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Should I be concerned about his development...

post #1 of 9
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... cause I'm not really, but we have a check up coming up and I know his doctor will be and I want to know how to respond.

13 month old ds, is still breastfed on the demand, and eats a ton during the day but he has no interest in feeding himself in any way shape or form. Nor will he accept food from any utensil, he will only eat table food if he is finger fed. he also has never drank from a cup or sippy cup, and is completly uninterested and refuses to let bring one anywhere near his mouth, nor will he do it himself. as a general rule though he very very rarely since birth has put anything in his mouth other than his hand. Oh and he also showed no interest in food till his teeth came in at about 10 months.

Another potential concern is that he really doesn't use any words yet. he sometimes walks towards me and says mama, but i can' tell for sure if he means since it comes so sporadically. he used to say "hi" in context at about 8 monthes but when he started crawling. He does use jargon a lot and "talks" to us a lot.

He doesn't yet wave, but he never really sees it done either. And he points to things that he likes or is inntersted in, but i think he does that for himself and not to communicate at all.


I personally am not worried about any of these things yet, i think they will resolve in time. Really what concerns me the most is the eating/ drinking, cause i have not personally met another babay that does that. But as far as speech and communication goes, kids the family tend to be on the slower side and then just have a speech explosion. dss didn't only said a few words till nearly four and then almost overnight started speaking in full out sentences.

I know that my doctor will be concerned though, cause he was very concerned that ds didn't have a pincer grasp at his 9 month check up. Just wondering if he is over worrying or am i underconcerned.
post #2 of 9
Does he not have a pincer grasp at all, like even to pick up toys and things, or is it just that he doesn't want to use it to feed himself yet?

If he didn't have a pincer grasp at all, even when trying to pick up little things (like beads or buttons or crayons on the floor and such), then I'd definitely be concerned. But if it's just that he's not using it at mealtimes, I'd be more inclined to try and just encourage that more.
post #3 of 9
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He does have a perfect pincer grasp now which he uses to pick up pieces of paper, beads crumbs, but we don't see it too often. He didn't have it nine months though.

But he won't food in his mouth at all. he's much more interested in poking, smashing and throwing his food.
post #4 of 9
Can he understand concepts? If you ask him to pick up the ball, will he do it?

Delayed solids isn't that alarming. It sounds as if he could just be comfortable with the ease of being fed. I wonder what would happen if you simply refused to keep feeding him and left the food in front of him?

Do you mean his behavior/speech regressed at 8 months? Can you pinpoint anything that happened during that time frame?
post #5 of 9
As for talking with your doctor, how about asking him what medical conditions he's concerned with?

As for my own take on your presentation of your ds:
Was your dss resistant to self-feeding and avoid sticking things in his own mouth too? How did dss try communicating before he started talking at age 4?

Does your ds handle chewing okay?

Not wanting things in his mouth other than food is the part that's making me think that I'd get him evaluated. Because it sounds sort of like a form of oral aversion which can need to be addressed with occupational therapy for some kids and if that is the case the sooner the OT got started the faster it'd be successful and done. Since EI is free and not unpleasant for kids, I'd go ahead and do it just because the stuff you shared all seems to be related. One thing and not the others and I wouldn't bother with EI, but taken as a whole the picture you paint of your ds is that it'd be better safe than sorry.
post #6 of 9
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He does seem to understand much of what we say to him. Thinks like come here,give me a hug, give me (whatever he's holding), clap your hands, etc. Simple things like that.


sapphire chan

I don't think dss was resistant to self feeding, i met him at age two but i've seen pictures of him at ds's age holding food to his mouth.

Ds has no problems with chewing other than only having 4 teeth, and no problems with texture either. He eats everything we do. No problems with handling chunks of food either, but the sight of a spoon or fork makes him turn away instantly.

I actually did tell the doctor at our last check up that I was concerned about how he never explored things with his mouth like most babies i've know, but he brushed me off and wasn't at all concerned about it. I don't know much about oral aversions and will do some research on it.
post #7 of 9
I'm curious about this oral aversion topic, too, and what it could imply. None of my siblings mouthed things. We were never a 'baby safe' house growing up. And DD is the same way. But she does love food at least.
post #8 of 9
ah good, the update makes me not concerned. If he were really having that problem he wouldn't like real solids at all.

silly question, do you ever just hold him in your lap while you eat? Asking because I have known a couple kids who hate eating in a high chair.
post #9 of 9
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
ah good, the update makes me not concerned. If he were really having that problem he wouldn't like real solids at all.

silly question, do you ever just hold him in your lap while you eat? Asking because I have known a couple kids who hate eating in a high chair.
Dh and i actually do this most of the time at meals. he doesn't tolerate the high chair for very long. I let him grab off my plate too, but he will just poke at the food, smush it around and throw it on the floor. But if i don't feed him, he throws a little mini tantrum.
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