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Hello everyone , I tried looking if there was one made, but I couldnt find any. How are you mamas? I havent been on here much. Sophia has been way more needy than ever, she mostly wants to nap/sleep while nursing and if Im not there she'll wake up anywhere from every 15 min to every hour. It's been getting better these past two days.

She's been eating really well, the girl LOVES food. I cant say there's something that I've given her that she doesnt like and she has finally started drinking water from her sippy cup. I think part of it is my fault, because I almost never offer it, but now she always wants it. She stands on her own for a little bit and walks around the table grabbing on to it. Last night was hilarious, she was sleeping and put herself horizontally with her feet kicked up on DP's back haha, I wanted to take a picture but was scared of waking them.

Her new thing is to wave on her way to get things she's not supposed to, like dvds, wires, books. She'll turn, smile, wave and go on her merry way like saying "it's ok, there's nothing to see here, go back to what you were doing". Her wave is so cute too, it's like she's cleaning a window haha

She fell from the bed today and I felt really sad. She usually cries the second she opens her eyes and Im not there, but this time she didnt. I was downstairs cleaning the bathroom and just heard a bump, silence and then the loud scream. I felt so bad, I have a "safety net" made of blankets around the bed, but I think she was mostly scared, calmed down as soon as I picked her up.

Dss has started being really mean to her. Like when we're having breakfast he says things like "Put Sophia on the floor I dont want to look at her". I've been kinda ignoring it at first, then asking him why he says that and how he would feel if I said that to him or also saying but "Sophia LOVES you and she thinks you're the coolest person in the whole world and she only wants to look at you". Then on Sunday when he was ready to come home, he came to the kitchen just to tell me that he was going home "so he'd never have to see Sophia's face again". I said that made me sad and he said "ugh! Im kidding!"..

Oh and I might start working sooner than I thought. DP's mom asked me if I'd worked there, someone is about to quit/get fired and DP said to her when she first asked "Over my dead body Ill expose her to the insanity that is this place" haha and I agree, but then again. We REALLY need the money, we dont have a (working) car and I can walk there, is literally 5 minutes from here. So on the meantime that's what we'll have to do. The only thing is that the only daycare that is in walking distance is an evangelical Lutheran one, so I dont know. Im gonna call tomorrow and see if I can check it out. The people from the church always come here and bring me reading material and they're actually very nice. I have nothing against religion, is just that I dont subscribe to any and I do believe in God or like DP and I like to call it, "the thing". We both have a very unique shared view on reality and spirituality, but is really not a negative thing. I guess once I go there and see how they are and what they do I'll have a more clear idea if it's the right place. The bad thing is that I dont know if Sophia is ready to go to a daycare. She still falls asleep in my arms and then I nurse her when I transfer her to the bed. She's very high needs, mommy, mommy, mommy, but the times she has been with DP she has been fine , even napped for short times. I think Im also not ready for it and I dont know how to slowly transition.

What are everyone's plans for Valentine's day? I think I want to go out to dinner with DP and Sophia, Dss too if he's gonna be here. Make it more of a family thing. We've actually never done anything on V-day before, so it'd be nice to celebrate somehow.

And does anyone feels like your babies are almost not babies anymore? I got super sad the other day because I was watching Sophia play with dss toy. She was playing with a toy drum and a piano and she looked like this little girl all independent, she's also gotten a "I wanna do it by myself" attitude. You cannot hand her food, she needs to grab it, she used to let me brush her teeth, now she "does" it herself and she's also become kinda mischievous.

Sorry for the long rant, havent been here in a million. Love for everyone. I've missed you mamas.
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Yay, thanks for starting this thread! I miss all you mamas, too.

