Left my husband a few days ago...need advice

[Barefoot~Baker]

I've been holding on for years with an alcoholic/emotionally abusive husband but it's the end. I've taken the kids to my parents' house and have been back and forth, mainly because of work...

We have a business together, and I really need advice on this. I know I need a lawyer but I have almost $0. The corp is filed in my name, but the equipment was purchased by him. It's in our house which is in both our names.

I only told him today that I do want a divorce. I don't know what sort of plan he's going to come up with, but I have 3 kids and I want to come back to the house and run the business myself.

He's been non-functioning and even if he was, the business can't survive without me. I can run it by myself, but not vice-versa.

Please give me advice, I don't know what the heck to do

[Halfasianmomma]

First off *hugs*...what a difficult situation you're dealing with.

Second, have you considered Al-Anon for yourself? Dealing with an alcoholic is a very difficult thing and you may need some specialized support. The local Al-Anon group in your area may also be able to give you some pointers for support for your children (depending on their age, they could benefit from Al-Ateen). I highly recommend going to a face to face meeting, or even an online meeting if you cannot make the f2f ones:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html
http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Also, this is a site I am active on that I should you would greatly benefit from:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/

Third, if you can't afford a lawyer, could you look into at least getting a free phone consultation from one, especially with regards to your business and your house. There's all sorts of other things to think about (alimony, child support, etc) that a lawyer from your geographical area can clear up with you. Also, perhaps you qualify for legal aid?

I completely sympathize with you, having just left a functional alcoholic myself last October. I'm glad you have the support of your family; don't hesitate to reach out for support anywhere else you can get it (al-anon, counselling, friends, etC).

[zonapellucida]

I would check with legal aid too, they help with divorce.....

[momof4peppers]

I'm sorry to see you here. Pearl Jam has a new song called "Just Breathe" which has become my new favorite song (and mantra).

Sending you peace.