4AM when DH and I were barely able to keep our eyes open. We joked that Grandma was on 3rd shift, and passing Ela off to her helped DH and I get some sleep (and retain our sanity.)
post #108 of 141
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crazy as this sounds, and as hard as Margaret is right now, I can't believe that she is the last one.

If I wasn't so old (OK, 38), I would definitely be thinking about when to expand our family again.

....must be the hormones!
Your not crazy. My last two kids, this seems to be the first thing I think about... Is there going to be a next and when?

Although, immediately after birth I was SO content and happy and did feel that our family is perfect.
post #109 of 141
Charlene - thanks for saying that! Day two out of the hospital I was seriously thinking about being a surrogate (as if anybody would use an AMA with cancer!) before it hit me that I was insane!!

I can't even imagine sex right now...I can still feel my stitches pull if I move in the wrong position.
post #110 of 141
hi ladies! just playing catchup on the board here. I keep coming over and almost posting but I haven't had anything good to say and not enough time to figure out what to complain about I'm having a hard time now that we're past D's due date. He's officially 6 weeks (adjusted age) tomorrow. He is developmentally in line with his due date not birth age. I'm just so ready to get some rest... this whole parent of two thing is tough! I have no patience for my 4-yo, and not as much time as I'd like to dedicate to the baby. I'm in constant struggles with DS1 who isn't used to sharing my attention, he's been very needy/confrontational as the baby has demanded more & more of my attention. Lil' D is a needy baby, has to be held all the time, doesn't sleep much, and seems pissed off most of the time. He's sorta a grump! I'm also still dealing with the whole "things didn't go as I'd planned" about the birth. I'm sort of in an emotional slump I guess. DH was awesome while on leave, but now that he's back to work he seems to think I have a grip on things and isn't much help on his days off.

So that's why I haven't posted! I don't really have much good to say
Sorry to be Debbie Downer! lots of love to all
post #111 of 141
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Yes this! We have already resumed *cough* activities. I thought it would be awhile since we have three now, but nope. And after being hot pretty much the ENTIRE pregnancy, I am freeeeezzzzzing! I don't even think it's all that cold here in general, but I haven't felt cold in what seems like years.
i am with you! Also in SoCal, I was so HOT this entire winter, which as you know isn't all that cold to begin with, and now I am freezing all day and night. My dh thinks I have lost my mind.

I am also dying to dtd again, but I am still bleeding and it seems like it will NEVER stop! I am probably forgetting how long it takes me each time and it is probably more like about 3 weeks, but for whatever reason this time it feels like it has already been forever and I am ready to move on. I hate the whole recovery/get back to normal part, and this time I really don't want to ever do this again. I want to get rid of the weight, AGAIN, and never have to get rid of it, AGAIN, and in the meantime, what the heck am I going to wear?

I'm seriously considering getting a short-term second gym membership at a local woman's gym just because it is the only one in town that takes infants in the child care....I just can't imagine waiting until the middle of summer to get back to my gym once the baby is old enough (6 mos) and don't see how I will have the opportunity to get the kind of workout at home that I know I can get at the gym.....seriously, with 5 kids when will I ever have 45mins to an hour each day, uninterrupted, to exercise at home, unless it is the butt-crack of dawn (NOT a morning person!) or the middle of the night?

well, that's my rant....thanks for listening!
post #112 of 141
Are you supposed to wait to stop bleeding to DTD? DH and I tried it (at 11 days postpartum, no idea why I agreed to that) already and I'm def. still bleeding. It wasn't awful but it wasn't fun either. I have absolutely no sex drive at this point. I haven't had a sex drive since my daughter was conceived (Feb 2008). Holy cow, that's 2 years!!! I'm not even sure I remember what it feels like to want to DTD instead of just giving in to pressure from DH. Hmm. ///// In other news, I'm thrilled that DH is home. I spend hours sitting on the couch nursing and no the laptop while DH entertains Nigella and keeps her from getting into things. IT's going to be a hard adjustment when he goes back to work in midmarch, so I'm encouraging him to leave the house for a few hours here and there so that I need to figure out how to do this whole caring for 2 thing. It's hard.
post #113 of 141
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Your not crazy. My last two kids, this seems to be the first thing I think about... Is there going to be a next and when?