I hear you on feeling like your baby almost isn't a baby anymore. Jules has started cruising everywhere at top speed, can pull himself up to standing, and LOVES Cheerios. It makes me sad that he wants to start solid foods (we've tried bananas and avocados too), because I love the simplicity of exclusive breastfeeding. It's not like he is getting a full meal from solids, or much nutrition outside of nursing, but I still know it's the beginning of the end even if he continues nursing until he's several years old. I'm actually hoping the novelty of eating solid foods will wear off for a few more months. I joke with my DH that I would be the one to get a baby who wants to eat "real" food as soon and as quickly as he can--me, the one who is willing and eager to offer extended breastfeeding!

Jules is a real handful now that he can crawl so well, and he keeps me busy all day! Ironically enough, I've been wearing him in a woven wrap more often these days because he is so mobile that if I don't, he gets into trouble (pulling lights over, chewing on electrical cords, chasing the cats, trying to eat cat food off of the floor...). He's very snuggly and loves being near me, and I'm cherishing these days of his infancy.

His weight gain has really plateaued lately--we weighed him at my in-laws' and he really hasn't gained any weight since his last well-baby visit at 6 months! I'm not worried, because he is obviously healthy. He's very muscular, he's lean but not skinny, and all his energy is going into teething and exploration. He is alert, and he is definitely actively engaged in his surroundings and in learning to communicate.

I'm not going back to work formally anytime soon, but I'll be doing some work for my parents with Jules along in the coming months. I've been putting more and more thought into pursuing midwifery, and I'm hoping to do some more exploration of that path. I know while my babies are young I want to be there for them, but there is book learning I can start in a more formal sense now. I just want to be as sure as I can that this is my calling; it's a big responsibility, but I keep coming back to it. I wish I had a magic ball that could give me the answer to all my questions.

I hope all your babies are doing well! I miss the days of our DDC, I must say. I'm not ready for the next baby quite yet, but I find myself looking forward to the time when DH and I will start trying for a sibling for Julian. I love being a mama.
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Hi Mommas! This has been a challenging month for us. Dd is not sleeping well. I am soooo sleep deprived, exhaustion does not even begin to cover it. I am at my wits end. Dh has lost patience with her sleep problems and so nighttime care is my realm. Doesn't seam so fair as he is the SAHD and I work . Hopefully she will sleep now, but I will probably be back later tonight
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Another May mom whose baby's weight has plateau-ed since the last 1.5 months

She also seems to be gearing towards reverse cycling - either that or her daytime feeds have become way less and she has no intention of making up for it , during nighttime (waiting to find out. Last 3 nights were new for us.) She is taking a few solids but somehow the amount+ calories + volume just don't seem to add up. She seems to be OK with that. I am not!


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Hey Mamas!
I completely lost track of the last thread so I will try really hard this time to actually keep up with it!

It is my birthday today! I feel so old at 24 (not really). DH got me a babyhawk for my b-day and we are going to the new england aquarium Saturday with Della. I think she will love it.
She will be 8 months on monday and has been hands and knees crawling now since about 6.5 months. She is also pulling up onto everything and starting to cruise. It is scary how quickly she can crawl all over the house now!

We aren't going to the ped again until she is over a year-old I decided so we weigh her at home on our Wii Fit which is awesome because it tracks her weight for us and she is right around 20lbs. We are currently shopping around for a new car seat

If anyone doesn't know you can bring in your old baby gear (car seat, stroller, play pen) and trade it in for a 25% off coupon for certain other baby gear items in the store up until feb 20th. We are doing that with her carseat so we can get a convertible one. It is a great deal as I imagine I am not the only one who is looking into new car seats at the moment.

I have a question for any mamas who do play dates or groups with their LOs yet? I am getting bored and lonely and I know Della is getting bored from being home all day this long winter and I was think I would join a play group but don't know if she is too young to actually enjoy that sort of thing. She is very physically able to play and move around with older babies but she is still only about 8 months old. No matter how strong she is I keep reminding myself and friends and family that she is younger than she seems.

