OHhhhhh, I just HAVE to respond to you.
First of all... the most recent message I see from you is from Feb. 6, I think. How are things progressing?!?!?
I just finished reading the book "Do No Harm?" (McGill) It is a critical look at Munchausen by Proxy. Basically... there are a lot of stories out there that are very close to your experience. True disorders which confound the medical professionals, a mom who advocates strongly to have her child's needs met... an accusation of MBPS. I say accusation on purpose. First of all, interesting that it this now sits in your child's records, even after they have cleared you. Again... sounds like the stories I have just read. Ironically, MBPS is not a disorder of the child... it is an alleged disorder of the parent. And yet, there it sits... in your child's records. It is supposedly a psychiatric disorder, and yet... it isn't in the DSM. At least, I couldn't find it there... I will be looking that up again later.
At any rate, I am glad that part has been cleared up!
I do believe that it is the right of the parents to choose the method of education of their children, as long as it fits within the legal options. Is homeschooling legal in your state?
Second... your mental health situation has NO basis in determining whether or not your family may homeschool! Not their business.
The ONLY thing that they may hold on you... is whether or not you are abusing or neglecting your children. (homeschooling... even unschooling in most areas, is not considered neglect or abuse. If they have concerns about that, then they can keep an open file. If the entire concern was sick child possibly with mom "too concerned" about her, that really doesn't seem neglectful or abusive. If the only other concern is your anxiety... that again is NOT neglect or abuse! You have already admitted that things were rough for you in the past. The investigation is about NOW. If your family is functioning adequately, they have NO reason to keep an open file. I would also have concerns with MSBP in my child's records, without any substantiation. Perhaps a lawyer could help get that removed!
I agree with others who have suggested you obtain legal counsel! ABSOLUTELY! It would be my first priority... find the money! That would be what I would do!
I also have depression and anxiety, both quite well controlled. My girls were in public school until March of last year. They are 8 and 10 now... both have complex needs. My anxiety AND THEIRS is WAY better over the past year! They are recovering gradually from the damage which occurred as a result of being in public school. And they were in a pretty good situation all in all! Just the garden variety of pressure, bullying, peer competition, and all that stuff. Nothing really horrible!
Hospital staff felt that my older daughter needs to be in school in order to have "same age peer interaction on a daily basis" because she has anxiety! I have seen how her anxiety (and other challenges) manifest when she has "same age peer interaction on a daily basis" in a public school! I have seen how she is now becoming more skilled and confident in her interactions with children of all ages, and with adults. I thanked them for their opinions and asked for the research which they referred to (although they never named and specific research... it was just "research shows that kids like this do better... blah blah blah..." They never did give me the research information.
We will continue to homeschool for as long as it is in the best interests of my children... in OUR opinion! I wecome other professional opinions... but I need more than uneducated opinions before I make any changes. I have done enough research of my own to know what is working for my kids!
All the best to you guestmama! Let us know how things are going! I hope that there may be some small bit of my (rant) which may give you courage, strength, and hope!