Originally Posted by naupakamama
When I told my midwife (she had just arrived and hadn't checked me at all) she said in a loud voice, "well push woman, push"
Another thing I loved about homebirth was the elimination of the nurses telling you when, how and how long to push.
"Wait, wait, you're not quite to 10 cm!"
"Okay, push into your bottom, like you're having a bowel movement!" (oh to equivocate having a child to taking a sh@t)
"Now, push when I count... 1... 2... 3... [all the way to ten].. now, deep breath and let's go again, 1.. 2.. 3..[repeat three times]... alright, now rest a moment. [Even if you feel like still pushing, at this time the nurse is not only pushing your legs back to the vicinity of your ears, she is staring intently at the monitor because, of course, the machine dictates your body's needs
And my favorite, when I was in labor with my first, the doctor said, "Now darlin, I need you to not
push, no matter what. Don't care what you feel like, since you shouldn't feel anything, but I have to go on a smoke break. So you just hang tight, and I will be back in about ten."
(The nurse, with a totally disgusted look on her face, delivered my daughter. I'd already had a completely enormous and unnecessary episiotomy, and my baby was all but falling out of me. She pulled up a stool when he walked out and sat down, then said, "Honey, this ain't gonna work. You push now, only one should do it, and we gonna get this little one born." Seriously, even WITH an epidural, you try NOT
pushing when all the muscles in your uterus are saying go-for-it.)
With my last homebirth, the pain was BAD and the only thing that made it feel better was pushing. That is a totally instinctive feeling. You bear down and it is worlds better. The MW said I was only 5 cm, but oddly enough the babe was born 17 minutes later, so apparently my body knew exactly what it was doing.