Weekly thread, Jan 31-Feb 7 - Page 5

[rhiOrion]

I noticed that Claire's page hasn't been updated in a while, too. I actually wen there this morning to see if I'd missed something somehow. I hope it's just that the babies are growing and there is nothing new to report. But it has me very worried.

It's amazing how much I can worry about a bunch of people I've never met before.

[sew_crafty_girl]

I was also worrying about Claire's carepage.

[Dena]

MPP, I am so with you on the dreams. I had another freaky dream last night - someone was trying to get in our house and I was able to push them out and close and lock the door, but I couldn't scream for help, despite that dh was in the house. Which for me counts as a nightmare, as I very rarely have actual bad dreams. And this is the second in three days. No idea where these are coming from. Maybe pg hormones run amok.

I hear you on the names too. When I was looking at baby names for the girls, I came across "Obedience. I was tempted....

Ericka, the new cut looks great! I am so sorry the cramping is continuing. I hope that things improve for you soon.

Sehbub, fwiw, dd1's name means "wise flower," but looking at her personality, she might as well have been named Stubborn McTalksalot too.

And speaking of dd1, she woke up with a fever of 101 this morning. Joy. She seems fine, not sick at all, but of course I am keeping her home. She has no other symptoms, just the fever. Which actually makes me wonder, can grief cause a fever? She seems to be processing my mom's death more in the last few days, and I am wondering if this is her body's reaction to it.

In good news, my chiropractor's office called, and they have a cancellation today!! I will take the kids in with me - she may be able to sneak them in too, which may help dd's fever.

[sehbub]

Originally Posted by Dena

Sehbub, fwiw, dd1's name means "wise flower," but looking at her personality, she might as well have been named Stubborn McTalksalot too.

And speaking of dd1, she woke up with a fever of 101 this morning. Joy. She seems fine, not sick at all, but of course I am keeping her home. She has no other symptoms, just the fever. Which actually makes me wonder, can grief cause a fever? She seems to be processing my mom's death more in the last few days, and I am wondering if this is her body's reaction to it.

In good news, my chiropractor's office called, and they have a cancellation today!! I will take the kids in with me - she may be able to sneak them in too, which may help dd's fever.

The part that cracks me up about her is that her name means "listener." Um, no.

IME, grief can cause all kinds of things. My dad got the flu when his mom died, and my dad NEVER gets sick. His body just couldn't handle fighting off things that it normally could. Hope it's resolved soon and y'all can get some peace.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Erika: cute cut! I love how I feel after a hair cut. It does a lot to make me just feel better. Hope yours did the same for you. (((hugs))) and still sending pvs for Jennings.

Dean and MMP: I alternate between nightmares and just weird dreams. Last night I dreamt I was trying to breast feed our cat. EEEWWWW. I woke up totally grossed out, and of course he was sleeping right beside me!

RhiOrion: I didn't realize how bad I SDD until I moved South. I remember after having lived here for a couple of years, I exclaimed to dh "Oh wow I haven't been depressed in like two years!" For me pregnancy is a rough time. I know i had prepartum depression with my daughters.

AFM: Whine ahead. I feel guilty for even whining when so many of you have so much more going but I need to whine to someone! I've been having a really hard time sleeping anyway. I have issues and being pregnant is not helping. Yesterday ds acted "off" and I got it into my head that he was going to have a seizure that night. Now dh has been sleeping in their room because it makes ds feel better (have I ever mentioned how much I LOVE my dh?) but I was still worried. So I do some work for my classes until one and then go to bed. Youngest joins me.

Of course I toss all night. Everytime I hear the bed move in the kids' room, my heart rate jumps up and I'm instantly alert. I drift in and out of sleep like this until two. At two I start having BHs that are painful...this is followed by a burning feeling on my cervix. And of course the "blueberry" is jumping around like mad in their. I had to go pee three times in an hour after some well aimed kicks to the bladder. At three, the contractions and burning goes away to be replaced my second child sobbing in her bunk. I go in and she's sleeping so I'm assuming nightmares. I soothe her and go back to bed. At four, dh calls me, and I jump up thinking ds is having a seizure. Nope, second child has a fever and is crying and hacking. Argh.

I email my midwife at this point to tell her there is no way I'll be making our appointment. Then I go to bed and finally fall into this beautiful deep sleep which is rudely interrupted by dh's alarm clock (we still keep it in our room so we don't disturb Umberto. I slept fitfully for awhile but feel like crap

Okay whine over. Not big in the scheme of things but I feel like crying and am so dreading my evening class. Luckily they're watching a documentary so I don't have to be on so to speak.