Also does anyone else's baby refuse to feed themselves? Della will eat whatever I pop into her open and waiting mouth (she looks like a baby bird swinging her head around with her mouth open) but she WILL NOT eat bits of food on her own. I will put little pieces of whatever, say turkey, in front of her and she will just poke it with one chubby little finger but as soon as I pick it up she is in baby bird position begging for me to feed her. She really loves food of all kinds so this drives me crazy! I thought babies were supposed to want to feed themselves! She won't even do it with a spoon. I know it's not a problem but it is amusing to me...

I can't wait to hear how everyone else is doing. I have to run now, I am shocked Della played on the floor long enough to let me get this done, she is in super cling-on phase these days. DH tried to let me sleep in for my birthday and all she did was bang in the closed door to the bedroom and cry until I came out Gotta love them.
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Happy Bday Ldavis! Ill be 24 too next month. Do you have any plans for your bday?

I know what you mean about wearing your DD more, I've been doing the same too, also putting her on her crib, playard more. There are times that I just need her to stay put while I do something. I've discovered that she will cry if she sees me leave the room, but after 5 seconds she forgot about me and you'll hear her laughing and playing with her toys. So I've been leaving her on her own to entertain herself for short periods of time, but she'll cry the second she sees me come back too it's like she just remembered that I left her there haha

DD is the opposite with food. She doesnt want you to even hand it to her, you have to put it on her tray or the table and she needs to grab it by herself.

Oh and I finally got her to sleep earlier! She's been falling asleep at 8:30-9pm, which is a great improvement from 11-12. Now we wake with DP when he goes to work, is a much better schedule for her. It's a very new thing for her, but she seems in a much better mood overall.
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Yay Auraji, I had no idea we had so many young mamas here. I don't know about you but I get looks all the time because I can still pass for 19 or 20. People see me with a baby and sometimes I get the stink eye. It cracks me up more than it makes me angry.I would be crying if Della stayed up until 11 or midnight even once. She thankfully is asleep around 8 or 9 at the very latest although it varies depending on whats going on for the evening. She will stay up all night if we have people over!

No big plan for birthday day today. This weekend though we are going to the aquarium which is a tradition with DH and I for my birthday (I love all things fish/marine life) and now Della can join us!
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Whew, so much going on lately. Everything still going fine with the pregnancy but having a 9-month-old at the same time is kind of tiring.

She is into EVERYTHING. I ended up not putting guards on two of the cabinets and just filling them with pot-lids and tupperware, so that she could have something to pull out and scatter everywhere while I'm cooking. Everything else is pretty much baby-proofed, so we ended up not doing baby gates (we have no stairs). She likes being able to roam everywhere. She's a very fast crawler, and when there are groups of furniture (like desk/TV stand/coffee table/couch, or high-chair/rocker/ottoman/baby-walker), she'll cruise around on two feet, holding on with one or two hands, going from one piece of furniture to the other. She let go with both hands once the other day, balanced for a second and looked thrilled, and then fell flat on her face and started howling. Luckily we have carpet and she never falls hard, but it still is sad So she's not walking yet, but I think it will definitely be happening before she's a year old.


She's gotten way into food, both purees and finger-food, we do a mix (usually 2-3 puree meals, and 3-4 fingerfood snacks throughout the day and for breakfast). She tends to eat fingerfood in the walker because the tray on the high-chair is set too high: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDNjOG_dRlA That's her eating cheerios one morning.

She still only has one word, "cat", but she babbles non-stop and has a huge repetoire of weird sounds. Recently it's growling while sticking her chest out, especially during diaper changes (which she does NOT enjoy), not to mention shouting "AAAAH! AH-AAAH!" if she is going after a toy she likes.

She's a little gigglebox and a big grinner.

Pics:
Smilin Em: http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../020310005.jpg
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../020310006.jpg

"Cat"
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../020310009.jpg

Wants up on daddy's lap
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../020310018.jpg

"Walking"
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../020310024.jpg
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Can I chat, too? My DD was due in April, so I mostly hung out in that DDC, but she was late and born in May.

