As far as describing our homeschooling - this was what our lawyer recommended. And he felt like that was plenty strong. I may as well say, as I am not quite so concerned about anonymity now, that neither of my DD's are legally old enough to need to be in school. My oldest could have started K this year. So that is plenty that I gave them and they were wanting to see who was doing what with them when (i.e. how much time they were spending with me.)
The judge did seem to think that but that was before hearing any testimony. We are leaning toward fighting and there is not anything that I am leaving out BUT CPS has two professionals - one a forensic psychiatrist and one a forensic pediatrician who wrote huge reports about how crazy I am. The first one from the psych lady goes over every. single. traumatic. event in my life. It comes to the conclusion very authoritatively, I might add, that I have like five different severe anxiety disorders. Now she clears me of Munchausen's but makes a lot of other connections that if I were reading about someone else, I would be like - yeah, this woman is nuts.
A sample from the 25 page report "It cannot be underscored enough that the clustering of the above types of anxiety disorders necessarily implies a high degree of severity and therefore, a complicated prognosis (which is estimated to be guarded)."
The other report is equally daunting. For instance, it comes down hard on me for changing some of DD's meds without a doctors close supervision (we're not talking dangerous meds to fiddle with here - we're talking prevacid and zyrtec). Well, we make independent decisions about medication and are not ignorant people and I think that is our right. But no. The fact that we took her off those two meds one time each shows that I am not caring for DD medically very well at all. Oh and the biggie is that I lied to hospital docs about her immunization status after getting yelled at (literally) by a resident about the MMR vaccine. So I started saying she had had it. No big, I thought, she's not here for anything like that and I won't get yelled at. Everyone wins. I would do it differently if I had to do it again, but the forensic pediatrician makes it look like I'm crazy and out of touch with reality.
These two respected people have built a strong case out of things like that. Having to listen to it all and having to take every little thing and explain it is emotionally hard. As I said, a big part of where they are missing us, I think, is that we are just so different than most families. Who knows?
Either way, fighting it will be difficult when I am already feeling battered by all this. That's what we are leaning toward but all of that is why it isn't so simple. It's because it's not simple. As DH and I have said, we are guilty of some things. I did worry too much. She did get unnecessary ER visits (and Xrays) and maybe hospital admissions because of it. My fear made the reality seem scarier than it was, and it was life threateningly scary on occasion which just made the other times when it wasn't more scary. Those are real things that I did and that I dealt with in therapy before this even came up. But we are not accused of that. I am accused of neglect and abuse and pediatric condition falsification (I found out yesterday that that is what they are going with). Those things I am not guilty of. So it is hard to fight, in a way, when there was a kernel of truth to begin with and they have just blown it way up. For instance, homeschooling. No one has any concerns about my parenting overall as they have looked at the last years, only my handling of medical situations. So why have they gone there? It just doesn't make sense.
So that is a more exhaustive post about why fighting it will be hard. I have not left anything out, but I have perhaps simplified the case of the two professionals that CPS has hired to testify against me. So there you go.
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Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy
 Also, I vote for option 2 -- don't roll over and let them interfere like this!! CPS is being ridiculous, & remember even the JUDGE thought so, is that the same judge you'll have next week? Even if it isn't, if there is any justice in this world, I think ANYONE involved (besides CPS!) will find this whole thing totally unjustified. Why admit any 'guilt' if you've done nothing wrong? Why let them into your life long-term just to appease them? This makes absolutely no sense to me (unless there's something else you're not telling us) and I would NOT under any circumstances just 'roll over'.
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A sample from the 25 page report "It cannot be underscored enough that the clustering of the above types of anxiety disorders necessarily implies a high degree of severity and therefore, a complicated prognosis (which is estimated to be guarded)."
The other report is equally daunting. For instance, it comes down hard on me for changing some of DD's meds without a doctors close supervision (we're not talking dangerous meds to fiddle with here - we're talking prevacid and zyrtec). Well, we make independent decisions about medication and are not ignorant people and I think that is our right. But no. The fact that we took her off those two meds one time each shows that I am not caring for DD medically very well at all. Oh and the biggie is that I lied to hospital docs about her immunization status after getting yelled at (literally) by a resident about the MMR vaccine. So I started saying she had had it. No big, I thought, she's not here for anything like that and I won't get yelled at. Everyone wins. I would do it differently if I had to do it again, but the forensic pediatrician makes it look like I'm crazy and out of touch with reality.
These two respected people have built a strong case out of things like that. Having to listen to it all and having to take every little thing and explain it is emotionally hard. As I said, a big part of where they are missing us, I think, is that we are just so different than most families. Who knows?
Either way, fighting it will be difficult when I am already feeling battered by all this. That's what we are leaning toward but all of that is why it isn't so simple. It's because it's not simple. As DH and I have said, we are guilty of some things. I did worry too much. She did get unnecessary ER visits (and Xrays) and maybe hospital admissions because of it. My fear made the reality seem scarier than it was, and it was life threateningly scary on occasion which just made the other times when it wasn't more scary. Those are real things that I did and that I dealt with in therapy before this even came up. But we are not accused of that. I am accused of neglect and abuse and pediatric condition falsification (I found out yesterday that that is what they are going with). Those things I am not guilty of. So it is hard to fight, in a way, when there was a kernel of truth to begin with and they have just blown it way up. For instance, homeschooling. No one has any concerns about my parenting overall as they have looked at the last years, only my handling of medical situations. So why have they gone there? It just doesn't make sense.
So that is a more exhaustive post about why fighting it will be hard. I have not left anything out, but I have perhaps simplified the case of the two professionals that CPS has hired to testify against me. So there you go.
These stories are exactly why there are many good loving parents out there who are terrified of taking their child to the ER when a genuine accident occurs. I myself got yelled at in the ER by a nurse who insisted my ds needed a tetanus shot just because he fell on a clean hardwood floor and cut his teeth through his lip- you mention your child is unvaxed and they treat your kid like they may have the plague. 
This is also the reason why a lot of women suffer in silence because they are afraid of being judged and misunderstood for common mental "disorders" such as PPD and anxiety.
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