Okay Well I think we have decided. We are getting an Ultrasound this Monday to verify how far along I am. I agree with Meg that it's better to know that you aren't too premature or overdue, and also, my kids have both come exactly a week before their due date that will help with scheduling, making sure the midwife is in town, or prepared if one of her other moms is in labor too....(She will have at least a 45 minute drive here)
We asked her about the 20 week anatomy scan. She said, yes scary things do and can happen. But Basically it's going to be a nightmare to try and get a doctor who will take me JUST FOR THAT. (This was our conclusion not hers. She encouraged us to do what made us comfortable and reassured.) They will want to have other appointments they will want to do with me, History and all that. That's how doctors all. They can't just simplify but must cover all the bases. I have crappy insurance and to pay out of pocket will be something like $700!!!!
So while it is scary to think the baby may have some sort of defect or anomaly, i think we will decide on the side of the statistics and hope and pray that this will be a happy healthy perfect beautiful surprise baby. I know that sounds ridiculous. But we don't have genetic risk factors, and our previous children have been perfect. What will be will be. Nicely put. And Yes, I know, it is a Big chance and Risk, but I trust my intuition and God won't give us more than we can handle and he has not let us down yet and really is answering our prayers so I am confident.