[Dena]

Originally Posted by GreenTeaGinger61

Dean and MMP: I alternate between nightmares and just weird dreams. Last night I dreamt I was trying to breast feed our cat. EEEWWWW. I woke up totally grossed out, and of course he was sleeping right beside me!

I had the EXACT SAME DREAM when I was pg with dd1! In my dream, I was supposed to be bfing the cat because it was good practice for bfing a baby.

I hope you get some better sleep tonight! I can't imagine dealing with what you are dealing with with your ds.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Originally Posted by Dena

I had the EXACT SAME DREAM when I was pg with dd1! In my dream, I was supposed to be bfing the cat because it was good practice for bfing a baby.

I hope you get some better sleep tonight! I can't imagine dealing with what you are dealing with with your ds.

I've always heard about those dreams but this is the first time I had one. It was utterly funny once I was fully awake. In the dream, the cat was having a fit when I tried to get him into the nursing position and I was so annoyed. I kept saying "Babies don't act like this! Doesn't he realize what he's getting?"

I hope so too on the sleep. I think I'm anxious because we have to up the meds on Thursday (we up them gradually until he's at a full dose in four weeks) so any side effects will likely come up slowly. Makes me all tense. And really there are so many WORST things that could happen to one's child. He's not likely to die from this, and he doesn't really suffer a great deal so all in all it's not great but not horrible either. It's just so hard to have your child suffer anything at all. And ds sometimes seems to just have a tough lot in life. He's always been delayed (late speaking, late walking, etc). He's so sweet and passive that he's often made a target of bullying and he just doesn't know how to react to this kind of meanness. And of course he's struggled with school stuff. This is like just one more thing, and it seems so grossly unfair

[rhiOrion]

OMG, until you guys started talking about it I had totally forgotten that I've had a breastfeeding the cat dream, too!

[OneWithTwo]

I do have a hard time saying what I want t a Dr....I called to let them know about the cramping...today might be the day he said. He has to check things out first.
Something is wrong, I can feel it. I guess we'll see.
I think I get someone to come to the home anyways? because I am high risk. My parents LITERALLY check on me every 10 minutes..and if I don't answer, the doorbell starts chiming. They live 2 blocks away. I took a shower the other day and my mom called 5 times, then came rushing over...I can't get any rest because of it, so being alone is not a problem. I wish I was less bothered.

You only get 2 steroid shots. So I have had both...he is a good breather in there.

[GreenTeaGinger61]

Originally Posted by erickalynne

I do have a hard time saying what I want t a Dr....I called to let them know about the cramping...today might be the day he said. He has to check things out first.
Something is wrong, I can feel it. I guess we'll see.
I think I get someone to come to the home anyways? because I am high risk. My parents LITERALLY check on me every 10 minutes..and if I don't answer, the doorbell starts chiming. They live 2 blocks away. I took a shower the other day and my mom called 5 times, then came rushing over...I can't get any rest because of it, so being alone is not a problem. I wish I was less bothered.

You only get 2 steroid shots. So I have had both...he is a good breather in there.

Will be thinking of you Erika. I'm the same way with Drs. Drives me crazy about myself.

[Pepper44]

I've been reading the new posts on this thread all day. I think my brain is too fried to form coherent comments!

My body hurts so bad today. My hips are throbbing, and the pain goes straight across my lower abdomen (like the muscles on the underside of my belly) and down my legs to my knees. For some reason I get this pain every couple of days and I can hardly move! My back hurts also but either it's not as bad or I'm used to it and find it easier to ignore.

The hospital is now in violation of HIPPA, I think, because it's been exactly 30 days since they say they received my request/release form for my medical records. I'm so sick of calling them! If the records don't show up this week then my DH is calling on Monday...he is way more assertive than I am.

Ericka I hope today is the day for you, so you can have your baby safe in front of you rather than worry about him struggling in the womb.

[loveneverfails]

I am utterly perplexed, and keep wondering if I'm hallucinating or something, about how small my belly is compared to last time. I posted in the belly pics section, and it's just bizarre to me. WHAT THE HECK?!?!!?

