Help!
My DS is 2 (just turned) and really sweet and gentle, he does not push, hit, scratch, etc even when he is hurt by another child. My problem is that I care for one of my best friends DD who is 3 (just turned) For the most part she is loving to DS, she holds his hand when we are walking somewhere, helps take off his coat, gives him thinks to borrow, etc. She can be bossy with him, tells him what to do and where to go (he either does it if he feels like it or ignores her if he doesn't) She always wants the first try with everything and is very monopolizing of my time and attention. DS is really easy going and usually allows S to go first without putting up a fight (he does sometimes, just screams and cries and comes to me) and he is pretty happy to do his own thing or do what S is doing. DS really loves S, he asks to see her every day, cries when we drop her off at home, etc.
Now the main problem is that S will sometimes out of the blue go over and scratch DS on the face
or push him. Twice now she has drawn blood 
and both times DS was totally doing his own thing. However the first time I was tying DS' shoe and then today I was hugging S' mom (she had a bad day) I feel so sad for my DS because he loves S so much and he is not antagonizing her he is just getting attacked out of the blue.
My theory is that she is mad (although she says she is not) because her mom went back to work, she has had her mom and access to nursing for 3 years and now she only gets to spend about 2 hours awake with her and half the night co-sleeping. She nurses as soon as her mom walks in the door. Anyway I really don'y know how to stop this from happening to my DS
. It makes me really sad even though I know it is a normal stage and really mad at the moment it happens (Mama bear). What can I do to stop the behaviour in a GD UP kind of way? Both me and my friend have very similar parenting philosophies.
My DS is 2 (just turned) and really sweet and gentle, he does not push, hit, scratch, etc even when he is hurt by another child. My problem is that I care for one of my best friends DD who is 3 (just turned) For the most part she is loving to DS, she holds his hand when we are walking somewhere, helps take off his coat, gives him thinks to borrow, etc. She can be bossy with him, tells him what to do and where to go (he either does it if he feels like it or ignores her if he doesn't) She always wants the first try with everything and is very monopolizing of my time and attention. DS is really easy going and usually allows S to go first without putting up a fight (he does sometimes, just screams and cries and comes to me) and he is pretty happy to do his own thing or do what S is doing. DS really loves S, he asks to see her every day, cries when we drop her off at home, etc.
Now the main problem is that S will sometimes out of the blue go over and scratch DS on the face
or push him. Twice now she has drawn blood and both times DS was totally doing his own thing. However the first time I was tying DS' shoe and then today I was hugging S' mom (she had a bad day) I feel so sad for my DS because he loves S so much and he is not antagonizing her he is just getting attacked out of the blue.My theory is that she is mad (although she says she is not) because her mom went back to work, she has had her mom and access to nursing for 3 years and now she only gets to spend about 2 hours awake with her and half the night co-sleeping. She nurses as soon as her mom walks in the door. Anyway I really don'y know how to stop this from happening to my DS
. It makes me really sad even though I know it is a normal stage and really mad at the moment it happens (Mama bear). What can I do to stop the behaviour in a GD UP kind of way? Both me and my friend have very similar parenting philosophies.
