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post #21 of 98
1/30/10 at 12:57am
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Originally Posted by Kailey's mom View Post
Thanks you I will definitily keep all of you posted. I'm so happy to have so much support, it really means so much to me. I'll be getting the patches in the mail in approx 2 weeks, than I'll be recieving daily phone calls from a counselor through the program About the dehydration, that is VERY true. In the past, whenever I had to go to the ER, it never failed, I always had to get an IV for dehydration! The lady on the phone told me the best thing would be to set my quit date for a saturday, so the date is Feb 20th, although it could be the saturday before that, it all depends when my patches show up. Dh is going to take care of dd during the critical time. I'm so going to do this!!
I am so happy for you. Hooray for your DH being supportive and agreeing to help. Let us know when you finalize the date and I'm sure many people will be here to support you as well.

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post #22 of 98
1/30/10 at 8:23am
I just wanted to say good luck. I think it is great that you are getting the patches! DH and I were both smokers and we quit together in August using patches and have been smoke free ever since. DH was a really heavy smoker so if he could do it anyone can. We both feel sooo much healthier, more energy, our skin looks better, no coughing etc. Also even though we still get cravings to smoke sometimes smelling someone that smokes is enough for us. We never realized how gross it smells to non smokers. Our sense of smell and taste is so much better now. Plus we save soo much money not smoking. The only thing I would suggest is make sure you are truly ready to quit smoking. Even with the patches the first few days are really really hard. It is great thought that your DH is going to help out, that will make a huge difference. Just remember why you are quitting and know going into it that the withdrawl symptoms and cravings will go away, it only lasts a few days. It is all downhill after that!

Good luck with everything. I admire your courage to post here!
post #23 of 98
1/30/10 at 11:04am
It's wonderful that you called the helpline!

Maybe this book could help you: "Addiction free - naturally".

I agree with one of the PPs about taking it in slow, steady steps. Good luck!
post #24 of 98
1/30/10 at 11:43am
You may find that once you've quit smoking (not during, but after) that your sense of taste is quite different. That may make it easier to improve your diet and cut out the junk food.
post #25 of 98
1/30/10 at 2:45pm
Hooray! You can do it!
post #26 of 98
1/30/10 at 2:57pm
Just a thought, my ds is aspergers and spd and the gluten dairy free diet SAVED us!!!! I have a blog www.eastonseats@blogspot.com of all kinds of recipes and menus to help others take the plunge, to show you can still eat good, and with easy to find stuff.
post #27 of 98
1/30/10 at 4:38pm
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Originally Posted by Kailey's mom View Post
Ok, so I make SURE that my dd is taken care of, eats right *no choice since she has E.C.* but even before the strict diet she is on, she ate organic food etc.

For me, I don't. I'm lazy, careless, and need to change. I'll just make a list of my unhealthy habits and can someone please tell me some good reasons why I should change, if I will feel better, links, anything. I need motivation. I keep saying I will change, but I never do.

1. I smoke cigarettes. I have a number to call to get FREE patches to quit. I haven't even called. I like to smoke. I'm scared I'll get mean.

2. I eat so unhealthy, I eat McDonalds on a regular basis, brownies, junk. I really want to be a vegan; or at the very least start as a vegitarian, but then I have no patience to cook. I need some good reasons.
3. I'm on medications for panic/anxiety disorder which from what I'm told, is a comorbid from having Aspergers disorder. I LITERALLY can not function without meds. I'm on disability. I'm not looking for a magic cure, but IDK, I just wish there was a natuaral EQUIVILENT to zanax, and zoloft.

4. I am addicted to sleeping I think. I HATE waking up, I am a night owl and I stay up too late for fear of I dont' know what. Is there a benefit to going to bed early?

5. No motivation.

6. Oh yeah, and 100 percent of my liquids are diet coke! I KNOW this can not be healthy, but I'm addicted. I have withdrawls if I go 12 hours or less.

Please tell me how I will feel better if I make these life changes. Thanks everyone!
You should definitely check out the book The China Study. My husband has severe crohn's, and I have suffered from depression for a long time. When we adopted a vegan diet after reading this book, we both became SO much healthier. DH's crohn's is under control and I'm not depressed anymore (not saying it's entirely from the diet, but I know it's helped a TON to clean myself out so to speak).

I truly believe that what you put into your body has a huge effect on all aspects of your health.

I also think a big motivator for you to change will be when your daughter is old enough to undrestand that, although she eats a healthy diet, her mama doesn't. She'll start to question this to no end. Your motivation will be to model the behavior you want your daughter to immitate. For me this is huge. Try to tell yourself "I WANT to be in good shape because I want my daughter to see that exercise is important and fun. I WANT to eat right so my daughter will develop healthy habits."

