May Mamas Chat thread <3<3 - Page 14

[Auraji]

It was very easy for me to quit since like I said I wasnt a heavy smoker. I only smoked when around other people, when living alone a pack would last me week. When I moved in with DP I would smoke a few cigarettes a day with him when he came home from work. If we were drinking a lot, but usually just a few.

I've craved cigarettes at times, but I made it a point to not allow myself to have any, because then I'll think I can have one when I drink or when Im really stressed out and the cycle starts. I think my choice to breastfeed helped me stay away from them and after having Sophia I felt like I should be more health conscious for both of us.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by JacquelineR

Thanks for the story of your slip. I've been wanting a smoke lately and started having these thoughts. Knowing where that lead for you helps.

Yep... it never ends well, hahaha. Stay strong.

[OceansEve]

Sorry! I didn't mean to make anyone feel bad. I smoked in high school and I convinced DH to quit when we got engaged, he had a pack+ a day habit. We all have our vices, I used to have a 4 liter a day dr pepper habit which is probably just as unhealthy as smoking (probably what caused my seizure and heart palpatations in college). I'm still trying to give it up I've quit I don't know how many times.

[Kelly1101]

Random baby pictures

Breakfast-- egg and cheerios
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../022610010.jpg

Lunch-- peas and rice-cake
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../022610013.jpg

Dinner-- rice, broccoli, and broiled rockfish (so yum)
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h9.../022610008.jpg

[OceansEve]

love the pics, especially spitting out the brocolli!

[Punchy Kaby]

Hi ladies, its been a busy week. i can keep up reading but dont have much time to post.

My IL's are coming tomorrow and i used to enjoy their visits, but the visit right after DDs birth was difficult. they provided no help around the house and barely kept ds occupied. dh agreed that we would tell them only 1 hr tv while the kids r awake. last time fil had the tv on innapropriate adult shows(csi, crime dramas) all day long.

We are still having a tough time with dd's sleep situation. we moved her crib into our guest room where it is quiet and dark and one of us sleeps in the bed near her so we can comfort her when she wakes. dh tried co sleeping with her (we have tried many times) and she still cries and wakes up crawling into us/wall and banging her head into us. last week i had several nights where i got between 2-4 hrs of sleep and had to work the whole week. i was on the fence about having another baby, but this sleep deprivation has cinched the deal. I am way too old to do this again. Plus with work (i am a musician, dont want to quit playing/working) i want to be able to give a lot of attention to my 2 kids. i reme,ber feeling like i had to fight for my parent's attention growing up and i don't wat that for my kids.

I have been going through all the baby stuff to give away and it makes me sad to know that we are done with a stage in our lives. but i know that once it is all out of here it will free up space in our house and our minds for creativity and growth.

[lil_miss_understood]

Originally Posted by Punchy Kaby

I have been going through all the baby stuff to give away and it makes me sad to know that we are done with a stage in our lives. but i know that once it is all out of here it will free up space in our house and our minds for creativity and growth.

Yeah, I've been struggling with this too. DH says we're done. I guess we are. I sort of wanted one more, but on the other hand... I'm sort of ready to be done too. Just makes me sad that DS3 will be my last baby. I guess I should be happy he's my last baby because he is such a great baby and will leave me with wonderful memories of what babies were/are like (as opposed to DS1 who cried all.the.time.). I'll just have to wait 15 or 20 years for grandbabies to hold, I guess. (I promise to try not to be the kind of grandma that *only* sits around and holds the baby and actually be helpful to my DILs )

Treasure Mapping?

[OceansEve]

can someone explain the decluttering ##/2010.... I get the 2010 but what does the first # stand for exactly?

[lil_miss_understood]

Originally Posted by OceansEve

can someone explain the decluttering ##/2010.... I get the 2010 but what does the first # stand for exactly?

how many (pathetic in my case) items you've decluttered. We're aiming for 2010 in 2010.

[Punchy Kaby]

JR-you will pick up steam for getting rid of stuff. Sometimes it is an emotional hurdle to get past and then you will be able to tackle it.

DH and I have a date tonight! we are going to see seinfeld live. We sooo need some time alone. DD's sleeping woes have taken a toll on our relationshp. The ILs were supposed to get to town today and be our babysitters, but I got a text message at 3 pm saying they wouldn't be here until 10pm. FAIL. We had to scramble for a sitter. I told DH they need to get a hotel tonight. It is just plain rude to think you can walk into someone's house with small children that late. OUr house is very boomy and echoey and they are big people who make a lot of noise. They would disrupt the kids too much. Not to mention we won't be here at 10 pm, we'll be laughing our butts off at Seinfeld...

[kdtmom2be]

Yay for date night! I hope you had a good time.
DH and I are in serious need of a night out. We've been each other for about 4 days all month so far, he's been working 80hr weeks because the Olympics are in town. Bleh! One more day!

