Originally Posted by Smithie
In this circumstance, I think that regaining physical custody ASAP is probably the right tactic. I'm not a lawyer and obviously I don't know all the details, but by allowing the custodial interference to continue, are you not tacitly legitimizing it? As you say, a MAN who pulled this kind of stunt would be in jail.
Maybe in the beginning this might have worked, but I'm not so sure now that it's been over a year? and they have been to court in the meantime and the judge obviously didn't send DSD back (I believe because they didn't have custody in their separation agreement), so they could be getting themselves in legal hot water now by just taking her again? Then again, I am also not a lawyer, but if OP has spoken to lawyers recently, i.e. since they've been to court, that have said dad can just go take his daughter back, I sure as heck would consider it. Because yes, the longer she is with her mom, the less likely dad will get custody back.