[Peace+Hope]

pepper, my goodness! what horrible pain! does anything, exercise or therapies or stretching, seem to impact it at all? . and drat that hospital records dept.

greentea, oh my, that IS so unfair for your sweet little guy. sometimes it seems like things like that just pile onto the one person they shouldn't. i really hope things turn around for him in some of these areas soon!

i'm not sleeping well at all either. i have picked up a habit of snoring, which i don't understand... haven't gained SO much weight, and i'm sleeping mostly on my side. it disturbs my sweet husband terribly, and i think he wakes me. part of my problem is, when he gets into a pattern of waking me up, he starts doing it in his sleep even when i'm not bothering him (not snoring). last night i slept/tossed until 2, got up and read til i couldn't keep my eyes open at 4, and slept/tossed until 7. some sleep in between there somewhere... boy, if this continues the frequent waking once the baby gets here will be NO problem

[rhiOrion]

Ugh ugh ugh. I just ate way too much cake. Store bought cake, at that.

I can't even think straight my head is so fuzzy.

Should be wonderful for my midwife appt and the scale tomorrow.

[Knitting Mama]

I am just in a mood today, and I have to let it out! Sorry ladies!

My husband is a morning cuddler. It's sweet, but it's getting to be a hassle. I don't want to push him away, but...here's the issue. He's really, really bad about getting out of bed on time. He has to be at work at 8, and it's a half hour drive to work. So he sets the alarm for 5:45, then he lays there in bed cuddling on me until almost 7. I'm still 3/4 asleep during that (I go to bed later than him; it's really hard for me to fall asleep), but when I realize it's nearly 7 and he has to be out of the house by 7:30, I get out of bed, so that he doesn't have someone to cuddle against. Then he gets up and rushes around and gets himself out the door, not doing any sort of morning chores (e.g. scooping the litter box), and barely making it to work on time.

It's really beginning to frustrate the hell out of me. I go to sleep later than he does, and since I don't need to start working as early, I'd really like to be able to sleep in a bit, even if it's just a half hour. Not to mention that soon enough (OMG only 10 weeks) we'll both be sleep deprived, and if I can sleep a decent amount now, I want to!

But even more than the sleep thing, it frustrates me that I have to get out of bed in order to get him out of bed. I'm all for snuggling and cuddling, but seriously, I'm not his mom. I shouldn't have to be pushing him to get out of bed. He's a grown man. We try to talk about him getting better about getting up, and he agrees that he needs to, but then the next day he's just laying in bed too late again. I'm not really sure what else to do about it.

Ugh, sorry for the rant, ladies, I just needed to vent!

[rhiOrion]

Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama

I am just in a mood today, and I have to let it out! Sorry ladies!

My husband is a morning cuddler. It's sweet, but it's getting to be a hassle. I don't want to push him away, but...here's the issue. He's really, really bad about getting out of bed on time. He has to be at work at 8, and it's a half hour drive to work. So he sets the alarm for 5:45, then he lays there in bed cuddling on me until almost 7. I'm still 3/4 asleep during that (I go to bed later than him; it's really hard for me to fall asleep), but when I realize it's nearly 7 and he has to be out of the house by 7:30, I get out of bed, so that he doesn't have someone to cuddle against. Then he gets up and rushes around and gets himself out the door, not doing any sort of morning chores (e.g. scooping the litter box), and barely making it to work on time.

It's really beginning to frustrate the hell out of me. I go to sleep later than he does, and since I don't need to start working as early, I'd really like to be able to sleep in a bit, even if it's just a half hour. Not to mention that soon enough (OMG only 10 weeks) we'll both be sleep deprived, and if I can sleep a decent amount now, I want to!

But even more than the sleep thing, it frustrates me that I have to get out of bed in order to get him out of bed. I'm all for snuggling and cuddling, but seriously, I'm not his mom. I shouldn't have to be pushing him to get out of bed. He's a grown man. We try to talk about him getting better about getting up, and he agrees that he needs to, but then the next day he's just laying in bed too late again. I'm not really sure what else to do about it.

Ugh, sorry for the rant, ladies, I just needed to vent!

What would happen if you just let him be late a couple of times? Is his job one where he'd get fired for it, or in any sort of trouble? Like, at my job, nobody would really notice if it wasn't a daily habit. If that's the case, I'd just stay in bed and let him be late! Also, I'd kick his proverbial but for setting the alarm for so much earlier than he needs to be up! That's valuable sleep time being traded for groggy time. I will admit that I've started hitting the snooze button one time every morning since I've been pregnant (I think it stems from my taking my temperature while we were TTC, and getting used to that couple of minutes where I was temping being like a snooze), but I'd think that an hour and 15 minutes is just crazy!

