No one but the owner of the penis should ever retract the foreskin be it a tiny bit or not. See the thread in resources The Definition of Retraction & Why it is BAD http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=575627
The reason is micro tears by the time you realize that you have done it it is to late to stop.
If you do this and your ds says ouch that hurts the damage is already done and you cannot take it back. Even if he dosnt say ouch you still are risking introducing bacteria under the foreskin or encouraging retraction before the foreskin is ready to retract. The foreskin was made the way it is, attached for a reason to keep stuff out.
Infection is not caused by none retracting foreskin it is caused by bacteria that gets in there.
RunnerDuck I respectfully disagree with you and strongly urge you to reconsider messing with your ds's penis. It is very important that we get the proper care out there to people ie leave it alone and only swish in the bath so that we dont end up with people having issues with redness and infection.
Once the boy is old enough to understand you can tell him what to do and if he wants to he can do it. If he isnt old enough to understand the words then he isnt old enough to try and push the skin back obviously.
Please do read the 2 links that I attached in the message so you will know what is proper and what it not.
No it isnt made of glass but you can cause damage without knowing it then you have to deal with a sore penis along with possible unnatural adhesions caused by the tears. There is no need to clean under there till puberty when the hormones kick in. Before that teaching the boy to do it is just practice for later.
I have NEVER messed with my ds's penis when he is in the bath he plays with it but dosnt retract he dosnt have issues with infection or smell and never has. I know for a fact he is about 1/2 retractable because I have seen him do it but I would never dream of messing with his penis.So for any lurkers out there leave it alone and make sure Dr's do as well
and odds are you wont ever see a problem.
Something else to keep in mind many times it isnt infection but the natural retraction process happening see this thread for information on what you might see during that time to make you think it is infection http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=764732
What many think is pus is only trapped smegma that is allowed to come out during the seperation process. 99% of the issues are normal with the intact penis it is very rare to see true problems and even then it is usually yeast and easily treated with yeast meds either OTC or prescription. Just like with us girls.
Balantitis is a catch all phrase for when a Dr. dosnt understand what is going on and dosnt do a culture to check.
Sorry to go on a big loooong tangent
but this issue is very much a trigger for me because I have seen and read about the damage that has been done by just gentle retraction. And it isnt worth the risk period. The reason circ became common place was because people kept saying how dirty it was and by saying that not retracting causes problems we are buying into the whole foreskin is dirty thing without going to extra lengths to keep it clean. It dosnt help the people working hard to make intact the norm again and makes many parents think well if I have to do that then might as well cut it off because I am not comfy messing with my childs genitals that much. When it just isnt true.
OP retraction is retraction some is done more forcefully than others but it all = the same thing if it isnt the owner of the penis doing it then it shouldnt be done period.