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post #21 of 26
This sounds like my 10 year old. As a baby/young child he was very difficult. It was such a drastic difference from my first who was so easy going. There were times I thought I was going to rip my hair out, and there wasn't a lot of validation from the baby that things were going good. He just demanded and I didn't receive a lot of affection or obvious signs of joy from him in return.

Now at 10, he is a crack up. He is kind, sweet, loving and so smart. He is just a wonderful little man to be around. However, you still have to earn your way into his heart and if you are on the outside of his circle, he can come off as cold. Frankly, at 10, I am ok with that. I don't think he needs to be open and free with everyone and he is the type who is a really good judge of character. So if he likes you, you know you are a good person.

I do however love that he has finally become a snuggler. It took years, but he finally got there.
post #22 of 26
My dd is STILL a very serious little person. She will be 8 in April--at birth she never smiled--and in fact, I have NO pictures of her smiling for the camera until she was two--and even then, we had to work to get those smiles. She was very intense, very high needs baby.
She now attends a gifted magnet public school--and was screened at her homeschool and was identified gifted in the first grade (which is how it is done in the public schools where I live in Virginia). She plays violin and is considered gifted there as well. She lives everything in its place to this day.
She loves math and science--go figure, since I hate math.
Her little brother was the EASIEST baby on the planet--but is NOW the high needs one! I can't figure these kids out. Both were reading well at age three.
But dad is gifted (identified in his youth) and now is director of technology for a health care system where we live--so I don't know if they got it from him or if it's because of who there were at birth.
It's hard to tell.
post #23 of 26
My daughter was a very serious baby (but easy) as well. She was not easily made to laugh or even smile, but spent a lot of time studying objects and taking the world in. I'm sure some people wondered if something was wrong, but I could see her gears turning.

Fast forward .. she just turned eight. She is very smart and independent. She'll never be the life of the party and is rather shy, but manages to make plenty of friends. She has an amazing ability to concentrate. She's lovely. She was born this way and will most always show these traits. I'm sure you have a lovely child too!
post #24 of 26
My very serious baby (rarely laughed or smiled, very deliberate in her speech and actions) is now a serious 3.5 year old. She does smile and laugh a lot more now, but her enjoyment tends to be from the weirdest things. She also doesn't play with toys, for the most part, loves the computer and rarely tantrums, just argues. Smart as a whip, she scares me sometimes with her questions and observations. She LOVES Cars, but her favorite car is Bob Cutlass. She also loves Finding Nemo but her favorite fish is Gill. She's a weird bird, but awesome.
post #25 of 26
I was a very bright child. As I baby I never smiled. Photographers took hours to make me smile. As for the things I smiled at where for matured humor. I started to speak very early at 9 months And I started straight in sentences not words. My first sentence was to tell my father to give me some coke while we were having dinner. I never spoke like a baby. Didn't slur or mess up words. Didn't say goo gaga.
Plus I also started running instead of crawling at 9 mos. I grew up in a messed up family. We moved every year. And I never got to settle down or have a routine. As a baby I was told to be the fussiest... Most sensitive. I played with threads in the floor instead of my toys. I wondered about trees and skies rather than people. I broke things that looked interesting. I wanted to break them apart to make new things out of them. As a kid and teen I was a social outcast. When I spoke to my peers they thought I was crazy or stupid that I opened up so much. I talked with full open honestly. I could never lie or be social never say comments like well I don't have life etc) actually told people where I kept my clothes... Plus I wasn't raised normal either. 4 other siblings and we moved every year of my life and were kept isolated. No other family member beside my siblings father and mom. No friends. No community. And no tv. Not to mention, used or homemade clothes and used books all my life. Besides the fact my life wasn't ideal... I grew up to be very strong and smart. Still singled out my whole life. Still was never fully understood by anyone. No one got my deep philosophical thoughts. And everyone only talked about useless daily small things which doesn't matter to me.
At 16 I started to falter. Grades fell. Went in to a pattern. Couldn't stick to anything. Tried my best to finish things with high more than normal energy and motivation and would have completed them if it was for the sudden depression that made me helpless and a complete shut in. My mother told me that at 7 I was diagnosed for adjustment disorder. And that if I didn't take meds at that age I would not be able to function in my teens or have a normal life ever. And now I am 25.... Still same pattern. Can't keep a job. Can't complete my college. Can't connect with people. They are too dumb. Can't stick to routine it's too useless. To boring. I'm going to get my lithium today.... I have bipolar manic depression type 1 with extreme mania and mixed episodes I
and might even have aspergers
At age 22 I took lithium for a bit. The only time in my life I actually finished one semester with high grades and kept a full time job at the same time.

Please take your child to get diagnosed early on and don't hesitate to treat them for what the doctor says to.... I wish my parents treated me when I was a kid. I wouldn't have had this much trouble now. I'm incapable of being normal. Of fitting in. Of having friends or working on one place for too long. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. They don't understand the deep things I say....
post #26 of 26
And make sure to give your baby routine. Make a safe world for her. Don't do change too much. Make her life stable. It might the only chance for her to have a normal life.
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