Happy birthday everyone!

Does any one's lo do this? Genevieve will fall asleep and I'll tranfer her about 7:30 pm or 8 and then she'll wake up every hour or so till 10 or 11 and then she'll settle in for the next 6 hours or so. I'm happy for the 6 hours or so, but I don't know how to get her to settle down at the beginning of the night. She's always been very active, but she's so tired. I wonder if she has a hard time actually winding down. We have a nice routine including solids, bath and nursing to sleep. But, things are still a little hectic with a 2 yo brother. It doesn't really quiet down until I take her in her room to nurse. Any ideas?
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Miss you Ladies!

AJ is just over 8 months now. Not quite crawling..he kind of "swims". It gets him where he wants to go though!

He's got such a personality. He's got a fun sense of humor, and loves to laugh. His favorite game is to go over to DP and grab his toes. If DP is in the recliner with his feet up, I'll hold AJ up so he can get his toes and he just cracks up laughing. It's so funny.

He sleeps so well, I almost hate to say it for fear I'll jinx it. He's down for bed between 8:30 or 9 and sleeps soundly until about 7am. I feel so lucky!

He's not too much into food yet. He loves peaches, and that's really the only thing I can get him to eat without him freaking out. He likes mashed potatoes from this amish restaurant nearby..But won't eat them if I make them. lol
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Does any one's lo do this? Genevieve will fall asleep and I'll tranfer her about 7:30 pm or 8 and then she'll wake up every hour or so till 10 or 11 and then she'll settle in for the next 6 hours or so. I'm happy for the 6 hours or so, but I don't know how to get her to settle down at the beginning of the night. She's always been very active, but she's so tired. I wonder if she has a hard time actually winding down. We have a nice routine including solids, bath and nursing to sleep. But, things are still a little hectic with a 2 yo brother. It doesn't really quiet down until I take her in her room to nurse. Any ideas?
Mine never goes to sleep early in the evening, I've given up trying. She'll take a 30-45 min nap in the evening around 7. Then she's up until I go get in the bed with her, between 9:30-10:00. At that point, she's down for a good 10 hours, until at least 7:30 am. Sometimes I get up after she goes down at that point, sometimes I fall asleep, too. But after that bedtime, if I do get up and do other things, and she wakes up (which is rare), if I go lay down I can quickly nurse her back to sleep, like within 15 minutes.
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Wow, I feel like an old lady compared with all you young hot mamas on this thread!! I'm gearing up for my 30th birthday in a few weeks. Phew, where did that decade go?!?!?! At 25 I was absolutely convinced that all the good men were taken, I'd never meet someone I could share my life with, and that I'd never have children before I was thirty. I guess I got in just under the wire!!

I'm totally loving the 8-9 month activity spurt! Olive is so independent now that she's such a strong crawler. As long as I'm nearby, she'll play happily at my feet for most of the day - I just have to make sure I chase her when she heads for the non-babyproofed corners of the house. We have plenty! I keep meaning to babyproof, but honestly it just seems easier to chase her down. I'm sure I'll change my mind about that once I'm chasing more than one, but for the moment, it's easy enough to redirect her. Auraji, I laughed out loud when I read your description of Sophie's wave as she heads for danger zones - Olive does this little mischevious grin over her shoulder. It's hilarious!

We just started going to some library activities this month, and Olive seems to really enjoy being around other babies her age. Plus, it's been nice for me to get out and spend some time with other local moms; most of my friends who are at home with their kids during the day live too far away for me to visit on the bus. I'd say 8-9 months is definitely old enough for a playgroup, I'm hoping to start going to one next week. Olive loves being around people her size, and the slightly older babies show her how to do things that she didn't know she knew how to do. She really enjoys it!

