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could 4 mo baby be refusing to bfeed?

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I've been posting recently about supply issues, DS sick with pneumonia (he just finished his antibiotics yesterday) and my own illness which I'm still battling. I'm barely getting out an ounce per pumping session now and even my breasts don't feel full anymore at all. They feel constantly empty. DS goes to daycare FT and usually nurses best in the middle of the night, but the last 2 times I've tried to breastfeed him, he literallly freaks out and arches away from me and of course, me trying to shove my breast into his mouth makes him more frustrated. He's always done fine both b-feeding and bottle feeding so no confusion there but I think that he now associates b-feeding with an upset stomach perhaps? Someone gave great insight here that even though he may be presenting as hungry, he refuses to latch because as he nurses, it hits his stomach which is already irritated by the antibiotic so in the end, he doesn't want to nurse after all (a binky always made him calm down). Now that the meds are over, I figured he'd be back to normal but now it's even worse.

I do feel awful that he freaks out at the breast now which forces me to try to pump more to bottle feed him. I'm down from 2 4-oz bottles of breast milk down to one, and now I can only give him 3 oz total a day. I b-fed DS #1 for a great 10 months, longer than I'd ever hoped, and I don't even think I'm going to get to 6 months with DS #2.

This now affects my decision not to vaxx because he's in ft day care and even Dr. Sears says that a formula-fed baby should be fully vaxx since he's not getting b-feeding benefits. I'm really so disappointed by this. I posted earlier about the fact that supplements haven't really helped me either (alfalfa, fenugreek, blessed thistle, flaxseed supplements).
post #2 of 4
Sounds like a nursing strike. Is there any chance he could have an ear infection or something else that is making nursing painful or uncomfortable?

Keep offering, Mama. Try in the shower or bath tub, with baby sitting upright, or even lying on top of you. Nursing strikes are hard, but often they can be overcome.
post #3 of 4
I agree with the pp, could be a nursing strike. When this happened to us, DD was sick with a cold and teething, which I think contributed to the strike. I took a bath with DD, and that helped. I also found that lying down in bed when she was tired and offering at that time was the best thing I could do.

Hopefully it won't last too long, and things will go back to normal. Good luck!
post #4 of 4
Pumping and daycare make it hard. Can you pump more frequently? Sounds like your breasts need more stimulation. Your DS may be frustrated because your breasts aren't very full and he's showing his preference for the ease of bottlefeeding. I would let him comfort suck (if he will) for as long as he will, along with the frequent pumping, this will signal to your body to make more milk. Also snuggling in bed at night (co-sleeping if possible), getting some skin-to-skin time, and smelling his scent will all cause prolactin to increase.

Sounds like your supply is dwindling, but since you nursed your other DC for so long, you should be able to get it back up with some hard effort. I also just battled low supply myself (because of tongue tie) so I know what a pain it can be! Hang in there!
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