But yeah, you're not his mom

[Knitting Mama]

Yeah, this time of year he can't afford to be late-- we work for a tax software company, and it's tax season.

I honestly don't know that he's really groggy, per se, during that hour-- he just likes to cuddle and feel Cecilia kick while I'm still sleeping. I don't want him to stop doing that, I just want him to put a time limit on it and get himself out of bed after, say, half an hour as opposed to an hour!

[Carley]

Hey everyone! Still painting the house - it is RIDICULOUS how long it takes me to paint a room! I realized that most projects I've taken on I've had DH's parents or my mom entertain Syd & I've busted it out on a weekend. Now, in contrast, I'm working on painting during the week while still being a mom - preschool, errands, playdates - it's kind of like a time warp!

Yesterday I put on my paint clothes after I picked up Syd from preschool and never got around to actually painting! All those other things under the sun got done, but no painting! Boy was that misleading!

Syd has been an angel lately - oh how the ups and downs of life are amplified when children are in the mix! It's the best of times and the worst of times, for sure. I think we're both really enjoying this time with just us. I'm having the totally cliche "How am I possibly going to love another baby this much?" worries & am increasingly thinking about PPD & pulling it together postpartum, but I have faith and have made sure that EVERYONE around me knows what I went through last time & my fears of going through it again.

Re: Breastfeeding Cats: We adopted a kitten when I was 5 months pregnant with Sydney (after our cat was hit by a car) and he would try to nurse while I was sleeping! That was WEIRD!

In the time it took me to type this I ate 4 ounces of potato chips I don't even LIKE potato chips normally!!! CLEARLY time to get more productive Ok paint in the kitchen... here I come!!!

[Pepper44]

My DH sets his alarm way too early too!

At 4:00 the coffee maker starts grinding the coffee beans and I jolt awake.
At 4:30 his alarm goes off. Then he hits snooze every 10 minutes. Sometimes he has to get up at 4:45, other times he gets up at 5:15. It depends on if there are odd jobs he can do for over time before the plant opens.

It drives me insane because I am wide awake at 4 every morning, and even on the days he doesn't make coffee I still jolt awake out of habit! For awhile he was working a different shift and I still couldn't sleep past 4:30 in the morning, I am forever ruined. I naturally go to bed late too, I can't fall asleep early even though I've tried...my body clock just doesn't work that way.

Carley, we got a little kitten last year and he loved to snuggle with me. He would also try to nurse when DD would fall asleep and my boob would get left out. I woke up several times to him licking and suckling my nipple. Aaaah!! He still thinks I am his mother today, even though he now weighs so much that he can't sit on my chest anymore.

Strangest pregnancy dream I've ever had--when I was pregnant with DD I dreamed that I gave birth and she was a complete mini version of an adult Hitler, right down to the mustache. She had a similar attitude to Stewie from Family Guy, and she spoke German just like Hitler. I woke up totally freaked out. (I minored in German in college and while I was pregnant I took a German history class taught in German language...)

About my medical records, I've moved on to calling the privacy and complaints officer. She has yet to answer her phone. I'll start calling again first thing in the morning. Hopefully she can do something, since that's her specific job! They are definitely in violation of HIPPA. I have to have my records by the time I see my midwife on Tuesday morning.

[leavemealone]

Ericka - I hope things are going well. I'm glad your parents live so close and can check in on you even if they do go overboard.

My DH spent the night in the ER. He's had a cough for a while now and started coughing up blood last night. They did some chest x-rays, a CAT scan, an EKG and some other stuff. He has fluid in his lungs and apparently had pneumonia recently and this is leftover crud from that. Now I am worried the money we might have to pay out of pocket. He recently qualified for our state medicaid plan due to his income being so low in recent months so I hope that will cover it. We shouldn't have to question going to the dr when coughing up blood b/c of what it will cost.

Other than that, I am still unsure about my midwife situation. I don't know why this is so hard, but I really can't decide. I kind of decided to stick with the same one as last time, but I almost feel as if once she gets her money from me, she'll go all crappy again like last time. The money isn't due until 36 weeks, but she keeps asking me for some and telling me all the reasons she needs money. I have no problem making payments and I am not witholding money from her, but until I get our tax return back, I can't pay a lot b/c I feel like keeping our power on is more important. I left a message for my doula last night b/c I want to talk to her and get her opinion. Really, no option sounds great, but I have to pick one of them soon!