I said it loud, because I'm so proud

[bestjobever]

So I was at a babyshower recently when the mom-to-be commented on how she was nervous about cleaning the newly circed penis. (she has two girls, this will be her first boy) The other moms were saying things to "put her mind at ease". Like they thought the belly button was worse... It's no big deal, etc. etc.

So I yelled out "My son is not circumsized!" Then I realized that I had yelled it... not really meaning to. So I said "I said it loud, because I'm so proud" and went on to tell the mom that she wouldn't have to worry about cleaning it if she left it alone. etc. etc.

Someone asked my why we decided against doing it. I told her I couldn't think of a reason to do it to his perfectly good penis. She kind of gave a look of "I hadn't thought of that". It still seems so automatic for so many people. That circumsizing is just something you do (like going to a hospital in the first place is mandatory or something) What kills me the most is that the mom-to-be's DH is from Europe, and UNCIRCED himself ! HELLO!

[Papai]

Originally Posted by bestjobever

So I was at a babyshower recently when the mom-to-be commented on how she was nervous about cleaning the newly circed penis. (she has two girls, this will be her first boy) The other moms were saying things to "put her mind at ease". Like they thought the belly button was worse... It's no big deal, etc. etc.

So I yelled out "My son is not circumsized!" Then I realized that I had yelled it... not really meaning to. So I said "I said it loud, because I'm so proud" and went on to tell the mom that she wouldn't have to worry about cleaning it if she left it alone. etc. etc.

Someone asked my why we decided against doing it. I told her I couldn't think of a reason to do it to his perfectly good penis. She kind of gave a look of "I hadn't thought of that". It still seems so automatic for so many people. That circumsizing is just something you do (like going to a hospital in the first place is mandatory or something) What kills me the most is that the mom-to-be's DH is from Europe, and UNCIRCED himself ! HELLO!

WHAT?! So why is she doing it and why is he going along with it???

[phrogger]

My ex is from Italy and originally wanted to circ my oldest son. He said he just thought it was what was needed to be done because he was American. Sad. I won that battle. So maybe the husband just didnt realize that he had a say so? I hope the mom changes her mind and keeps her boy intact.

[bandgeek]

LOL at yelling it. I get a little excitable sometimes too. I think you probably gave them ALL something to think about.

[Night_Nurse]

You could follow up in a week or so with an email. You could say "Thanks for inviting me to the shower, I had fun...I was just thinking about how you were asking about circ care and how I started yelling ...LOL...I hope you'll take a minute to check out these links on both intact care and circ care - some women on a website I visit were talking about them. I won't ask you again about it but if you have intact baby care questions, feel free to ask me".

These are some links:
circ care:
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t101500.asp
http://www.askdrsears.com/faq/az47.asp

intact care:
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet4.html
http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/peron1/
http://www.blissfulbirth.com/index.p...d=13&Itemid=10

[bestjobever]

Thanks for that nice list of websites. I did send her an e-mail just now, and hope she will take the time to educate herself.

[eepster]

Originally Posted by bestjobever

What kills me the most is that the mom-to-be's DH is from Europe, and UNCIRCED himself ! HELLO!

Some people just don't really know what it is. When my MIL had DH in the early 1970s, she had no clue what it really was. Though her and FIL are from China so no one in their family is circ'd they just went along with the "and now sign here." She had no idea what was involved till DH was brought back to her. (None of the other boys in the family got circ'd after that though, since they now knew what was going on.)

[LadyMage]

Originally Posted by eepster

Some people just don't really know what it is. When my MIL had DH in the early 1970s, she had no clue what it really was. Though her and FIL are from China so no one in their family is circ'd they just went along with the "and now sign here." She had no idea what was involved till DH was brought back to her. (None of the other boys in the family got circ'd after that though, since they now knew what was going on.)

I just wanted to say that my grandmother and grandfather had spoken to me about this- my father was born in the 60's. My grandmother told me that her Doctor came into the room after Daddy's birth and asked her if she 'wanted to make a little Hebrew out of him'. Well, she had no idea what that meant so she told him to do what he thought was best. When they brought Daddy to her that night, she told me she was positively horrified about that they had done to him! If she had known what 'little Hebrew' meant, she'd never have allowed it to happen! My grandfather told me he was sickened when my grandmother showed him. He is intact himself as a child of the 20's. My Dad has told them both that he wishes he wasn't circumcised and my brother wasn't circumcised. (Of course, my mother would have for the 'look' if it weren't for the brutality of the operation. He lucked out.)

[ElliesMomma]

Originally Posted by LadyMage

(Of course, my mother would have for the 'look' if it weren't for the brutality of the operation. He lucked out.)

what is up with people who think a circumcised penis is more attractive? especially on a baby. it looks "exposed" and possibly "erect," rather than an ordinary "functional" look of an intact penis...

[CookAMH]

Woohoo! Glad you used the opportunity to speak up! You never know the impact that will have.

[Greg B]

Way to go!

[Peacemamalove]

I think that is great! When something makes you so proud why not be loud and clear. I think it would be worse to be hush hush over it.

It doesn't surprise me anymore how automatic peoples thinking is.

[libranbutterfly]

I know that when I was PG with my first I never questioned circ. Of course it ended up being a girl, so it ended up fine, but if she had been a boy, she probably would have been circed just because. I have been arguing with DH since before Lexi was born that I did not want my son circed though

[jess_paez]

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

what is up with people who think a circumcised penis is more attractive? especially on a baby. it looks "exposed" and possibly "erect," rather than an ordinary "functional" look of an intact penis...

, since being with my dh (my first intact guy) I think a cirumcised penis is just 'not right'.