Nursing Mamas TTC February - Page 3

[Tara2]

Socali- FX for you that this is it!!! I hope AF stays away! Nov 14 is my DD's birthday! =) It's actually okay that FF took away my cross hairs. I didn't O and it was just bumming me that it was always there when I clearly was not pregnant.

babygrey- thanks for your thoughts... I guess backing off for me will be my attempt to let mother nature's wisdom rule over my impatient heart.

Please move me to waiting to be ready Temp was still low today. At this point, I could have many more positive OPKs that won't mean an O, so I'd rather wait. When PPAF shows (next month? At 27 months postpartum?) whenever... We will revisit TTC. Probably better for our financial situation and child spacing anyway (part of reason why I wanted to ecological nurse, as well as better for DS). I did want about 3 years between DS and my next and last babe. Only I am not looking forward to the age factor, as I turn 35 this year- yikes!- and just read that women's fertility plummets at 30, after maintaining fairly stable since the 20's, but drops abruptly and even more sharply after 35... to like 12% of what it was in late adolescence. So don't want to increase odds of m/c or infertility. We already have an MFI to deal with here... but sigh. I am just going to let go and see what happens.

I will check back sometimes to see you get BFPs... and I will miss being more part of this group!

[lifeguard]

Congrats Jessiebird!

Thank you for the words of support - I have no one irl who can commisserate as none of my friends bf'd this long.

Tara2 - 35 is still fairly young, don't let that scare you. I hope you (& I) get your ppaf soon!

Today I called the fertility specialists office for the 20th time trying to find out why I haven't received a call with an appointment yet. I FINALLY got through to a real person & it turns out they never received the referral. I've been waiting almost 3 months for nothing! So now I need to go back to my family doc & have her do it again. SOOO frustrating 'cause I know it will be MONTHS from when they receive the referral to when I actually have an appointment (which is why I had asked for the referral before my 1st ppaf). I also have a call in to the hospital in another town to see if there might be someone there who I could go to instead who would be less busy than the doctor in the city (we live in a small town between the city & this other town).

It sure would be a lot easier if I would just get my 1st ppaf & then would just fall pregnant all on our own this time!

[SoCaliMommy]

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Tara2~ 35 is young,plus the older you get the higher your chance of conceiving twins goes up.

[arianascrunchymama]

zwitterion- mama. what a tumultuous ride this is for you! I'm glad the doc at least is doing blood work to check your thyroid. I know for a while I was almost hoping something else was going on so the "blame" wouldn't be on DD's nursing. If your body keeps gearing up and faking you out at least it's trying and I'm sure it'll happen for you soon!!!

Jessiebird & Narn-
what a way to start the month off! congrats to you both!

zensven- holy cow!!! that's multitasking at it's finest! lol I could NEVER do that, though. If it's been a while since DH and I have DTD I have to focus on other things or cut DD short if she's comfort nursing because my brain gets mixed signals and it freaks me out.

socali- on af showing up. You always have such an upbeat attitude though!!!

DD pushed me away for the first time last night. she has been nursing to sleep for 17 months and now she's got her first cold, too! We sat down and I had to break her latch and ask her to open wider a couple times and she thought that was hilarious, but then she sat up signed "book" (I keep some board books in her crib because she likes to read if she doesn't fall asleep nursing and first thing in the morning), gave me a kiss and said "nye-nye!" I put her in her crib, walked out of her room and cried. today she was back to normal but she didn't really want to nurse tonight either! That makes me nervous because she's been a really picky eater lately and hardly eats any dinner. She's still sleeping 13 hours a night so I guess she's not starving! She's a string bean (34" tall and 24 pounds) so I worry about her getting enough.

[zensven42]

Originally Posted by hannybanany

8 dpo today. Not sure how I feel about this cycle. Guess we'll find out in a few days!

I am the same number of DPO as you. We could be testing buddies, LOL

[TXmom2]

Originally Posted by zensven42

I am the same number of DPO as you. We could be testing buddies, LOL

FX for both of you and at your reason for edit

[finnegansmom]

Move me to waiting to O

Hi Mamas. I'm sorry to say I'll be joining you again. We just found out we lost our baby at 12.5 weeks - the baby passsed away around 10 weeks. No cramping, bleeding, spotting, anything. So I've scheduled a D&E on Friday - I just cannot emotionally deal with this state of limbo.
I'm still nursing my 18 month old a few times a day and night, and we are planning to TTC again asap, as I'm turning the big 39 later this year (yikes).

As for charting/temping - would it be totally futile this month? I'm not sure how soon temps regulate after losing a baby, so how quickly hcg leaves the bloodstream. I am finding comfort in nursing my toddler, and am so glad we still have that relationship.

Good luck to everyone this month! I guess this month would be halloween babies? My first son was born in October and it is the BEST month in New england...

[JessieBird]

Finnegansmom, I am so very sorry to hear your news. This must be a devastating time for you and your family. I hope that Friday goes as well as can be expected and that you continue to draw strength from the bond you have with your 18 mo. Nursing does wonderful things for our spirit and sense of purpose.

As for temping again, though I would guess that it will take a little while for your body to regulate again, it may help you to focus on the future.

You are in my thoughts.

