Kissing girls at age 7??!! - Page 2

[LROM]

If I'm not too late to weigh in - I agree that the kissing part sounds really normal. But I agree with the first few posters who had thoughts about the "secret" part and the "Sam will be mad at me" part.

I'm guessing it's not a sign that Sam is learning some deeper, more concerning things from someone, but aside from following up on the secrets thing by maybe once in awhile saying things like "I'm glad we don't keep secrets from each other" or "Remember you can tell me anything", it's also never too early to help our kids understand that they don't need to feel like they *have* to do something just because a friend or adult tells them they'll be "mad" or "upset" with them if they don't do it. It's never too early to encourage our kids to decide for themselves - based on what they feel and what we the parents have taught them - what do they think is the right thing to do in the situation? And do it. Don't do anything that feels wrong or strange or against something they know they shouldn't do just because someone will be mad if they don't.

Me, I would also ask him specifically why he thought Sam would be mad (did she say it? He just thinks it?) but I don't think it's such an urgent thing that you have to ask. I just would.

[treemom2]

Originally Posted by Gentle~Mommy :)

Absolutely normal, don't make a big deal out of it and don't make him unfriend her.

I know it's hard not to make a big deal out of it, but it is completely normal for kids to do this. My DD is 8 and a kissing machine. Yes, we've talked about "private parts" and who should/can touch private parts (a girl and boy in the neighborhood have been caught touching each other), we've talked about not kissing those who don't want to be kissed (girl caught touching others private parts doesn't like to kiss). . .we've also talked about things (not quite the sex talk) people do when they are in love like her mama and papa. DH was very concerned when we were told DD was taking her friends in other rooms and kissing them and talked about quitting kissing me in front of the kids. . .I totally vetoed that idea, and chose to talk about it with them instead. Oh, we've also discussed with DD what to do when someone wants to do something she's uncomfortable with, who she can go to, how she can redirect (like let's go ride bikes or something else together). I think the most important thing is to let your kids know what to do when they don't like or don't want to do something--evasion techniques!!

[DaughterOfKali]

It's so normal that the school psych had to have a talk with the 1st grade classrooms about it.

I think at this age, kids are really starting to pay attention to movies (even disney stuff.) They are always showing kissing. It's depicted as soooo wonderful that kids are curious about it.


I try to tell ds to blow kisses, instead.

[MissinNYC]

I certainly think it's developmentally normal, but I also wouldn't be pleased with my DDs doing so (one of them is 7). I would not allow my girls (or boy) to do it, and while I wouldn't be concerned about abuse or whatever, and it wouldn't horrify me, I would take steps to stop it. I know this is culturally acceptable, but it's not acceptable within my personal and family morals and convictions.

[ShadowMoon]

Sounds normal to me! I would just keep those communication lines open and listen to your instincts. It seems like experimentation and mimicking to me. I remember myself and others doing these things at 6,7,8 yrs old.