I would take out appropriately valued life insurance policies on myself and my DH and pay the first year's premium up front.
I would put $10,000 in savings for an emergency fund.
I would put the other ~$89k on the debt and then spend the next [x period of time] paying off the remaining $10k of debt.
At that point, you would be debt free with a nice emergency cushion which would hopefully free up enough space in your budget to start saving for your goals - real estate, retirement, self-sustainability, maybe all of the above. That extra space in your budget should also allow you to afford the continuing premiums on the life insurance plans.
I would put $10,000 in savings for an emergency fund.
I would put the other ~$89k on the debt and then spend the next [x period of time] paying off the remaining $10k of debt.
At that point, you would be debt free with a nice emergency cushion which would hopefully free up enough space in your budget to start saving for your goals - real estate, retirement, self-sustainability, maybe all of the above. That extra space in your budget should also allow you to afford the continuing premiums on the life insurance plans.









$$ is the only reason we are not right now- ds has autism and dp's insurance won't cover autism related services. As long as we aren't married then the government doesn't take dp's income into account for ds's medicaid (because dp isn't the bio-dad). Once we get married then they take dp's income into account and ds looses his medicaid and, thus, all his therapy. But with 100,000 and some wise investing, we would be able to afford his therapy so we would happily get married