You WILL feel better if you stop smoking, eat better, and get more sleep. I really think doing these things (as well as dumping the coke) will help immensely with some of your emotional issues as well.

You could also be suffering from depression. You sound a lot like me when I was severely depressed. I ended up going to counselling, changing my diet radically, and starting to exercise, as well as going on anti-depressants for a short time. I've been off the meds for about 3 years and haven't been to counselling in as long, but I'm healthy and happy, which I attribute to the lifestyle changes.

Anyway, sorry this is so long! I really hope you realize that you're WORTH making changes for. You need to value yourself enough to start taking care of yourself, because no one else will do it for you! I promise once you start taking care of yourself, you'll feel a million times better. Good luck!
post #28 of 98
1/31/10 at 1:48am
Op, you are an inspiration! I'm cheering you on!
post #29 of 98
1/31/10 at 4:34am
Thread Starter 
Again, thank you all for the support, resources (book suggestions, links, diet recommendations etc) I plan on implimenting as much as possible! I'm so excited to get started now LOL.. really I am. I'm really to start feeling better. As of now, the official set in stone date is Saturday, Feb 20th. I may start the saturday before IF the patches come in the mail before hand. For the pp that mentioned the gluten free diet, my psychiatrist also mentioned this to me, he said he has seen a lot of success with his other patients with ASD's who eliminated gluten, and some milk and gluten. Than as another pp stated, that my taste buds should get better after quitting.. I hope this is true, because it will be so much easier to eat healthy. As of now, well image this...drinking water with nicotine breath.. it's similar to dumping water in an ashtray and drinking it down :Puke It's very hard to get the cigarette taste out of your mouth. Again, I can't wait until this crap is over for good! I'm going to try to find some pinapple sage also, as a pp posted, to help with anxiety. I'll problably be posting like a mad woman on the day I quit, and maybe for the few days afterwards
post #30 of 98
1/31/10 at 2:11pm
I've been thinking about you ever since I read your post. I am so excited for you! Goooooooooo, Kailey's Mom!
post #31 of 98
1/31/10 at 9:10pm
You can do it!
I am 4 years off cigarettes and man, I did love love love smoking! It wasn't easy but now I am so very glad I quit. It is nice to not be beholden to those little suckers.

As for the soda- can you maybe start subbing some caffeine free soda in place of the caffeinated so that you are slowly weaning yourself off the caffeine too?

I will check back. Good luck!
post #32 of 98
2/1/10 at 8:09pm
Regarding the diet coke-

Not sure this will matter or not, but carbonated liquids are really bad for your teeth. It's not just the sugar, it's actually the carbonation of the pop that destroys the tooth enamel.

Due to work stress I was drinking a coke almost everyday and my dentist asked me at my last visit if I was suddenly drinking a lot of carbonated stuff. I actually had two cavities! I haven't had a cavity since I was a kid!!!

So you might want to cut carbonated caffeine to help your teeth and prevent big dentist bills!! Good Luck!
post #33 of 98
2/5/10 at 9:57pm
Thread Starter 
I recieved the patches in the mail today. My quit date is still is 15 days. hmm.. I *could* start sooner, but I think it would be good to wait until DH has time to take full care of my dd (except for night time of course, i'm her "pillow" lol ) Change is coming!!!!!!!!!!!! and I am excited. I have to go to the docs on Monday for a follow up for this bronchitis I have *lovely* This is when I get to shock the doc and tell her I'm quitting. She has been on me forever to quit.. now I have a plan.

oh, and to add to the plan, I'm going to get a body detox kit from the health food store to help flush out my system of all the gunk ya know, is that a good idea to do After my quit date, or before?
post #34 of 98
2/6/10 at 2:31am
Way to go, Mama!

I am slowly cutting out refined sugars/white flours/white rice from my diet and it's really making a difference.. and I've only been doing it for 4 days! I definitely recommend it. Also, I am a huge Diet Coke freak and always have been ( I swear I drank that as a baby instead of formula ) but I am finding that drinking half my body weight in oz every day in water is keeping the DC cravings away. That's a LOT of ounces for me, but it's really, really helping.

