My HSed DD is not weird--she is very socially intuitive, good at making friends, speaks well to people of all ages, and expresses herself well. She is well-behaved, easy to take places, and enjoys meeting new people. I get fabulous feedback from people about her all the time. She is just a pleasure to be around (usually
But, I can see how she could be boggled right now in large, unsupervised, same-age social groups. I've seen a bit of this in a few situations she's found herself in. She really doesn't "get" why kids would be mean to each other or make fun of people. She hasn't yet been forced to develop the coping strategies that most kids in school have to--how to walk that line of "how-to-not-get-picked-on-but-yet-not-pick-on-people". And for that, I am very thankful. She is too young, at age 6, to have to deal with the "mean girl" situations many of our same-age friends are having to in school. Those situations are ones that happen rarely outside of school, and she will have time to figure those out when she's had time to develop herself in a way that she likes. She is able to follow her own interests without worry that they are not cool enough interests for the other girls at school. I love seeing her shape herself instead of being shaped by kid group-think.
But, to some school-survival-socialized kids, it may seem weird that she likes Star Wars so much, or that she doesn't know what to do when kids are excluding someone.
My 4-yo DS would be weird anywhere, I think. He has ADHD, and is a very internal person on top of that. He is sweet, and people like him, but in a group, he's the one playing Legos by himself instead of running and chasing with the other kids. When he does chase with them, he spirals out-of-control and is likely to crash into people in his own special clueless way. But, though his behavior is something that would make him seem unusual as a homeschooler, he would be unusual at school, too. But at home, he will have the opportunity to be very successful, and come through it with a nice, healthy, high self-esteem.