I have no idea what to do.
DD1 was already high-needs, etc, before DD2 was born (a month ago). She is 100x worse now and I can't take it.
My day usually starts about 3 hours after the last one ended. I'll finally succeed in nursing the baby to sleep after midnight (after nursing the toddler to sleep around 10), and creep into bed. Later the baby wakes to nurse. I roll over to nurse her. DD1 invariably wakes up (she had some kind of remote boob sensing device implanted for sure) and demands that I nurse her too. I can't nurse them at the same time, it makes me feel crazy and trapped, it makes me want to rip her off and run away. I tell her to wait, she has a screaming meltdown (screaming NO over and over, pulling at my shirt, hitting me, throwing herself down on the floor/bed repeatedly, etc), and now EVERYONE is up. She has been nightweaned and STTN for six months!
Eventually I nurse her, once the baby is done, because I am seriously sleep deprived and I can't take the screaming. I don't want to, though, because I feel like I'm rewarding her for throwing a fit. It's the only way to stop it though. If I don't she will rage for an hour and I can't mentally deal with that much screaming and hitting, not to mention that she's waking the baby too ....
This repeats at least a dozen times throughout the day. She wants nothing to do with me when I'm not nursing the baby. She wants to watch TV or color by herself. As soon as a boob is out though, BAM, she's right there scratching at my chest and screaming MILK MILK MILK NOW.
I know she's very little, but if she screams every time I nurse the baby, she is NEVER going to get to nurse because she's making it impossible for the baby to get/stay asleep! She needs to learn to WAIT. These meltdowns are waking the baby and making it impossible for me to get any sleep. All three of us are just getting more and more sleep-deprived.
DD1 was already high-needs, etc, before DD2 was born (a month ago). She is 100x worse now and I can't take it.
My day usually starts about 3 hours after the last one ended. I'll finally succeed in nursing the baby to sleep after midnight (after nursing the toddler to sleep around 10), and creep into bed. Later the baby wakes to nurse. I roll over to nurse her. DD1 invariably wakes up (she had some kind of remote boob sensing device implanted for sure) and demands that I nurse her too. I can't nurse them at the same time, it makes me feel crazy and trapped, it makes me want to rip her off and run away. I tell her to wait, she has a screaming meltdown (screaming NO over and over, pulling at my shirt, hitting me, throwing herself down on the floor/bed repeatedly, etc), and now EVERYONE is up. She has been nightweaned and STTN for six months!
Eventually I nurse her, once the baby is done, because I am seriously sleep deprived and I can't take the screaming. I don't want to, though, because I feel like I'm rewarding her for throwing a fit. It's the only way to stop it though. If I don't she will rage for an hour and I can't mentally deal with that much screaming and hitting, not to mention that she's waking the baby too ....
This repeats at least a dozen times throughout the day. She wants nothing to do with me when I'm not nursing the baby. She wants to watch TV or color by herself. As soon as a boob is out though, BAM, she's right there scratching at my chest and screaming MILK MILK MILK NOW.
I know she's very little, but if she screams every time I nurse the baby, she is NEVER going to get to nurse because she's making it impossible for the baby to get/stay asleep! She needs to learn to WAIT. These meltdowns are waking the baby and making it impossible for me to get any sleep. All three of us are just getting more and more sleep-deprived.
