Originally Posted by BedHead
My dd did this when she was about that age, maybe a bit older. I bought some stuff specially for her, but she lasted about a month before she broke down and had bacon with us again. Maybe it was mean of me, but I just made sure to make some of her favorite meat dishes when she was around to smell them cooking and stuff.
Originally Posted by LizzyQ
I would have been very sad if my parents did this to me. It doesn't show respect or support at all.
I am trying to think what I would do. I think I would link her to those resources posted up earlier in the thread (she uses the computer I assume?), and let her try to navigate it herself while keeping an eye on her basic nutrition. It really isn't as hard as it used to be when I was first dabbling with veganism as a teen. There are many other sources of protien out there as well as the vitamins she will need. Since she is close to getting periods maybe get her hematocrit checked after she establishes a routine and finds acceptable food sources she enjoys (admit it, we all tend to eat the same things over and over for the majority of out meals, yah?).
I like a lot of the advice in this thread. I would support her but try not to make it like OMG this huge ordeal, just be there for her if she needs help figuring something out, yk?
You said she doesn't like rice milk? How did she like the Silk? My son prefers Silk to regular milk anyway. Myself, I'm just not a big milk drinker. I don't do Silk/soy, rice, almond, any of that (except for horchata- yum) I drink mostly water. I just don't crave anything milky.
Cooking for two diets is a lot of work (though I saw some good advice about trying to accomodate both by putting part of the meal aside before adding the animal sources). This also might be a great opportunity for her to start learning to be an excellent vegan cook.
|-I have no idea where she is going to get the iron, calcium, B12, and the protein she needs. I have no idea what it will do to her, physically, if she does not get the nutrients she needs.
B12- First, encourage her not to supplement with the B12 from spirulina or algae, it doesn't function in the human body like regular B12 and can lead to false B12 levels if she ever has bloodwork done to check it.
B12 (the kind we need) is made by bacteria, if she is not ethically opposed to that, getting her B12 requirement should be easy through supplementation in her food. There is also a synthetic form. The B12 should be taken by food source (as an additive). To put it simply, it needs to go through the mouth first to be effectively absorbed and utilized by the body. Luckily B12 stays in the body a long time so it is not something she will have to be thinking about often, and deficiency is rare. Unless she is eschewing all vitamin enriched food, which honestly, it's hard to do in the first place and she is 11, she is going to want some of those yummy vegan protein bars!
Calcium and iron can certainly be found in vegan food sources. Look at a website or book with her to determine how she might get enough of these vitamins/minerals in her diet. But it can be hard. (I know this from personal experience) I am sure you know you can easily get these to her by supplementation.
I think you'll do great mama!
I can't believe how long winded I am right now, sorry about the novel, I am usually quite short. But I am amped on caffeine, home alone, and I vividly remember going through this myself when my mother was worried about my children and me eating a vegan diet.