"Mediation failed" - Page 2

[Goodmom2008]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma

Had we continued with mediation, I would have offered to only take a small portion of the CS he would owe me if I were to obtain primary physical custody (the max amount would be 220$ a month), because I know that with him, money comes with strings. I'd rather not have to go after him for money at all because it'll mean even more trouble.

If Canada garnishes for child support, you don't have to go after him for it. The court will.

And the only strings that he can put on the money are the ones that you let him. There are no strings attached to court ordered child support.

[Goodmom2008]

Originally Posted by Halfasianmomma

Thank you for that sobering reminder NolaRiordan. I am definitely afraid of things turning sour in court because I know how "pro-shared custody" the tribunals of Quebec are. It honestly depends on which judge you get and what kind of day he or she is having (so says the family court judge I spoke to a number of times).

Just for fun today, STBX called and left me an angry voicemail that he received the mediation report and *gasp* it's ONLY in French! In the province of Québec, how dare they?! He threatened to rip it up unless I called him to tell him what it was about.

Fun times...

I would save all communication from him. It may help you in court.

[soso-lynn]

Originally Posted by Goodmom2008

If Canada garnishes for child support, you don't have to go after him for it. The court will.

And the only strings that he can put on the money are the ones that you let him. There are no strings attached to court ordered child support.

Yep. When there is a court order in place, he has to pay the government who then pays you. That way, people whose budget depends on child support payments get them regardless of the ex's drama and don't have to go back to court everytime he does not pay.

I'm really sorry things are so awful with him. He clearly has some serious issues. I know it sounds horrible, but I would actually get some hope from the fact that he has abandonned his children in the past and is likely to do it again as soon as it gets too hard. It sounds a lot like he is willing to be all loud and obnoxious with you but is actually scared of following through with a visitation agreement. That's probably why he did not show up for mediation. He is scared of actually committing to something. People who diasgree with a proposal usually show up to, you know, mediate.