We're on a bit of a sleep-deprivation jag here too; I think she's so active during the day that it's hard for her to settle at night. For the first time since she was born, she's waking up in the middle of the night and wanting to play - it's been torture, especially because DH is so overwhelmed at work right now that he can't sleep well anyway. He's been walking around like the walking dead, the poor guy. I've even offered to take DD and sleep in another room, so he can get some sleep and be fresh for work, but he just won't hear of it - he can't bear sleeping away from us.

And Kelly, I told DH that you were already expecting again, and he said, "okay, I guess it's time for us to start trying too!!" I suggested that maybe we could wait until I was sure I wouldn't have to wash diapers for two babies at once!!!!
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And Kelly, I told DH that you were already expecting again, and he said, "okay, I guess it's time for us to start trying too!!" I suggested that maybe we could wait until I was sure I wouldn't have to wash diapers for two babies at once!!!!
Ahahahaha! Tell him that actually I'm a complete freakin lunatic and ya'll should by no means follow my example, ROTFL!
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Does any one's lo do this? Genevieve will fall asleep and I'll tranfer her about 7:30 pm or 8 and then she'll wake up every hour or so till 10 or 11 and then she'll settle in for the next 6 hours or so. I'm happy for the 6 hours or so, but I don't know how to get her to settle down at the beginning of the night. She's always been very active, but she's so tired. I wonder if she has a hard time actually winding down. We have a nice routine including solids, bath and nursing to sleep. But, things are still a little hectic with a 2 yo brother. It doesn't really quiet down until I take her in her room to nurse. Any ideas?
Yes! Olive does this too. She started doing it less, though, when I cut back my caffeine intake during the day. I think she was getting a pretty heavy dose of caffeine in my milk (time-delayed from when I was drinking it in the afternoon) right at bedtime, and it made it hard for her to settle. I cut back to half-caff and I try to stop drinking coffee altogether after about 1 pm, and that seems to have helped a lot. I wonder if I went off caffeine altogether, if that would make even more of a difference. I'm just so very attached to my coffee, though, I'm not sure I can do it!!!
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Hey everyone! Thanks for starting the new thread!

I'm another young mama, my 24th birthday is in June. If you think having one kid and being young gets you looks, imagine two! Almost every time I drive through the gate and show my ID the guard asks "Are those your kids, you're too young to have kids!"

LDavis - Happy birthday! We did playgroups for a while but mine was too drama filled and crazy for my own tastes. I think playgroups at this age are more for mama's than kids, but you'll find children of all ages. Most of them don't even play together until after age 2 anyway.

Sleep - Sleep is still a nightmare. I finally broke down and posted in family bed and got some good advice. I really need to reign her in and get her into a better routine, I've gone along with it for too long and she really needs some guidance in the sleep department. She's not getting enough sleep which makes her wired, so we're following the principle that sleep begets relaxation begets sleep. Our night-time routine varies a lot based on how tired I am, but now my goal is to have a really consistent routine every night and make sure she's napping at the right times during the day. I also ended up bringing the twin bed in next to mine so she could have her own sleep space. We've already had improvements the last few days, she'll at least sleep from 7 until 11 or 12, and then give me 2 hour increments until 6:30-7:30 which is better than the 3am wake-up calls we were having.

She is a very good crawler now and trying very hard to pull up on things, depending on how low it is she's successful in hoisting herself up. She's not cruising yet which is fine by me. After having a baby who was miles ahead in everything I like the slower pace this time around. DH is set to come home in under 50 days I'm super excited but the adjustment is starting to dawn on me. DS has spent nearly a year with one parent and he's going to give DH a run for his money when he tries to discipline him. I think Laine will be okay because she loves everybody. Here are some newer pictures of my gal:

Playing in the box fort
Playing outside
Cheese
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I'm a coffee addict to (I count pots instead of cups) and I'm pretty sure it was contributing to our troubles. I've cut it out almost completely, it was a lot easier than I thought.
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Loving the pictures! And welcome Xerxella.

I think Sophia's weight has plateau too. I think it's normal, our babies are so much more active now and dont they gain weight at a slower rate after 6 months?

