In hospital with infant, his father walked out on us - Page 2

[Bad Mama Jama]

i hope that all goes well. use whatever resources you can find and the hospital social worker would probably be a good place to start. i agree that this is an abusive situation.

[Kim919]

Thank god he doesn't want anything to do with you. He sounds like he isn't someone you should want anything to do with. If it was me I would let him go and never speak to him again or try to make any contact, request, support, etc.

Your older children's father sounds like a good friend, and sense you obviously aren't on your feet that sounds like the best place for you to be. Small bedroom's aren't the worst thing in life. I would rather be in a small bedroom in the home of a friend with all of my children around me then separated from my kids in a huge house and under the thumb of a jerk.

Perhaps you could very gently see if you could get him to terminate his parental rights so that you don't have to worry later on about him coming back to haunt you.

eek out some assistance programs, if you know where to look there is help out there.

[littlecappy2010]

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[DaughterOfKali]

I am so sorry for what you are going through.

[justmama]

looks like you are on the right path for finding some help but I wanted to gently suggest documenting the father's behavior. I KNOW you have a ton on your plate right now. I do. I have two former NICU grads so I know the stress and heartbreak being a single parent to a baby in the nicu. It was the most awful time in my life having my youngest in the nicu and being single and having two older kids at home to deal with. BUT please take 2 minutes per day to scribble down his actions maybe while you are feeding your son or snuggling him to sleep. Keeping a log of the behavior will only help you in court. I have a log of every day for the past 10 years regarding my oldest daughter's father since he skipped out on us and was erratic in visits. It takes some time to remember to do it daily but once it's routine you'll have a notebook by the phone and it will be second-nature and you will protect yourself and your son. Someone who can walk out on their child in the hospital is capable of ANYTHING.

Stay strong, you are in the right direction. Remember that the squeaky wheel gets the grease and DHS requires that you stay on top of them constantly most times. You deserve that help. Don't let them brush you off.

[littlecappy2010]

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[Theia]

Yay! I am so happy that you've got some good prospects. I agree with the previous posters about keeping a log. Keep enjoying your DS, you are very strong.