UPDATE!!! Hello everyone! wow it's already been 2 years since my original post. We are still in Germany (and sorry to say still don't speak German... too many German speaks English ) So DS1 is 4 1/2 now and over the summer while we were home in the USA for a few months we received THE "invitation" for the Delfin4 test so when we came back we had received tons of letters. We had my DH employer translate and then after freaking out a bit (DS1 doesn't speak a word in German and we are hoping he understands us when we speak to him in English lol) we called the contct name on the letter and start to explain we were only in Germany until Spring 2012 (which in part is the truth since my DH contract expires then but we didn't tell them there was a chance we could still come back for 2 more years). So she said that if my DH employer could send a letter explaining that we were leaving in the Spring then DS1 would be exempt from the test (for now I guess... one step at the time ) And I guess it worked cause we never heard from them again... they also were asking for 528 Euros if we didn't want to take the test... But again DH employer took care of it!!! Thank God for their help.
As for the ped visit we stand our ground until last Spring (so from October 2009 until April 2011)... when we received court letters for both our DS. They even sent a lady to talk to us about the visits and the fact that it was free of charge for us (money was not the issue here at all). But we ended up going... yes to the same stupid ped I took DS2 when he was newborn!!! She still looked at me weird when I said no to vaccination and I told her I was still nursing my then 18 month old!!! She also looked quite surprised when I answered her that my kids don't get sick after she asked me if they had any sickness or bad injuries. We haven't got any more letters but I'm expecting them to start coming soon again... since DS2 turned 2 in October. What is more frustrating is that we havent recived any kindegeld since our first year in Germany... I guess DH's employer is working on it but my point is if we are in Germany and need to be registered so they can track us in our every move can they at least be sending the kindergeld.
Well so that's the update... oh and we just found out we are expecting our 3rd baby and let me tell you even if there is a chance DH might miss the birth we are stongly thinking about birthing in the USA to just make everything much easier on all of us... So again thanks to all for all your help in the last 2 years. If we are back again for 2 more years then I will let everybody know how we can get out of sending DS1 to school... cause that's still the goal!