Although, immediately after birth I was SO content and happy and did feel that our family is perfect.
With DD, my first thought was "when can w have another one?!?" This time I'm feeling OK with the idea that this could be our last. I'd love a larger family, but for now... I'm OK. I'm probably even OK with just adopting at some point instead of being pregnant again (which was not something I would have considered after DD was born). Although for some reason, I kinda want to birth in the hospital. Cannot even begin to figure out why. I've done a MW assisted HB and a UC, and both went perfectly. Why do I want to do the hospital thing? Weird.
post #114 of 141
dp is still bleeding and has no interest in dtd - while i was nursing my libido went waaaaaaaaaaaay down. i already warned dp about that. so there will be no pressure from me having btdt.

as for more kids - YES! we plan on having one more. dp has to get her thyroid hormones back to the optimal level, so we'll go visit our re spring next year to get the ball rolling again. i have to say despite the horror stories i've heard about going from 1 to 2 kids is hard, we're actually doing pretty well. ds1 has his moments and we're both tired but i LOVE having 2 kids.

just finished making (scottish) pancakes - ds1 is on his 3rd with strawberry jam and we'll be heading outside to make a snowman soon. it doesn't usually snow here but we got several inches yesterday!

g
post #115 of 141
nak

we didn't dtd but fooled around... it was kind of nice but holy cow, i don't know how my boobs will survive with 3 people being all over them .

holly gained over a pound and grew an inch in 8 days! WOW!

dd1 is still pretty moody. SIGH. i feel bad for her, but i miss my nice little girl! she's seriously spent the entire morning moping or throwing a fit over whatever little thing. i keep hoping we have hit the "low point" and that things will improve a ton soon.

my little sister is visiting next weekend!
post #116 of 141
You girls are funny with all the sex talk. I can't imagine wanting it any time soon. I'm 6 weeks pp and still quite sore, especially up near the clitoris, where a stitch came out and was deemed unimportant to my healing. I did have a bit of a sex drive during pregnancy, but DH did not want to have sex with a pregnant woman, so we haven't DTD since July. Oh well.

We've always wanted (or agreed to having) 2 kids, so there will be another in the future, but at this point, going through pregnancy and childbirth again is not something I want to do.

DS has been gaining about a pound/week (after the first week, of course) and he is over 11 pounds now!
post #117 of 141
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nak

we didn't dtd but fooled around... It was kind of nice but holy cow, i don't know how my boobs will survive with 3 people being all over them .
lmao
post #118 of 141
I totally hear yall about transitioning from 1 to 2 kids. That was extremely hard for me. But going from 2 to 3 has been a breeze. Well if you don't count my 2 yo running away from me at the library and into the parking lot (I'm still not quite as fast as I used to be, plus I was wearing the baby)- but I grabbed her before she really got anywhere. She is so stubborn- just like me

I remember going to a support group for parents of two kids and couldn't even go to the meetings because it was so stressful. But now I have gone to the park a few times, the above mentioned library twice, and the store. Which going to the store with two by myself the first few months seemed so much harder.

All I can say is wear your baby!!!! I wouldn't have survived otherwise. And make sure you can wear them on your back when they get older, makes life so much easier.
post #119 of 141
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Does everyone have the night sweating?....

I didn't realize this was birth-related. That explains it!


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post #120 of 141
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Are you supposed to wait to stop bleeding to DTD? DH and I tried it (at 11 days postpartum, no idea why I agreed to that) already and I'm def. still bleeding. It wasn't awful but it wasn't fun either. I have absolutely no sex drive at this point. I haven't had a sex drive since my daughter was conceived (Feb 2008). Holy cow, that's 2 years!!! I'm not even sure I remember what it feels like to want to DTD instead of just giving in to pressure from DH. Hmm.
I pretty much had very little sex drive til I stopped nursing. After I stopped, it came back. Like, a lot. I'm thinking, vasectomy, too, b/c doing it w/o contraception is a.w.e.s.o.m.e.

And dtd w/me while breastfeeding = dtd w/someone who is wearing a shirt. I can't handle it otherwise.
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