Good luck!
post #35 of 98
2/6/10 at 3:23am
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Originally Posted by Kailey's mom View Post
I recieved the patches in the mail today. My quit date is still is 15 days. hmm.. I *could* start sooner, but I think it would be good to wait until DH has time to take full care of my dd (except for night time of course, i'm her "pillow" lol ) Change is coming!!!!!!!!!!!! and I am excited. I have to go to the docs on Monday for a follow up for this bronchitis I have *lovely* This is when I get to shock the doc and tell her I'm quitting. She has been on me forever to quit.. now I have a plan.

oh, and to add to the plan, I'm going to get a body detox kit from the health food store to help flush out my system of all the gunk ya know, is that a good idea to do After my quit date, or before?
If you are sick or still recovering I would not recommend doing a cleanse right now. Maybe you could do it on your one month quit anniversary? If you are making a lot of changes your body systems are probably a bit off balance .... and maybe a milestone would help keep your motivation up? You could always ask your Dr when she thinks would be an appropriate time if she is supportive of such things.
post #36 of 98
2/6/10 at 5:13am
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Originally Posted by Kailey's mom View Post
1. I smoke cigarettes.
2. I eat so unhealthy, I eat McDonalds on a regular basis, brownies, junk.
3. I LITERALLY can not function without meds. I'm on disability.
4. I am addicted to sleeping I think.
5. No motivation.
6. Oh yeah, and 100 percent of my liquids are diet coke! I KNOW this can not be healthy, but I'm addicted. I have withdrawls if I go 12 hours or less.
Smoking is the number one cause of preventable death, it is a huge killer daily. Prevent it. Not only are your outsides effected, your insides look terrible and your health will suffer from it in many bad ways, cancer included. Not only are you effected, but also those you love.
The human body is mostly water. What you are drinking is a diuretic, which will make you even more dehydrated and it contains a chemical I wouldn't feed animals. You are doing that to your body on a daily basis.
You are living dangerously and carelessly and making the odds against you by eating a bad diet, drinking all that DC, not taking proper care of yourself and your body, along with smoking.
You need to find out why you are doing this, in order to come full circle.
Are you currently seeing a therapist or counselor? I think this will be important for you. Have you had a sleep study done. I think you should.
post #37 of 98
2/6/10 at 5:35pm
You're already tackling the smoking. Personally, I'd do the diet coke next. Since you suffer withdrawal, and don't want to cold turkey it, I'd cut down by one a day. If you're drinking five right now, then drink four for a week, then three for a week, etc. Make sure you replace it with water, and add at least one more glass, as well. I mean, go from five diet cokes and no water, to four diet cokes and two glasses (maybe three...is a can of diet coke bigger than a drinking glas??), then to three diet cokes and three glasses of water, etc.

I've always had a kind of...schizoid...diet. I eat really, really well, in many ways, but also have a junk food addiction. I find that, generall, if I can eliminate any given junk food for about a month, it becomes really unappealing to me. I can barely even touch McDonalds at this point, for instance.

You should definitely be getting the majority of your fluids from plain water!
post #38 of 98
2/7/10 at 7:37pm
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Originally Posted by Kailey's mom View Post
Ok, so I make SURE that my dd is taken care of, eats right *no choice since she has E.C.* but even before the strict diet she is on, she ate organic food etc.

2. I eat so unhealthy, I eat McDonalds on a regular basis, brownies, junk. I really want to be a vegan; or at the very least start as a vegitarian, but then I have no patience to cook. I need some good reasons.


Please tell me how I will feel better if I make these life changes. Thanks everyone!
My only point is that although you want your child to eat healthy, and you've chosen good foods for her, this will only go so far.

She will learn how to eat from how YOU eat. You can present her with healthy food choices, but she's going to see junk going into your mouth and it will impress upon her that junk is what goes in a person's body. I know she's on a special diet, but the way foods are evolving for special diets, there's always a way to eat junk. Or at least not the healthiest options.

That's all.
post #39 of 98
2/18/10 at 11:22pm
Kailey's Mom

I've been thinking about you lately and wanted to know how you're doing. I see your quit date is this Saturday - I just wanted to send you love, encouragement and non-smoking vibes!

(Couldn't find the vibes, so I'm apparently sending you fairy dust, but it should do the trick!)

You can do it!
post #40 of 98
2/19/10 at 12:28am
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Kailey's Mom

I've been thinking about you lately and wanted to know how you're doing. I see your quit date is this Saturday - I just wanted to send you love, encouragement and non-smoking vibes!

(Couldn't find the vibes, so I'm apparently sending you fairy dust, but it should do the trick!)

You can do it!
thanks, yep tomorrow is the last day of my unhealthy life..thank goodness. I'm all ready for saturday. All the cigarettes go in the garbage can tomorrow night
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