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post #21 of 144
Once I can figure out how I want the kids' room officially set up, I'm doing rain gutter shelves in there, so I'm a big fan of that. See if you have a Habitat for Humanity reStore...they sell building supplies and things like doors and other stuff for cheaper than the home improvement stores. That's going to be my first stop in looking for gutters.

As for us - I did my driving test with the post office yesterday, and spent another two hours there filling out paperwork and getting cleared by the nurse. I start training next week, for the entire week, and then one day the following week, with one test I have to pass to be officially official, followed by another three days of training somewhere down the line because I'm considered a "rural" carrier, but the HR director said that I can technically start working before I do those three days of training. 40 hours of training in a week will be a nice shot in the arm in terms of income.

Here's my question, for those of you who have been through this before. I know that I have to notify DHS within 10 days of beginning a new job, but I won't normally be working full-time, I just happen to have one full-time week of training (so that won't be a normal income). How do they figure out how to adjust all of your benefits if you don't have solid hours every week? I'm only going to be doing relief work, so I will have at least one, maybe two official days of work, and the other four days I am 'on call' in case someone gets sick, takes a day off, whatever. Are they going to refigure my benefits based on that first week of training? Do I have to call them every week that my hours change?
post #22 of 144


whoo hoo! YES! YES! YES!

LOL, YES I'M HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!! GOT FANTASTIC NEWS TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!
post #23 of 144
You must get back here and inform us, lady!

I've already done a fair bit of rearranging in my dd's room. I am going to get or fancy up a focal piece of art for one wall, but otherwise it's bright and cheery and organized, and she has loads of room to play.

A little odd, but I'm going to be putting a chest freezer in there. We really need one since we tend to stockpile, but I have a small apartment freezer and no room in my galley kitchen. I know that when the time comes I'll probably have to get a baby lock but it's worth it to take advantage of deals. I made sure it wouldn't interfere in her space, and they'll still be room for number two when that time comes, so I'm pretty happy.
post #24 of 144
So far I am not likeing Febuary very much Monday I left my diaper bag on the front seat of the car while ds1 had tennis class & when we came back someone had smashed the window & stolen my bag with my wallet in it. I never thought anyone would bother a diaper bag so I never worried too much. I spent 3 hours at the DMV getting a new license & 1 1/2 hours getting a new food stamps card. They managed to spend $525 with an account that only had $25 in it. B of A thought they were going to make some money on overdraft fees but instead they just ate $525. Idiots!

Then yesterday we finally met with a realtor to list the house for short sale. We were thinking it would take months to sell & we'd be here til atleast summer. No, it seems as thought houses are getting offers in about 2-3 weeks lately. I am so not ready to move!!! Who is going to rent to people with completely trashed credit & no verifiable income??? DH might still be getting unemployment at that point so that would be helpful, but otherwise he will be a commission based real estate agent. I am trying really hard not to freak out over this, but it isn't working very well.

Satori: That isn't fair!! You must share your happiness! Tell us, tell us!!!
post #25 of 144
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Satori: That isn't fair!! You must share your happiness! Tell us, tell us!!!
lol, dd's SSI got approved on the 1st try and now we'll be getting 7 months back pay

More wonderful news today the video card on my desktop bit the dust and my car had to be towed to the shop after stranding me on the side of the road. Tow truck driver thinks I broke the timing belt That car has been a headache the entire time I've had it since I got it back in July! I know what that 7 months back pay is going on At least I still have a positive attitude
post #26 of 144
May I join this thread, my Fiance and I are considered low income, and I really need support as I am super stressed because he wants to spend all this money we don't have saving up for a house we probably can't afford. BLAH I just need a supportive place to vent.
post #27 of 144
Sweetmama26: Welcome! Vent away!

Satori: That is awesome!!! Sorry you are going to have to spend so much of it on the car.

My anxiety/panic is back I really have NOT missed that downding feeling as the anxiety rises up & there is nothing I can do to stop it. Oh well, atleast I have some copeing methods now. The sale sign is up in front of the house now. Everytime I see it is cringe. It feels so real now. Atleast that means it will all be over soon I guess.

We had a yard sale today which was great. We got rid of alot of stuff & made a little money in the process. Sometimes it is just so hard to let stuff go for so cheap thought. I sold my full size co-sleeper with all the accessories & some sheets for $20!!! Atleast it is out of the garage & is 1 less thing to worry about.
post #28 of 144
Thanks for the welcome Maci! I'm just frustrated because its either he stops spending money on HIM and save up so we can find a house we can comfortably live in. Or not get a house that's my thing, he doesn't want either
post #29 of 144
Hello, everyone
HAPPY V-DAY! (bah humbug-I know, wrong holiday)
The kids let me sleep till 8:30am this morning (woohoo) then they each gave me one of Princess valentines that Mikki got for school.
post #30 of 144
Well this VDAY officially sucks, my DF decided to go out with his friends last night and didn't amble his ass back in here until ohhhhh 3:45 or so then complained when ds woke us up He said he was gonna make me breakfast in bed, yeah ok that didn't happen and I'm still waiting, he's still sleeping. I am about ready to freak on him because its not my fault he decided to stay out all night and I'm glad I get to be up enjoying the day by myself! ARGH
post #31 of 144
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Well this VDAY officially sucks, my DF decided to go out with his friends last night and didn't amble his ass back in here until ohhhhh 3:45 or so then complained when ds woke us up He said he was gonna make me breakfast in bed, yeah ok that didn't happen and I'm still waiting, he's still sleeping. I am about ready to freak on him because its not my fault he decided to stay out all night and I'm glad I get to be up enjoying the day by myself! ARGH
awww that sucks. I'm at work and have been calling my bf every five minutes to make sure he's still awake since ds is up and running around. Last time I called he had ds shut up in the bedroom with him watching cartoons so he could sleep.