[SoCaliMommy]

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arianascrunchymama~ thanks for the . I'm trying real hard to keep positive since we are inching closer to the 3yr mark ttc#3.

finnegansmom~ I'd start charting again right away if you can/want to. my missed m/c before getting pregnant with my son,was horrible i had a mean midwife tell me at a u/s at 10wks that i was only 6wks4days because that was what the baby measured, 1 wk later i started bleeding and ended up in the ER, that u/s my uterus that measured 11wks right on with what i should have measured but the baby measuring 8wks4days with a deformed yolk sack. I ended up passing the baby at what would had been 13wks4days. I'd push for genetic testing since i'd want answers. with my m/c i took what i passed in and they did basic testing saying everything was passed intact and the testing showed nothing abnormal
This chart is one i started when i started bleeding and it was the cycle we had to wait out. the following cycle, cycle 16 we got pregnant with our son.
missed m/c cycle

[xtara2003x]

finnegansmom~ I am so terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I am glad you are able to find comfort in your nursing relationship with your 18 month old. It's amazing how children can really aid in the grieving process. Take care!

JessieBird~ Any early symptoms that you noticed this time of getting pregnant? I am asking because I am 4DPO right now, and yesterday and today I've been having this tightening/crampy feeling going on! It just feels fuller than normal and I get twinges here and there. Wondering if you experienced this at all?

[rcr]

Originally Posted by SoCaliMommy

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Tara2~ 35 is young,plus the older you get the higher your chance of conceiving twins goes up.

AH YAY! I always keep this in the back of my mind. DH are at a stand-still about how many more LOs to have - I want two more, he wants one more. If I had twins, I would win!

[rcr]

Finnegansmom, I am so sorry about your loss

[KingsDaughter76]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom

Move me to waiting to O

Hi Mamas. I'm sorry to say I'll be joining you again. We just found out we lost our baby at 12.5 weeks - the baby passsed away around 10 weeks. No cramping, bleeding, spotting, anything. So I've scheduled a D&E on Friday - I just cannot emotionally deal with this state of limbo.
I'm still nursing my 18 month old a few times a day and night, and we are planning to TTC again asap, as I'm turning the big 39 later this year (yikes).

As for charting/temping - would it be totally futile this month? I'm not sure how soon temps regulate after losing a baby, so how quickly hcg leaves the bloodstream. I am finding comfort in nursing my toddler, and am so glad we still have that relationship.

Good luck to everyone this month! I guess this month would be halloween babies? My first son was born in October and it is the BEST month in New england...

SOOOOO sorry about your loss.... *HUGS*!!!!!

[zwitterion]

finnegansmom - I am so terribly sorry.

[peaches' mom]

finnegansmom - just wanted to say you're in my thoughts, i'm so sorry for your loss.

[finnegansmom]

Thanks for your kind words, ladies.

At least temping and charting even this first month will take my mind off of just wallowing in self pity. I think I'm going to start taking some b6 and EPO now since i've gotten used to taking prenatals again and see what the next month brings.

[littlebearsmama]

Hi, I'm new here.

My husband and I have been TTC since AF came back in September. We have a strong nurser who is 17 months and I hope to continue our breastfeeding relationship for as long as he is wanting. Right now, I'm on the 2WW, after having slacked a bit on my conception efforts this cycle. I'm amazed that it has taken us so long to conceive, but I know that there is not only science, but a little magik involved with making a baby. I feel the baby spirit around my family, so I figure that he/she is just waiting for the perfect time and the perfect birthday. I won't be too disappointed if we missed our window of opportunity this month, as I'm not sure that a Scorpio would be a good fit for our family. I think that a Sag/Cap born on the Solstice would be ideal, but whatever the universe blesses us with, we will welcome wholeheartedly. Lots of luck to us all!

[SoCaliMommy]

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Welcome littlebearsmama

[babymango]

Finnegansmom: Im really really sorry to hear about your mc...

I feel bad complaining now after reading this... My situation definately isn't as heartbreaking. Im just really frustrated.

Im not quite sure where we stand in terms of TTCing... I know where my cycle is (AF is still here, so it's pretty obvious LOL) but im not sure whether or not we're going to be trying this cycle. DH was on board afterall, even with his crazy busy schedule. There is going to be a "lull" in his schedule in late fall/early winter, so TTCing now, for a november baby would make sense. BUT, the more I read about pregnancy and nursing, the more nervous i am about being pregnant while still nursing my 6 month old. Im afraid my milk will dry up really early. I've read stories on this board of milk drying up by 6-8 weeks, which would make DS only 9ish months. That's early!
BUT, we have such a narrow window of time where TTCing is reasonnable from every other aspect (DH being around when the baby would be born, money, work, life, international move coming up...), Im worried it's silly to "waste" a cycle. If my cycles stay the same, the following O would be at the end of my friends' week long visit. They're going to be staying with us, sleeping in the next room with a paperthin wall... Its hard enough to DTD with DS around, add two other adults and their two kids to the mix, it's going to be impossible!. It took us 6 months the first time around, im scared of not being able to get pregnant in that tiny window of opportunity. If it doesnt work, we'd have to wait 3 years before trying again, I would be devastated! I would REALLY regret not trying in february.
Im pumping like mad, trying to build up a large stash in the freezer, but i would never be able to get enough to get me to a year old if i have no more milk after a few weeks. Oh how I wish I could know when my supply would drop...

I told DH two days ago that we should wait a cycle. Now im really regretting it. I want to tell him we should try this month. Then I chicken out because I don't want to risk drying up in the first few weeks. So I want to wait. But then I don't. UGH!

I know you guys can't answer this dilemma for me... Im not sure what the point of this post is. Venting? Trying to put words on my feelings? Needing a fresh set of eyes to look at this? anyway... DS is awake, gotta go

[SoCaliMommy]

babymango~ You could try mothers milk tea to help with supply when you get pregnant if your worried about trying up that might help.