You know what even better than one kid? When you have two and your DH's life IS effected. DH used to say to me after we had DD, "do you mind if I go out for a bike ride?" and I would feel bad saying "yes, I do, I want some free time too." Now that we have two kids, he has one and I have the other. I bought him a kiddie seat for the bike, now he has no excuse not to take DD with him
I thought the first kid was the hardest for me. DH says no, #2 was the hardest. But then I realized, with #1 my life was impacted. By #2 I was already in the groove, I had given up everything I had to, I had gotten used to having a kid attached to me all the time, I had already adjusted my life to account for this. With #1 DH's life was impacted, but not so much. When #2 arrived he had to give up some things himself, call me mean, but I don't really feel all that bad
You are SO not the only one going though this, although it can feel that way. I have no friends who have my lifestyle. All my friends took a long maternity leave or are SAHMs. Me? With DD I was back at work the following week, with her with me. With DS, I had a little more time off, I took two weeks
(Thats just the price I pay to own a small company) Sometimes I wish I had more people around me who understand what it is like to be a Working Mom and to come home and do all the stuff SAHM's do as well. Because lets face it, just because I'm working all day, doesn't mean I can afford for someone else to do that stuff!