I can't be too mad thought because he worked until 3 AM this morning and then was tossing and turning in bed for hours when he came home. I don't think he fell asleep until 7 or so. And you know how men are.....MUST have their sleep or they can't function. Funny how that rule doesn't apply to moms
post #32 of 144
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Well this VDAY officially sucks, my DF decided to go out with his friends last night and didn't amble his ass back in here until ohhhhh 3:45 or so then complained when ds woke us up He said he was gonna make me breakfast in bed, yeah ok that didn't happen and I'm still waiting, he's still sleeping. I am about ready to freak on him because its not my fault he decided to stay out all night and I'm glad I get to be up enjoying the day by myself! ARGH
maybe he will make it up to you?
post #33 of 144
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awww that sucks. I'm at work and have been calling my bf every five minutes to make sure he's still awake since ds is up and running around. Last time I called he had ds shut up in the bedroom with him watching cartoons so he could sleep.

I can't be too mad thought because he worked until 3 AM this morning and then was tossing and turning in bed for hours when he came home. I don't think he fell asleep until 7 or so. And you know how men are.....MUST have their sleep or they can't function. Funny how that rule doesn't apply to moms
You've never done that? I have quite a few times after a long/late night but then I don't have a partner to step in and help me make up the sleep later. At least he put on something to entertain him while he lightly dozes (assuming here) in the same room. Not trying to dis you, just saying its a pretty common thing to do among the single mama set, and a few married ones I know too.. Its not like the kid has free roam of the house while he's passed out cold ya know?
post #34 of 144
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Hello, everyone
HAPPY V-DAY! (bah humbug-I know, wrong holiday)
The kids let me sleep till 8:30am this morning (woohoo) then they each gave me one of Princess valentines that Mikki got for school.
I got to sleep until 8:30 too, aint it wonderful? I woke up to kisses and cuddles and didn't have to make the kids breakfast sigh... why can't all mornings be this nice?
post #35 of 144
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You've never done that? I have quite a few times after a long/late night but then I don't have a partner to step in and help me make up the sleep later. At least he put on something to entertain him while he lightly dozes (assuming here) in the same room. Not trying to dis you, just saying its a pretty common thing to do among the single mama set, and a few married ones I know too.. Its not like the kid has free roam of the house while he's passed out cold ya know?
That's what I'm worried about...I had to call his name several times as I was leaving before he responded. I know I shouldn't be worried; he always takes excellent care of ds, and I'm not anti-TV or anything. I just can't help worrying that ds will get into something while he's sleeping. He was REALLY tired. I feel bad for him because he has to keep ds until he goes to work at 4, and being that it's valentines day he will probably be stuck at work until 2-3 AM again. I don't actually get off until 4, so he is bringing ds up to my job and we have to switch off here so that he can make it to work on time. Poor guy. You're totally right.

It's my weakness..... I need to quit micromanaging.
post #36 of 144
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It's my weakness..... I need to quit micromanaging.
Unless its a major health and safety issue I agree, just because he doesn't do it your way doesn't mean his way is any less valid and he needs sleep too. Can you find a sitter for days like this? It can't be safe for him to be working or driving in such a sleep deprived state if he's working all night then expected to watch an awake child all day then go back to work at night. I mean really, when can he sleep? The current set up doesn't seem to be working all that well for your DH. You at least have the chance to get some sleep at night while your child is asleep even if its broken sleep, its not like your having to stay awake enough to make sure there not trying to burn down the house or play with knives.
post #37 of 144
Waiting2bemommy, I hate to admit it, but I've done that before myself Especially when I'm sick, and they decide on that ONE morning to wake up Super early . DS2 knew how to run the VCR at a young age
post #38 of 144
You guys are so right. I'm glad I didn't say anything snarky to him this morning I would be feeling really bad. He is usually so good too about doing housework and stuff while I'm at work and he's home with ds. We have found a preschool/daycare situation for ds 3x a week from 8-3 which will be a tremendous help but we have to be able to afford it first. In the meantime we are stuck working opposite shifts and relying on one friend and my mother whenever our shifts overlap. I already feel so guilty because I feel like I'm always leaving ds. I'm at work probably 6 days a week and so is SO, but what can we do? He's looking for a second job and I'm trying to find a different job that pays more, plus I'm trying to pick up some house cleaning jobs on the side.

I got a bunch of bank envelopes and made a list of our expenses. I'm hoping we will be able to really see where my BF's tip money is going and harness our spending better by putting the cash directly into envelopes labeled with different purposes. I hope it works.
post #39 of 144
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You guys are so right. I'm glad I didn't say anything snarky to him this morning I would be feeling really bad. He is usually so good too about doing housework and stuff while I'm at work and he's home with ds. We have found a preschool/daycare situation for ds 3x a week from 8-3 which will be a tremendous help but we have to be able to afford it first. In the meantime we are stuck working opposite shifts and relying on one friend and my mother whenever our shifts overlap. I already feel so guilty because I feel like I'm always leaving ds. I'm at work probably 6 days a week and so is SO, but what can we do? He's looking for a second job and I'm trying to find a different job that pays more, plus I'm trying to pick up some house cleaning jobs on the side.

I got a bunch of bank envelopes and made a list of our expenses. I'm hoping we will be able to really see where my BF's tip money is going and harness our spending better by putting the cash directly into envelopes labeled with different purposes. I hope it works.
Would it help to post your expenses/budget and we can help you figure it out? It may be cheaper in the end for one of you not to work.
post #40 of 144
He didn't make it up to me and was a complete jerk the rest of the day, we only ended up fighting all day so my VDAY was a complete bust and one of the worst I've ever had!
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