Kelly I'd probably be going crazy if I was you. I remember the first months of being pregnant all I wanted to do was SLEEP and not throw up. Im hoping things are going well for you, how far along are you?

I've become a coffee drinker, now that Im waking up earlier I need it. Im a morning zombie without it, but I have to watch out, one cup and a half wakes me, two make me anxious. I've too been working hard on this sleep routine and the nap schedule. I feel like she's not on schedule because of me, Im so bad with keeping up with things, but this is gonna change!

Hey mamas, have you ever had a friend of your DP/DH that you dont like? There's this girl that DP has been friends with since high school, they dated for a short time a long time ago and it's not thar, REALLY. The first time I met her, she just had her baby and I really liked her, she was like all happy and in that after glow of being a mom, but after that she has been just very strange. One day came over to pick up a book or something, she hadnt seen me in like a year, comes to the living room says hello to this friend of them that she hadnt seen in a long time and completely ignored me. I was like, ok, just followed her to the kitchen and said hello, how are you? Then the other times that she has come here with her DD, she's always SCREAMING at her and saying things like, "this one! you dont want to have to deal with this one! I'll see you when Sophia is older, you'll feel different about parenting" or things like "boys are so much easier than girls" right in front of her DD. I dont know why parents talk like that in front of their kids and she came over for a playdate with DSS and the whole time she was all stressed out and yelling over kids playing and DP was now on Facebook telling her that she's a good mom. Im kinda offended by this because he tells me Im a good mom haha, what is a good mom to him? lol
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Happy February everyone! I'm so glad winter is almost over- being stuck inside all the time is beginning to drive me insane.

On being a young mom- I was 24 when I had DD, and DH was 28, but we both easily passed for late teens. I remember getting those nasty looks... so annoying. Now I'm almost 30, and I think the last 4 years of sleep deprivation have taken their toll, as people seem to think I actually look my age now. No more dirty looks, but I kinda wish I still looked younger than my age!

I love this age. DS is getting into everything and crawling into the next room the moment I look away. He stands alone for a few seconds, and cruises all over the place. He cracked me up the other day because he was standing there holding both ends of a slinky toy, and clearly didn't realize that he was standing alone. He is interacting with his big sis more - they get these little non-verbal jokes going back and forth. Sometimes she gets jealous, but lately she's been pretty good with him.

DS fell off the bed the other day. I wore him in the Ergo to get him down for his nap, and he woke up and fell off the bed all tangled in the Ergo. He didn't get hurt, but it was scary for him and I felt awful about it.

Work- I've been working less than one shift per week lately, but things are getting scary financially w/ DH's work (including losing our health insurance ), so I've been picking up more shifts than usual (1-2 a week). Which is okay, except that the baby won't sleep or eat when I work night shift. DH only got 3 hrs of sleep last time I worked, and the baby got maybe 7 hrs. Luckily I'll be able to get some day shifts soon, which are much less disruptive to DS.

Sleep- Normally, DS will go to bed around 8:30- 9:30, sleep for about 3 hours for his initial stretch, then be up about every 2 hours the rest of the night. Usually he's still up 4-5 times total per night. I'm trying to follow some of the No-Cry Sleep Solution suggestions, like giving him a lovey at bedtime and letting daddy get him back to sleep sometimes, and starting out the night in his own crib some nights. I've also been unlatching him before he's totally asleep to try to reduce the nursing-sleeping association.

Food- He loves just about everything! He likes to share my oatmeal with me every morning. He loves bananas, apples, steamed veggies of any kind, chicken, rice- pretty much anything I'm eating, he likes. I'm so excited to have a non-picky eater in the house besides myself!

ETA: One more thing- has anyone had a really weird first PPAF? I thought it was starting a couple of weeks ago, but then it ended up just being 2 days of spotting, which kinda worries me. We're preventing at this point, but I know that nothing is foolproof. My first PPAF after DD was super heavy and horrible, so I was really surprised to just have it be so different
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