Well that's a broad question.
It depends on what parts of sexuality.
For sexual assault survivors my go to books are: The Survivor's Guide to Sex
, The Courage To Heal
, Ghosts in the Bedroom
, and The Sexual Healing Journal
. The first of the three is really complete on how how to explore sexual situations when you have a lot of triggers. The second of the three is not specifically about sex, per se, but I think anyone with any sexual assault history should consider it a mandatory read; there is a lot in this book that will help you grow as a person and your sexuality is part of your personhood. The third is aimed primarily at incest survivors, but it is broadly applicable to anyone who has been molested by someone who was close to the family/a constant presence in your life growing up. It's very intense for all that it is very short. The fourth book is another workbook that helps you go through the very intense feelings around sexual assault. If you are a sexual assault survivor, and 1/6 women in the US are, I feel that in order to move on with your life you should look at how you have been changed by these experiences rather than try to ignore it and 'get on with your life'. If you don't really deal with things then you will spend your whole life missing out on things you don't even realize exist.
For sexuality as a broader more academic subject I recommend books of a few different types. There are a few feminist books that include powerful work towards accepting female sexuality as healthy but they are not 'sexuality' books per se, such as Slut! Growing Up Female With a Bad Reputation
which looks at things like how girls are shamed with the mere idea of being sexual and how that damages us. Cunt: a declaration of independence
is a lot more political than I generally recommend (she is very radical) but this book is really amazing at looking at how women have been treated historically and how sexuality has been used as an oppressive tool. That's just neat. I also think that anyone who is interested in sexuality should read about relationships because unless you are talking about asexual people (who exist but they are a very small minority) you are going to deal with other people. Aching for Love
, Undefended Love
, and Codependent No More
. It's been my experience that even relationships that are pretty good and pretty healthy can still benefit from people learning more about boundaries, limits, and healthy desires.
For parents I hands down recommend Everything you never wanted your kids to know about sex (but were afraid they'd ask)
. It's really good and goes through the development of sexuality from birth all the way through adulthood.
All of these books can be found through Amazon.
I am shamefully undereducated in the areas of sexuality with disabilities, gender issues in sexuality (transgender/transsexual), and I have done very little research into minority sexual issues--they exist and I occasionally hear about them in passing but I don't know enough to speak well about them. (The intersection of racism, classism, and sexism all present unique problems I have never faced as a white woman so I try to keep my mouth shut in areas where my ignorance could be hurtful.)
If you are interested in stuff about kinky sexuality you should PM me. I am pretty sure getting into the specifics about what I recommend there would be pushing the UA to the breaking point.
Originally Posted by soul76
What books do you like or recommend on sexuality?