how do you stay AP with your older child while AP-ing your baby?

[llwr]

So I'm wondering you you stay attached to your older child when you're APing your baby. DD1 is almost 3, and she's really been fabulous, but it's so hard to give her real time when I'm taking care of the baby (4 mos) all day.

I try to give her some time when DD2 naps in her crib for the first nap, but it's usually a short nap.

I wear DD2 for her long mid-day nap, and for her cat-nap DD1 usually plays with DH while I finish dinner.

I get to read books alone with her before bed, but that's about it.

She likes time with her sis and me together, but I wish I could give her more of her own.

[Xerxella]

It's hard trying to keep paying attention to your toddler while meeting the demands of the baby. But, you just do your best. There's no perfect answer. I'm sure my 2nd did not get held as much as my first, but she also seems to be WAY more adventurous and more likely to want to check in with mom and then be put down to explore. 4 months sound like a good age to start doing joint floor time. Cars, ball, dolls, whatever can be played while the babies watches from this new perspective of tummy time. A backpack style carrier might also be helpful. Good luck. Maybe other people have other ideas, too.