DDCC from June (due June 1st)
I'm a 2nd time mama.
With DD i started at 98kg (which is overweight for me, though not quite obese i don't think, or maybe just into obese, i'm 5'11"). At 11weeks i was 95kg (due to the nausea? Maybe, i was NOT eating well at that point, anything which tasted ok got eaten because not much tasted good). At 34weeks i was...95kg. No, i'm not kidding. I gained NOTHING. At term i was 101kg, so i did gain at the end, BUT i was 95kg again 4 days post partum so i really think that 6kg was water/baby/placenta/amniotic fluid/etc. By 4 months PP (with a thyroid issue, though it was under, not over active) i was 75kg or so, thanks to many factors, mainly BFing and stress (i recommed the former and NOT the latter!).
THIS time i began at 88 or 89kg (i'd been 83kg for about 2 years, but 2 pregnancies and losses before i concieved this time and poor eating/lack of exercise in between had piled a bunch back on). I am 23 weeks right now and since about 18 weeks i've been 95kg. It just piled on to that level and then suddenly stopped. During the last 23 weeks i've had periods of eating really well and periods of eating terribly, and neither seems to make a whole lot of difference. It seems my body needed to be 95kg to be pregnant. Now the weight gain seems to have slowed, but i'm now settled (we've been buying and moving house) and i can eat well and exercise i have stopped weighing at all, in fact we ditched the scales at the old house!
I know it's really hard, especially when it's your first, but your body DOES know what it's doing. If you're hungry it's because your body and your baby need FOOD. So eat. Eat healthily by all means, but DO eat.
I personally am aiming to be 80kg by the time this baby is 12months old. I have no idea how hard or easy it will be this time, but i know it's possible! LOL. In the meantime i'm being honest with myself about my nutrition (not pretending chocolate has nutritional value!) and enjoying my food. You only get 9 months with each little one where you can nurture them like you are, so eat up mama's!