She is not Ok with "traces of". She feels that if she has a bit of milk or eggs, she might as well go full throttle (or that it is a slippery slope to full throttle).
She has been a rigid lavo-oct vegetarians. Once upon a time I was vegetarian, but I did not concern myself with things like rennet, gelatin, or whether the sugar was passed through bones. She does. I have also spoken with her about how reducing items may be more realistic than complete avoidance - no dice.
I am not sure whether this desire to completely avoid any traces of animal procducts is because she is young and things are quite black and white (it may have a tsp of milk in a huge batch and is therefore unacceptable) or if it is part of her personality. I do confess the rigidity of her beliefs do concern me, but that may be another post. I am trying to stay positive, and know it is very possible that going vegan, (which from the outside seems a restricted diet) may actually force her to eat a more varied diet to pacify her mothers concerns about nutritional requirements, lol.
We are starting at the beginning and we will see where the journey goes....
i'm glad you're being cautiously supportive... i know it must be hard for you. being vegan at such a young age can be an exhausting endeavour... your food supply is essentially controlled by other people, and it can be hard to learn how to balance your pasionate views with still being social/polite. a lot of young vegans and vegetarians get burnt out just because it is hard to constantly be vigilant about something that is so important to you, while other people seem so oblivious... gosh... it's hard as an adult too, but at least i can retreat into my happy vegan bubble. i'd encourage you to continue to encourage her. even if it's not a cause you personally believe in, a young person showing such dedication and caring for her fellow living creatures can only be a good thing!