And I'll agree with Punchykaby, the decluttering thing gets easier as you go along. I am just today starting to see a very slight difference in the way my house looks. Not only am I decluttering, but as I go I am putting things in thier proper places and everything is starting to get so much more organized! And it's given me something to do while DH has been working He's away doing training for most of March so I hope to get a bunch more accomplished next month too!

Is there anyone else here with a babe that is not gaining and/or losing weight? DS was born in the 85th %ile and is down to the 12th or so on the WHO charts. My doc keeps harping on me about it and I'm just not really sure if I should be worried about it. In fact, I was sure that I wasn't until I weighed him on the Wii Fit today and he's lost a pound in the last month. He was sick twice, but he's been eating like a horse and still nurses 4-6 times a day and every 2 hours from 3am-9am, so about 8 times in total. He seems to be hitting his milestones a little slower than some here but definitely progressing (started pulling up and REALLY crawling this week), just not very verbal yet (but he's a boy, second child, etc). Anyone got any tips on foods to give him? I don't really want to just feed him FAT... he won't eat avocado, though he will eat it if I make avocado hummus, but not much. And I find it SO hard to tell how much he is actually eating some days. If I forget to crate the dog before meals he lives under DS's highchair and snatches up anything that hits the floor!

[Auraji]

I've been decluterring on my own, it's hard when you have a DP that insists on keeping random things, like the little bags where the basmati rice comes in, because they're nice lol and when DP's mom gives him everything that she's ready to throw away. So Im ALWAYS decluterring, organizing. I havent counted the things I've taken out, but I've donated a couple of trash bags full of things.

I hope too you had fun on your date night. I need one too, DP and I havent been out on our own since I was 8 months pregnant.

Foods, some things that are easy for DD to eat are crackers, tortillas, bagels, toast. I usually spread them with all kinds of things, guacamole, black bean homemade dip, hummus, pumpkin, sweet potato. I also give her cut up fruit and veggies, she really likes bananas,`bosc pears, blueberries, blackberries and mango. She loves spinach on anything!

Roasted veggies? Like roasted potatoes, sweet potatoes, peppers, asparagus, carrots. My dd loves them. I drizzle them with olive oil and add some spices, but no salt.

Rice cakes? Sophia doesnt like them, but I see babies always eating them.

Steamed broccoli and carrots are a favorite here too. Also tofu and coconut milk yogurt, and of course cheerios.

[Auraji]

Oh and homemade falafels!
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[Punchy Kaby]

Date night was a bust. DD got the flu :Puke on Friday, DH on Saturday, and DS today. I went with a friend to see Seinfeld and he was hilarious, DH would have loved him. We used to watch Seinfeld in college when we lived in NYC. Anyway, the rest of my weekend was spent cleaning up pukefest. I hope I don't get it to. I have been drinking tons of milk and water kefir so I hope my good guys are beating the bad ones.

[~Katie~]

Sorry everyone was sick and you missed date night, PK I hope they're feeling better soon and you stay healthy as well.

DD is in her own room now. I tried it out a few days ago and lo-and-behold I managed to get 7 hours of sleep with only 3 night wakings. I feel sad and guilty but ultimately the goal is not to co-sleep no matter what, it's not working for either of us and clearly she sleeps too lightly to get into a deep sleep when she's in the same room as me. We haven't actually slept in the same bed together for a while because she literally does not sleep. Normally she would wake up as soon as I'd go in my room for bed, but since being in her own room I can get a two hour block of sleep before she wakes after I go to bed. When I go in to her she actually seems to be getting into a deep sleep because she isn't WIDE awake and goes back to sleep easily. I already notice myself being in a better mood because I'm getting enough sleep. I am grieving this in a way because I had such a great co-sleeping relationship with DS, I keep wondering what I've done wrong to make her this way. I hate mommy guilt.

[lil_miss_understood]

[Kelly1101]

I need to stop co-sleeping. I'm not going to have her in the bed when the new baby comes (really because of simple logistics-- my husband is a violent sleeper, and Em got the violent sleeper gene too, apparently. So my husband can't sleep next to anyone but me, and Em can't sleep next to anyone but me, and I want to be able to nurse the new baby at night and get some sleep. Sorry, Em, you drew the short straw), so I want to start getting her in her own bed before the baby comes. If all goes very well, I want my husband to be able to put her to bed in her crib. Hopefully by the time I'm huge-- since I'm not kidding about violent sleeper, Em kicks me in the stomach and the legs all night long which won't really fly once her sibling gets bigger.

At this point I'm putting it off until I get a new glider chair to put next to her crib, so that I can nurse/rock her back down in the middle of the night when she wakes up. But the goal is to have it done by the time I'm 20 weeks, and I'm 11 weeks now.

[~Katie~]

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